I'm currently struggling if I should tell her (she knows that I have mental health issues but nothing exactly). On the one hand I think she's really supportive and understanding, on the other hand I'm not sure if it would just be a compulsions (confessing - which I used to do a lot) and I don't want that she feels insecure.
i’m not diagnosed with rOCD but seeing other people fighting with the same thing as i do makes my much more calmer. Mainly, personally i had an urge to tell my bf immediately after having my first intrusive thought about rightness and certainty of our relationship. and right now i have that urge to tell him because i feel relieved when i know that he knows what going on in my head. i think that you should tell her you will feel much better believe me. But you need to be careful how you will tell her about your problem. i suggest to go on google an show her website called “awaken into love”. everything about rOCD is written there… all of the thoughts, compulsions, rOCD cycle,… you can even download rOCD checklist where are written few of the intrusive thoughts and answers on them.
Maybe try telling her by having her read up on it first? That way she can get a better understanding of what you're going through and be able to tell that it's NOT something you yourself are thinking, feeling, etc.
Is the anxiety driving you to tell her? Like an intense urge? If not, it seems appropriate to tell her. My husband knows, but I do have to be careful about overstating.
I have been struggling with rocd and I have not told my partner about it . Even though sometimes I just wanna give up and confess everything I pick myself up and don’t do it . In all honesty I don’t know if I want him to know . I feel like if I did tell him it would just break his heart and I’d never want that for him . No Matter how much our family and friends can tell us they understand I don’t think they do. Only us who have actually experienced rocd can truly understand with no judgment. I’m hopeful that I’ll get better and if I do tell him I’m afraid that it’ll ruin everything. My regular talk therapist said it would be a great idea to bring him in and talk about how anxiety and depression affects my life and what he can do to help. Nothing I’m not comfortable with sharing will come out during the session and I think it’s very much needed . And I must add that I could be wrong by not letting my partner know but this is what’s working for me now .
You are right that nobody can understand if they don’t have this illness. And if that is working for you now, fine! Especially if telling is a compulsion. The flip side is if you explain it as an illness he may be able to support you. The decision is ultimately yours and there isn’t an obvious right or wrong answer!
Keep going! You can do it!
if you wanna tell her because you want her to be aware in order to understand or help you better, i think that’d be fine and you can go for it! if you wanna tell her because you feel guilty or anxious that you haven’t told her, that’s probably a compulsion. and yeah, i get not wanting to make her feel insecure, if you decide to tell her you could maybe also tell her that ocd latches onto the things that are important to us which is why it latched onto your relationship?
i have ti said that i am truly blessed for having such a supportive bf next to me. i “struggle” wit anxious attachment style and my relationship with him is pretty honest and we have great communication so i had an urge to tell him honestly and he said that everything will be fine and that he will always be by my side no matter what. i told it to him and my sister about it cause i am the most attached to them. if you feel uncomfortable telling him i think that if you want to get rid of your rOCD need to tell someone you care the most. i believe he loves you and that will understand. just sit with that uncomfortable feelings and be honest. your and our problem is not about our spouses it is about us.
My husband knows. I kept it from him for a long time, but it made our relationship worse because I was avoiding him and getting more and more depressed.
Has anyone told their s/o about their soocd or rocd? I don't really want to tell my boyfriend details about what I struggle with because I don't want him to feel insecure or inadequate but I also know he is curious about what I mean when I have OCD because he knows I'm not a very organized/clean person which most people think OCD is. We are open with me taking health and I don't want to withhold how I feel but I can't outright tell him my struggles. Any advice?
For those struggling with with ROCD do you let your partner in on what’s going through your mind? My boyfriend is my go to person to talk to about anything going on my life and really the only one who understands ocd but I feel it can be hurtful for him if I share intrusive thoughts about our relationship.
I feel like i should tell my partner everything about me so i don’t feel like a liar or a bad person even little thing for a long time ago and sometimes it ends up in fights because it’s hard to understand and explain, i just get the feeling that im not telling them something and it makes me feel like a bad partner. Even little things like i forget to tell them a part of the story and my thoughts make me thing im keeping something from them. It makes me feel like I have to many problems and I am undeserving of their love.
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