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I have definitely had times in my relationship where ROCD didn’t bother me and I was confident in my relationship. I’m currently struggling, but my past experiences suggest that you can recover! I would love to hear from others- unfortunately, most people that post here are actively struggling, so not super representative.
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I’m sending positivity your way! You’ve got this I know it feels never ending but those moments where the ocd goes away are so worth it :) I had a therapy session yesterday my therapist said essentially if we ignored every intrusive thoughts for 2 weeks ocd would probably just leave straight away, I’ve been doing so well all day and I caved in earlier and started Googling ! It’s really difficult to do the steps necessary to get out of the rut , I feel like I’m scared to recover from ocd , invade I discover it’s not ocd all along !
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Thanks for the positivity :) back at ya!
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My boyfriend knows about my ROCD now which I feel is a massive step to recovery ! It feels like he’s on my side in helping me whereas before it felt like there was a lot of tension because I was keeping ROCD to myself
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@Tillyyyx and that is the most important. before i told my bf i had that feeling like i’m lying to him but when i tell him that i snuggle i felt such a relief. when i don’t feel good in mist of the time i cry so it is much easier to me, when i know that he is by my side and that he knows why i cry so he hug me and comfort me.
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I’m so happy you were able to involve your bf and it sounds like he is being supportive (how wonderful is that?) And it feels so painful to not engage in a compulsion. You did so well so keep it up despite any setbacks. I’m sooo happy you have support :)
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@dragon_calves thank you so much. i have tobtell also that imeven i have his support i’m not disgosed eith rOCD but everythink i’m going trough are symptoms of it. mainly, sometimes is hard, even if i told him and he i supportive and always there to help my sometimes intrusive thought come and say:” you are lying to him and to yourself, you are in denial, ehat if you don’t have rOCD and all your thoughts that you are having is your gut feeling telling you it is not right. does this sounds like rOCD for you or?
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@lucyyja Yes! I’m glad you could talk to your boyfriend about it without any judgment too! We are very lucky they’re so understanding😊 it’s definitely a huge step in the right direction and you’re right you no longer feel like you’re hiding things which does take away a lot of the shame
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@dragon_calves It really does ! All I want to do is go on google to reassure myself that everything is okay , I know the second I do that it will spiral again but it’s still really tempting ah
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@Tillyyyx sameee as me <3
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@Tillyyyx i used to go on google on quizzes such as “do i really live my bf, is it time for break up, are we SO,..and so on” but also i find my self asking others for reassurance that my bf is attractive and that he is a good oerson…. i find my self watching yt videos for reassurance also
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@lucyyja Yeah ! Sounds to me like you do have ROCD ( saw tout will message earlier ) and even though I was diagnosed with it by a nocd therapist I still question the accuracy cause that’s what ocd does , even if you get diagnosed you’ll still think they were just trying to make you feel better / get money for the sessions etc lol !
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@lucyyja Yes!! What you describe is exactly how I feel too! You’re definetly not alone with this x
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@lucyyja I obsess over these things too! And the fact I didn’t feel an instant spark /strong chemistry but I grew to love him , but I google online and most people say you need the instant spark otherwise it’s not true love …that triggers me soo much
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@Tillyyyx me and my bf are in long relationship and i know that feelings ebb and flow and that i will not feel the same way towards him always, but that is so scary snd it triggers me and wuestins do intruly really love him
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@lucyyja Yeah me too it’s been 2 years and I still get the ROCD doubts all the time but I would say it’s better than before! We only notice it because we put so much importance on it that It scares us xx
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