ARG20

Date posted: 3y

Discovering ROCD

I just discovered ROCD… and I used to overthink a lot about my relationship even though I knew I’m with the best person for me and a trust worthy person too! Is that considered ROCD, when the thoughts are reversed? For example “what if he breaks up with me?” Also I used to confess about everything I did like something so small that made me feel so guilty even though it wasn’t bad at all! But I had to tell me bf because I felt like something bad would happen if I didn’t! Is that considered OCD? If so what subtype? But a few months ago I had the worst intrusive thoughts such as “what if I don’t love him?” or “what if he isn’t the one?”…. This thought came out of nowhere! Where it started to eat me up! Then later on I thought I was crazy thinking about that because I know I do love him!

Relationship OCD

Anonymous<3

Date posted: 3y

From my experience as early into my relationship I would get a lot of anxiety and always thought my bf would break up with me or that I wasn’t enough so u was constantly seeking reassurance from him. Now I’m at a point that I’m the one having intrusive thoughts about loving ny partner . I recently did get diagnosed with rocd . Iv heard of many other stories where people do get better and I’m hoping this will get better for me and everyone else struggling with this . This is so painful . I know I love my partner but for some reason my mind wants me to believe otherwise . I won’t give up and neither should you . I hope you find the correct therapist to help you out . Your not alone :)

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

Thank you so much!!! Did you get ERP help through here? And I will not give up!❤️

Anonymous<3

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 I’m starting therapy here , I really like my therapist and we are starting erp soon . I’m nervous but excited at the same time . Have you started therapy ?

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Yali<3 No not yet:/

Anonymous<3

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 If your able to you should ! Iv only had a few sessions and it does help . If you ever need someone to talk to I’ll be here !

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Yali<3 Yaa! I do! And thank you!

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

Yaa I know what you mean! I think I have gotten a little bit better on how to manage the instrusive thoughts but it still sucks to have them… when it’s about ur relationship!

Chlo_alexis

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 Exactly when it’s about someone you love and care about the most it’s like the ROCD attacks it the most

buffy4ever

Date posted: 3y

Yes! Been dealing with ROCD for almost a year now (from when my relationship started) I personally have intrusive thoughts about my partner’s past relationships and doubt his love for me sometimes. It’s been hell but ERP and a medication change has helped me personally. You’re not alone!

you.are.enough

Date posted: 3y

Hi! If you don't mind, would you be willing to share some examples of ERP you did for this? I struggle with intrusive thoughts about my partner's feelings for me too.

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

Wow! Yes! I feel this!

madssss

Date posted: 3y

I relate to a lot of what you have said in your paragraph. I too am dealing with this sort of thing where I feel as if I need to confess every small little thing to my boyfriend. Once theres something I feel that I did wrong, it eats me up and it does that until I "confess" the instance to him. Sorry I am not more of a help, but I want to let you know you are not alone in these thoughts!!

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

I wish we didn’t have these thoughts and I wish this was never a thing but it’s because we just have so much love to offer!

Chlo_alexis

Date posted: 3y

Girl I am in the same boat and it just sucks It’s just these over bearing intrusive thoughts and feelings trying to convince you

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Chlo_alexis Yaa! But the thing is… is that are the thoughts that I had when I didn’t know about ROCD… were those thoughts considered ROCD?

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Chlo_alexis Speaking on my first paragraph ^

Chlo_alexis

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 From what I know so far yes I am not a licensed clinician so I can’t say for certain I’m only speaking on my experience

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Chlo_alexis Thank you! Do u also have confessing problems?

Chlo_alexis

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 Yes I would tell him everything even small things which isn’t a bad thing but was an impulse. And moments when I forget to tell him something I feel so guilty Mind you he doesn’t tell me to tell him everything It’s just the pressure I put on myself

ARG20

Date posted: 3y

@Chlo_alexis I feel that so much girl!! I would do the same and I would tell myself “I don’t need to tell him.. it’s not that serious” and then few hours go by and I tell him because I would be in distress

Chlo_alexis

Date posted: 3y

@ARG20 Honestly ROCD is a cycle and it sucks because it’s like if I do something a bit out of the ordinary I would get the feeling You don’t love him that’s why And i feel discouraged and it doesn’t allow me to enjoy my relationship because I know I love him with my whole heart and my ROCD isn’t allowing me to bask in that

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