@Mememeitsme Yeah, I can see why TikTok is triggering for everyone! I don't actually have TikTok.
Nobody can tell you what your sexuality is, especially using such vague statements like that. It sounds like some of them are getting a bit carried away with it. Like I said, it's too bad, because they're putting themselves in the comphet box. And I'm sure if any of them ended up with a boyfriend, you won't see those TikToks.
Like you said, I think this concept has helped many people, but as with anything, people can get carried away.
Men and women are beautiful human beings in their own ways. We absolutely can acknowledge beauty without it meaning anything more than just that.
Attraction is more than just physical--it's very shallow (in my opinion) to put so much emphasis on looks. I mean looks are certainly a part of attraction, but not everything.
On top of finding someone attractive, you typically feel drawn to them for other reasons you can't always explain. They make you feel good, you bond, you laugh, you experience intimacy in all kinds of ways, etc etc.
I don't want to get too carried away talking about this because I know it's just giving ocd more power, and that's not the goal. I think we have to accept that this exists, and while it's eye opening and helpful for some, it doesn't apply to everyone (even when people try to tell you it does.)
Imagine if that doc didn't exist--how would you feel about your attraction to men? If you've always felt good about it, happy and comfortable, then I'd say that's your truth.
We have to accept the uncertainty around certain triggers related to comphet and anything on that doc we might relate to. At the end of the day, you are the one whe decides who you are. Once ocd around this topic is in the rear view, we'll see and feel that confidence.
Face the anxiety, accept the uncertainty, and allow yourself to have a different opinion than people on the internet. šā¤ļø