I think I have Rocd but then I think Is it rocd or is he not my type? (My husband) is just too quiet for me, I get bored sometimes and nitpick at everything he does and keep analyzing his behavior and how he acts and constantly compare him to other people on tv or in real life, I’m so sick of this honestly. But I don’t know if it’s because he’s not my type or not... ??

Yeah I’m fixated on his flaws and it’s almost like the only thing I see but that’s only when I’m @ the peak of ocd or when it strikes but when it calms down I don’t see the flaws as the worst things in the world , it’s crazy how it would be the smallest things & your mind goes out of control

Yeah like I seriously question if it’s normal to not know even when I’m not super spiking...that scares me a lot. Like when I’m not spiking I feel like I should know that I love him, and I do know that. But I still don’t know if it’s everything I want forever...it scares me that that isn’t ROCD. And I don’t know what to do about it...

Yeah I get you :( what helps me is I just think of my past relationships or times I was talking to a guy and when I wasn’t in love or loved them I wouldn’t worry at all I would just leave so if I didn’t love my current I would leave too, No-one is forcing us to be with our partner , it’s a choice and love is a choice too. It’s not a feeling, try to remember that :)

Thank you :) so are you! And I’m the same as you, it’s my first serious relationship but we’ve been together for 7 years but my past relationships when I lost interest there was no anxiety or worry it was just byeeee, lol and all the symptoms of rocd I do/did , it changes and it gets better as long as u don’t give in to compulsions & remember that acceptance is KEY, truly that’s the main thing that helped me. I used to be really bad but it has got much better but I have my moments here and there

As long as your man is kind & treats you well everything else doesn’t matter because at the end of the day that’s what’s important :)

Did you have ROCD symptoms when you get married? For some reason I’m so terrified about marriage...and yes he is a good and kind man.

@sarahlynn sorry I just saw this, yeah but it has gotten SOOO much better.. whatever flaws your man has just say to yourself for example “so what, I love him anyway.. yes he has a big nose” or “yes he isn’t the best looking so what I love him, I choose to love him if I didn’t love him I would leave without anxiety” just ADMIT to the things that are flaws to you, everyone has flaws, you have flaws, I have flaws & for the love part of it just tell yourself “if someone doesn’t love someone they would leave without anxiety and they would just move on, you wouldn’t actually care so much.

I’m going through the same thing. But I question my love for him and if we’re meant to be together and if we should get married...idk but it all sucks!

Yeah I used to always question my love for him and my compulsion was to confess how I feel and then apologize after and then suck up to him , but I don’t question my love anymore and it stopped because (this may sound strange) but I would imagine what would happen if god forbid he died & I had told him that I’m not sure if I loved him and that made me stop doing that

Yeah I told him once that I was questioning but I realized that I can’t do that to him. It hurts so bad to keep it in but I never want to hurt him.

Yeah exactly :( but it’s so hard to deal with.. do you find yourself over analyzing his behavior ?

Not too much, it’s more around the feelings I have about the relationship, and a few flaws/things...it’s like I don’t even know how I feel anymore even when I’m in a pretty good mindset..

That’s what terrifies me!

Yeah I trying. Thing is this is my first serious relationship, before this I loved one other guy but we weren’t really quite unquote together. So I feel like how can I know when I’ve never been with anyone else? But I am trying to remember that love is a choice. And yea, no one is making me stay..

You are so kind. Thank you so much.