today I was with my boyfriend and after getting over hocd pretty much I think it started morphing to rocd and I just started finding problems that I hadn’t found before and then I was with him and started crying because I felt like I wasn’t as in love w him that I used to be but it was all so sudden idek. has anyone else gone through this
I have dated my boyfriend for three years . I noticed that when I was stressed about an important exam I had intrusive thoughts started coming up about “ what if I don’t love my partner ?” Worst feeling ever in my opinion. I couldn’t see him because it made me anxious or talk to him . It was strange to me the the month prior i was totally In love so I started searching for reassurance. Of course googling everything that popped into my head . That’s how I learned what relationship ocd was and I decided to get help .
@Yali<3 thank you this helps me feel less alone. would your thoughts ever make you think you could be happier w someone else/missing out on a “better love”? idek:/
@Yali<3 Can I ask , did you ever feel worse when googling for reassurance ? Like sometimes I look at Google, places like quora or Reddit and everyone is always saying ‘ if you have doubts break up’ or ‘if you don’t feel attracted to them all the time it’s wrong’ or even ‘ if you weren’t head over heels at first it isn’t love’ and this just makes me want to break down because I think what if they’re right and how so I know I have ocd and I’m not just guilty because I’m in denial ?
@Tillyyyx well love for people without ocd is definitely very different from a normal functioning brain. so maybe their right maybe their not, but at the end of the day if your getting anxiety from the thoughts and needing to prove them wrong their intrsuive thoughts! hope this helps. also try your hardest to not google bc everyone is different
@Anonymous The fact I even have intrusive thoughts makes me feel like there just be a problem? 😔
@Tillyyyx It sucks there is no concrete evidence to prove ROCD , and even if there was a brain scan that could tell you you have ROCD I would actually refuse to take it out of fear of finding out I don’t have it anyway aha
@Tillyyyx if i’m being blunt their is a problem but if the problems not with your partner/relationship the problem is simply the way your brain functions. thankfully with erp and maybe medication you can start to feel better
@Anonymous So you definitely think it’s ROCD and not a sign?
@Tillyyyx maybe maybe not. your seeking reassurance which only makes it worse. I have no idea what your relationship is like
In the beginning I did have “what if I’m supposed to be with someone else “or I have Had thoughts about my ex’s . Even had dreams .
@Yali<3 what would you recommend I do?
Well I wouldn’t advise you to do what I did because I’m not a professional but what I did was I read about relationship ocd and got a better understanding . I also listened to deeper dating by ken page on Spotify . Took myself to the beach and sat there with my thoughts. I’m also on Zoloft which this medication is for anxiety , depression and ocd. And this helped me alooooot in decreasing my anxiety and depression . I’m taking therapy and doing exposure work and I feel like I’m in a better place then when I started. Of course I have my bad days but I keep in mind that it’s temporary and I can’t give up. Neither should you !
@Yali<3 Also , I have zoom called a gal on here and we’ve spoken about our experience and it helped a lot . If you’d like to talk to us one day feel free to let us know ! It’s nice to listen to others stories . It makes me feel less alone
@Yali<3 kk thank you so much!!! would you recommend going on meds?
Well I’m the type of person who always over thinks about what I put in my body . I put them off for so long because I was scared of the side effects but I had enough and I gave it a try . For me it has definitely worked ! Not 100% okay but I’m doing well . I think they definitely work but it’s up to you wey her you wanna give it a go. It took a few weeks to see a difference but I feel better
@Yali<3 thank u so much!<33
I’m having what I think is my first ROCD full episode. I’ve had doubting thoughts the entirety of my relationship. But in the last couple of days have been overwhelmed with and debilitated by anxiety and the feeling that I need to break up with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I have OCD officially but talking to therapists it seems that it is likely and I’m going to an OCD specialist next week to talk through my feelings but I feel completely helpless and hopeless at the moment and riddled with anxiety. I’m in a long distance relationship. I seem to have a waves throughout the day when I want to communicate with my boyfriend and tell him I love him etc. but the other 80% of my day is filled with anxiety and dread that I’m going to have to break up with him. I just want the anxiety to go away and to know if my thoughts are real thoughts or OCD thoughts. My biggest fear is that this isn’t an OCD episode and I do need to break up with him. I’m seeing him this weekend and I’m filled with dread about feeling disconnected and anxious and not in love.
Please help. Been with my boyfriend for 15 months. 6 months into our official relationship I found out he kissed someone 1 week before he asked out officially. He told me he loved me at that time and I felt we were exclusive. He apparently did not . He also agreed he would not watch porn and lied once about it. I also have been spinning about the types of women he thinks are attractive and I find disgusting so I sent him pictures for months hoping he would say it looks gross but he didn’t and it killed me. Throughout the relationship I have been spinning about these issues really hard and it damaged my trust for him but I know he’s an amazing great guy I just feel very uneasy. It has been 1 year of me spinning about these issues and other little ones constantly texting him everyday and my friends about them to try to figure things out but I am unhappy . 4 months ago I had a severe breakdown and since I am severely depressed and anxious every day all day with thoughts of is this a wrong relationship , comparing him to other men, wondering if I would be happier with someone else. I have been seeing a therapist seeing a therapist one thinks I have rocd and a psychologist doesn’t . Nothing is helping me and I’m on Zoloft . I broke up with him a month ago and I’m still spinning in circles if I made the right decision or if I left over rocd and overblowing the issues that bothered me . Someone please tell me if you think this is rocd (edited)
I feel like I shouldn’t be with my partner anymore, but I have no clear reason why. I feel sad every single day, I have a constant heaviness in my chest, I cry often, and I start arguments with him. I can’t remember the good memories. Everything feels distant, fake, or tainted. I don’t know why I love him — and all my thoughts tell me that I never truly did, that I only wanted to feel something, and now I finally see the truth. The worst part is that it all feels so real. I feel lost. I feel numb. I feel guilty. I can’t feel love right now, but some part of me still wants to hold on, still wants help. I don’t want to make any decisions right now. I just want to know I’m not alone. Has anyone else gone through this?
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