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I’ve been through similar thought processes and it drives me nuts. I try and like “reason” with my mind and be like ok well I will only be with girls then even if I’m “bi”…. The thing that sucks so bad is that my mind tries to give me an “all or nothing” type scenario. I’ve only ever been with girls and many partners/enjoyable times with women so realistically it makes no sense however I always get trapped in these thoughts now and anxious and shaky because that’s not how I want to live my life. It’s like it’s not giving me a choice and it’s a constant battle. I have had a few days of “clarity” where like my attraction to women is undeniable but then sure as your born a few days later my anxiety levels high and I’m back not liking them. It’s so crazy OCD can do this because sexuality DOES NOT change daily and so I try to remember that and sit through the anxiety and hope for the days of clarity. Your not alone in this battle I totally get it!
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@BostonOCD22 I’ve had those moments of clarity of being straight and then when I try to ignore the the thoughts and feelings my anxiety seems to triple. I try to remember that because these “attractions” come from a place of fear that they aren’t me and just say yeah whatever. As soon as I feel straight my mind starts to cloud up and the thoughts start up again. Typing this I’m realizing I should just go with what makes my ocd take off the most because that’s who I really am and who I was before all of this
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@Anonymous I also had a moment last week where I was mad at the possibility of not being able to go see my boyfriend. I was happy to have this feeling even if it was anger but then my ocd tried to tell me oh you only care about him like you do one of your friends
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i feel like i know what you mean except that i didn’t accept my thoughts as a new sexuality. i don’t feel false attraction anymore either it’s just thoughts and crazy anxiety now.
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@nobody03 I should’ve put “accept” in quotes my apologies. I still experience false attraction from time to time (it gets worse sometimes because I don’t have thoughts of being with them romantically or sexually) but my body/mind still try to convince me I do
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@nobody03 My mind does sometimes try to morph my boyfriend into a woman when I’m with him or gives me thoughts that like “you’d rather he be a woman” and things like that which I try to ignore and just focus on the moment
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@Anonymous i experience the exact same thing and i hate it so much. it’s so off putting i try to ignore it and i thought i was the only one who ever thought that. i know my thoughts aren’t facts but they’re still distressing. it feels good not to be alone
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@Anonymous i guess we just have to stay strong and realize these are just thoughts. it’s easier said than done
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@nobody03 I’ve heard that’s classic HOCD for that to happen. It even distorts memories as well. I think this is an extension of the depressive episode I went through related to school. I didn’t feel anything for anyone for a while and then it started happening. I also think because of the security of the relationship with my boyfriend and the high possibility we could get married my brain is trying to keep me in chaos because that’s what my brain is used to (didn’t grow up in the best home environment). I never felt this way before this and that’s what I try to remind myself of and try to trust that
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@Anonymous maybe it could be related. i went through a depressive episode too and i left it untreated. but i’m just glad to know that we’re not alone and we’re not our thoughts. but it’s hard to recognize that when you’re in the spiral of anxiety
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@nobody03 Especially when you’re having a good time and then as soon as you see someone of the same sex you just have instant fear and then even if you’re not actually attracted to them the fear is what causes the false attraction. That’s what I try to remember is a lot of these false attractions come from fear and if they come from fear they aren’t real
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@Anonymous i know that’s what exactly what i feel too. hopefully we can overcome this bc it’s so debilitating
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Hello, im a 21ye old male. All of my life i was always atrscted to girls, even if it was only a hug by a girl i liked i got a boner. I always fantasised about doing fun stuff (not onyl sex) with my gf. Had a gf for almost two years. Two months ago i fell into severe anxiety about my sexuality changing. It happened to me 2 years ago bit then i had my gf and i did not need to worry if i will find a girl i love or will i be able to because i already had her. The toughts were realy intense but they faded and for 2 years i did not experience any doubts or fears about it. Then it happened again in december. For 2-3 weeks i was realy down...constant toughts about doing things with men i never wanted to do, fear that i liked someone, fear of denial...but them bc of getting back with my girlfriend it was okay for three weeks almosf. Then we broke up again and after a few days i had the worst days of my life. I felt like i actually changed, i did not know what to do. Then after a week I went out with a girl and when she laid on me when we wafched a show I got aroused like i always did with my ex. I felt such relief and i could handle my fears and anxiety for almost a month. Then a week ago the fear returned and i am again in a very bad spot, i dont know what else to do, i have no girl that i love, i am afraid i will never be able to experience those same feelings and moment that i had with my ex and then again the toughts of being in denial came back. I dont know what to do. My psychiatrist said i dont have ocd but onyl simptoms and that my anxiety is the proboem. Any one experienced something similar? Thanks
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I've always found women pretty and admired them since I was younger, never wanted to be with them or anything. I always pictured having a boyfriend and my crushes were always boys. I have a boyfriend now but because this has happened I feel nothing towards him or any men. To be honest I'm so exhausted I don't feel much at all, there was so much anxiety at the start and now there is none. Does that mean I have accepted the thoughts. My mind keeps going you were suppressed all these years but I do find women pretty so that's what's making it worse. Am I just in denial and being delusional? I never doubted my sexuality before this I always considered myself to be straight but I feels like my mind has been twisted and can't remember any attraction to guys but can remember thinking girls are pretty? Does this mean it's all real? I don't know anymore
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I feel sick to my stomach, a few days ago I knew I was straight and could picture my life with my bf again. The anxiety has really lessend and Im more depressed now. I'm 100% convinced I am lesbian even tho I have never had sexual attraction to women, found them pretty but never wanted to be with them. My mind is only picturing me being with women now and it feels like a pit in my stomach. I don't feel emotion now, I'm also on my period. I don't want to be lesbian. I want to be with my boyfriend and have the life I pictured with him. My memory is so dissorted right now. I don't think there's anything wrong with being lesbian, it's just not for me and now that makes me feel like I'm homophobic.
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