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I’m scared. My partner had a difficult upbringing like myself. He felt like for years that he was a mistake (he was born from an affair) he felt like his family truly wanted him around. He would constantly worry about if he was gonna be able to eat after school or how things were gonna be at home. Which caused him to jump from home to home never really felt like he could just stay in one place. Until he met me. I know the cause of what he goes thru is bc of his own trauma. I honestly don’t know what I personally want out of life either. Love to me is a lot of patience, being there for each other when life gets hard, being able to be open with one another (due to our trauma can be difficult at times), being able to say goodnight at night and waking up in the morning next to him. I get scared. Bc what if our goals in life don’t align? Do things have to end? Is there a way to find a middle ground about things. I love him a lot I know deep down I do but right now.. with never getting help and trying to deal with my own mental state. It’s become difficult to tell. I get scared my patience has run out with everyone… I ignore people.

@7710 ❤️ Yessssss I feel you on this. Is your partner seeking help? The stress of working with others problems is not even escapable with therapists as they have their own therapists. Don't feel as if what you're doing isn't enough. If your enough for yourself then you are halfway there. Life goals can intertwine but not always must they intertwine for love to flourish. Perhaps making a combined list of daily weekly and yearlong goals together would help. You can make one playing a couple game together or starting a career with futuro online which provides free education for high level careers. Many many options and routes however you are responsible for your well-being as your partner is well aware. I grew up cooking at 6 going to food banks raising 5 young ones as a sibling and dealing with the pain it caused. I know your partner understands self reliance and the importance of picking up and renewing.

@Trugga I’m worried I don’t love him that much anymore.. and is just too afraid to admit it… 😞 Thinking that way makes me cry. Thinking of not being with him anymore makes me cry… 12 years with my partner.. I don’t want it to die. No we’re both not in therapy though we have talked about it. We need to be that is for sure. That’s the thing we don’t know what we want as a career..