Ocd really bad today because last night my bf was doing things I found cringey and I worry that means I don’t like him and I also had the thought “maybe you’ve outgrown him” and it felt true

Sit with the feelings don’t seek reassurance , I know what you want to hear, “ you love your boyfriend the thoughts are just OCD and he is not cringey.” Truth is a relationship needs to be worked on in order to be sustained , and you will find problems will arise in any relationship you are in. Successful long term relationships learn to mend the differences and work around them not against them. Unfortunately in today’s society we have a selfish culture centred on our own interests and as a result most marriages end in divorce and people are replaced quickly. People are not interested in wanting to truly love and understand one another , they’re simply addicted to the ‘high’ of infatuation and lust they get from the other person in the beginning stages of the relationship and once that high disappears they move on to who ever else can give them that high. They mistake lust for love and as a result they never settle down , they end up regretting this as they get a bit older and it becomes increasingly difficult to get married and have children. Marriage and ‘settling’ is not a bad thing, contrary to what modern culture makes us believe. People are so interested in being free and independent they’ve forgotten the value of loving relationships and what a special thing it is to be married and committed to one person and to grow in love . This may sound very ‘old fashioned’ but if you look at the number of people facing mental health issues in our generation it’s not difficult to see that our generation’s mindset is not benefiting out well being. To come back to your point, OCD will of course make your concern much more worrying to you, you may obsess unnecessarily about it and it will cause you unnecessary amounts of anxiety and over thinking . But in a relationship there will be good times and also bad times , you don’t need to find your partner ‘ perfect ‘ all the time to be in a healthy loving relationship. In fact I’d say that the people who think their partners are perfect are the ones in a more concerning relationship as they are obviously not seeing they’re partner in a realistic light and are in love with the idea of being in love and the fantasy they have created in their mind. So don’t feel guilty for experiencing negativity in your relationship , it’s good for there to be points to work on in your relationship it will help you both to grow together :)

Sometimes growing with your partner doesn't align. It does suck but with communication perhaps you can level with him about goals and never expectations, whoever goals are achievable from any level of the game. An ant hill doesn't get built by the queen although she is a major factor it's the other lesser ants that come together to built around her. Hang in there. I'm not the best at explaining. Ask me anything.

I just went through this and my ROCD made it a huge deal when she was using “BBG 🤪🤭” and stuff like that. She was joking ofc but that couldn’t help what my ocd was latching onto. If it was right when we got together, I could’ve handled it far far better and I would’ve found it Funny but i simply couldn’t for the majority right now. I think that’s close enough to relate to your situation but the best thing to do is to keep pushing in the relationship, and let him know about your current thoughts and feelings about his cringey actions. I hope this helps!