- Date posted
- 2y
ROCD
The more I learn about ROCD and relationships the more I believe that our generation and the mindset of the masses has a direct link to this subtype of OCD. I believe OCD sufferers tend to take things more to a literal sense slighty like autism. Our culture and society is very heavy on bold statements and how things ‘should’ be, many OCD subtypes stem from things which are widely spoken about in society - moral OCD, cleanliness OCD, image and weight, relationships , harm etc. Society has painted a picture of how things should be and how they should look like and someone with OCD may internalise these messages from society more than the average person believing them to be the truth. We’ve been sold lies about relationships, from Disney fairytales to statements like ‘the one’ and that you get swept of your feet and love happily ever after. We also live in a generation obsessed with one’s self and self gratification. Love is talked about as how it makes us feel good/high and what it does for our ego … what people are referring to is lust and infatuation , it has little to do with love and is a temporary feeling not based on the reality of the other person our actually caring for the other . It’s not surprising that the divorce rates are so high with the way that we view love in our society … Love can only built with time , after all, good things don’t come easy. Trust takes time to build as does respect and understanding… the fundamental elements to a loving relationship , yet we’re sold a false narrative of ‘love at first sight’? No wonder someone with ocd who takes things literally may feel so anxious , we’re sold all these false beliefs about how our relationship should be , maybe we don’t need to feel guilty for having doubts , could it not signal a more healthy relationship based on growth? Maybe most people don’t feel anxious about their relationships , not because they’ve found the one but simply because they are not overthinking them . OCD latched onto to things we care about the most so clearly someone who suffers with OCD values relationships highly , maybe the people who are placing such a high value on their relationships simply don’t take the time to think about what could go wrong and the doubts simply because their mind is preoccupied else where . That doesn’t make their relationships more ‘right’ or valid just because they aren’t thinking about the relationship as much . We don’t need to place expectations on our relationships , relationships take work for them to be successful. The key to a relationship is your mindset and growth, Rome wasn’t built in a day.