- Username
- morgan?
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hummm... I don't know well how to help or start but I will try. First of all, I don't experience OCD by myself so I don't know how feels and functions all of it perfectly, I kinda know a good amount, maybe more than the average, but again, I'm not a professional or know it by myself. I got diagnosed few time ago with GAD and I have some expressions of my anxiety reflected in some obsessive characteristics, more likable as the compulsions of OCD, so I thought entering here could be helpful :) (but I'm also in therapy!). But what I'm trying to tell here is that by bringing my experience I don't want to interference with your obsessions, therapy or recovery, so please acknowledge this. Well, first, how older are you? I'm currently 19, soon 20, but I started questioning my sexuality at 17, and realized I was asexual at early 18 yo. I didn't have relationships experiences before or with kissing or sex and I think that was actually better for me because it let me question what I feel without questioning if something could've interfere it. It felt a lot more free. Also, knowing I am asexual was quite a relief to me because it let me understand a lot of things that I didn't understand before. Well, something useful for understanding this is that: - attraction ≠ action. so, if you feel attraction or not that shouldn't interfere with what you do, you can have sex and be asexual! it sounds quite crazy but actually it's pretty common :) - also, being asexual is different than being aromantic. asexuality is the lack of attraction towards sex with someone, everything that involves something sexual with someone. being aromantic is the lack of romantic attraction towards someone. you can even think that romance and a significant other is awesome and want it and still being aromantic! - sexuality it's a spectrum, it's not black and white. there's also a spectrum between being "sexual" (allosexual actually) and being asexual. for example, if you feel sexual attraction sometimes, or very little, or in weirdly specific situations or towards few persons in your life, chances are that you could be in the gray area of the spectrum. similar happens with being aromantic. - it's okay if you make mistakes. there's nothing wrong with having a tag that functions for yourself and then funding out that you were wrong; it happens, you don't harm anyone by mistaking it. - use what works better for you. as i said, "feelings before tags"; if tagging yourself as asexual helps you feeling better and understanding better you, then use it! if you find it caging and feel better without it, that's fine as well! if you are still confused and doesn't want to tag yourself you could think of "questioning" or not having a tag and it's perfectly fine, a lot of people do it. - sexuality is fluid, so it can change. so there's no problem with changing it (what I said before haha) - thinking yourself as asexual or not doesn't change what your future will be, you just understand yourself better and that, there's no consequences with it (search the song: "For me - Dearlie" in youtube if it helps you :) )
Thanks so much! I don’t really think I’m asexual because I think about sex at least once a week and I do want to be in a relationship! Today I went to the grocery-store and I saw a really cute cashier and he liked me and all I did was get happy no weird feeling! And I can’t really relate to that song it’s a really good song though!
Me too. It’s frustrating. It’s like “that’s not what you really want. Stop thinking about it “
Yes plz help
Yes it exactly like “are you sure you sure you want a boyfriend maybe you don’t want one” and it’s kinda the them of ocd I really want a boyfriend but I just can’t imagine having one maybe it’s because I’m on the theme of asexual ocd or am I really asexual
But here is the thing I don’t think I’m asexual because when I get a little older I really do want sex
Yes. It’s like I kinda want it. But i just don’t know with who. It’s like I lost all my interest in guys at the moment. Now when someone mentions a relationship I almost always after I trying to imagine myself with a guy a picture of myself with a girl pops up. It’s frustrating and it’s creeping me out. I just don’t know
@idont241 me too omg. It feel so horrible like I just wanna be normal and have a boyfriend but then apart of me just freaks out and gets anxiety every time I’d think of boys. Like I’d date a man but not a boy but then o don’t wanna wait till I’m 30 to have my firts ever relationship
Same but like it feels forced like ocd forced and It is now just no one I picture or it’s a girl it use to be a boy
I can totally relate. It’s exhausting
I'm happy that it helped you!! And that you heard the song, it's quite nice tbh! Well, I can say that I don't think about sex (in absolutely) but I kinda want to be in a relationship, just without sex involving it. And I didn't get the weird feeling? If it's something that you thought we feel or something that you felt before for you? idk Anyways, I'm happy that I could help something, and hope you feel better with yourself by finding that advice ☺️; it doesn't matter if you aren't asexual, at least I could help and bring also a bit of asexual awareness which is quite nice ;)
That great! With my hocd my sex drive has been lost but it’s starting to come back and I definitely do want sex one day and I tbh like I said once a week or every 2
Hehe hi, I'm actually asexual and could help with it (but would I trigger or increase your obsessions with it? Anyways, about sexuality it's not good to pressure yourself tagging you. Have this advice: "First goes feelings, then tags" :)
Right!
How do I know if I’m asexual or if it’s really just hocd? Ive been obsessing over this for days. I don’t want to be asexual at all. I consider myself straight and not to long ago I got over the themes of gay and bisexuality of hocd. I don’t think about sex all that much maybe one every two weeks and I do want sex one day right now I just have that eh like it ok or whatever feeling about it and I don’t know does this stuff mean I’m asexual I have had slit of crushes before but I don’t know if I’m asexual. I need help!??
Ok so this might be long might not but I’m going to try and explain this very well ok so I have always dreamed about having a boyfriend and I’ll read novels and want that for me and I can imagine myself with a guy when I’m older and happy but right now I can’t whenever I try to think about it I get anxious and just want to cry cause more than anything in the world I want happiness but ever since I got hocd whenever a guy tells me they like me all I want to do I stop them from liking me and want to tell them to stop liking me I get an anxious type feeling and lately I have had the theme of asexuality like “am I an asexual? What if I turn asexual? What if because I get these weird feeling about boys liking me does that make me asexual?” I need some opinions of what people think and I also don’t know these could be new feelings to me I just have never dated or had a boyfriend I want one but at the same time “myself” doesn’t want me having one! What do you think?
I’m so afraid I might be lesbian. I was very anxious at first but it started to calm down. I’m only 15 and I have a boyfriend I love. At least I think I do, I always chose to question everything and over analyze. I found out about hocd and it described everything I was feeling. I’d take test and read articles like “am I lesbian” but I have never fantasied a girl or wanted to be with a girl sexually or romantically. But what if I’m in denial? I do think girls are physically attractive but I never crushed on a girl. I have always crushed on boys. And liked being with them. I’m just so lost. My anxiety about it had calmed down. But the question is still there sometimes. Earlier today, I found a girl pretty and I got scared thinking that meant something. Then I read about women who have married men, but they know they’re lesbian. I’m scared that that’ll Happen to me. I don’t want to be lesbian. No disrespect. But I just want to be happy. I think I’ve suffered from ocd before. Tell me anyone if I’m wrong. But I used to have thoughts of that my boyfriend would murder me in the future because of theses videos that triggered me. It caused me so much pain and felt so real. That I eventually started to think I’d murder my mom and sister for no reason. I felt so helpless. But I got through it. I hope I get through this. Please any advice? Is this hocd?? Does anyone else feel this way?
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