Currently with a girl I love or at least I feel I do / anyone know how to deal with the anxiety of feeling like you will get intrusive thoughts / images around your partner ? And how to deal with those thank you
Same bro I ended up in the hospital from this bs / it litteraly is all bs just hard to get the bs out of your head lol
Facts bro !
@Sp1999 You get anxiety too whenever you are gonna hang with her or talk to her ?
@jzepedaa7 Yup
@jzepedaa7 / what are the kinds of images / thoughts you get
Also not looking for reasurance at all just for some tips š
I think sheās beautiful and amazing I just get anxiety feeling that when we hang out I will get the thoughts and images
These thoughts aren't you. The actions are you.
@Pillows Iām aware of that brother itās just the thoughts are annoying and when sheās talking thereās a voice in the back of my head saying gay and it just makes being with her hard you know Iām aware they arenāt me just annoying to deal with
@Pillows Just feels like Iām never really fully there you know I have to dig deep to listen to her past my own thoughts
@jzepedaa7 I hear you. Perhaps sharing with her your struggle would help. Communication and support may be what you require. A big part of life that OCD robs you of is, trust. Often we feel shame. It can be debilitating and draining. My partner told me that I am okay to be broken and never should I force my pieces back together. Each piece has a place and anything less can be damaging to my persona and to others. Sharp edges and gaps can be damaging. Be okay to be imperfect. I can tell your a good egg. You care about others above your own well-being. Be aware that isn't always making your partner happy. Love is a choice. OCD causes duress so making choices isn't best during those times. Try to remember what your goals are and with therapy have a heart to heart with yourself. My brother is gay and happily married. That's what he wanted but it sounds as if that's not what U want. Goals help you to line up your desires.
@Pillows Yea I told her everything and sheās supportive itās just super hard I want to be there for her too but Iām struggling myself and donāt want to lose her . I would also have no issues being gay but thatās the tricky thing with this OCD is I donāt think I am you know itās just a big loop
Dude ive been through it all man, I try to just do it anyways and try my best to ignore ocd
@Sp1999 You got a girl also ?
@jzepedaa7 Yes , we have been together for 2 years
@jzepedaa7 Itās crazy bro I donāt understand why I donāt want to lose her even with these thoughts thatās why I feel like I really like her you know
@Sp1999 Nice brother Iām glad I got someone in a similar situation as me . I hope to one day get married with her have kids and put this behind us . Have you told her about your problem ? I have my anxiety got so high I didnāt want to lose her so I told her
@jzepedaa7 Yeah man me to ! And hopefully it will get behind you man, you deserve a happy life. She knows everything from the day it started to being sent to a hospital and then coming out to deal with the same bs man
Jeez man this shits tough I just want to stop but itās been way better than before tho. The thought/urge āIām gayā is still going on lol I feel like it subsiding tho Iām able to go places and still doing erp and stuff nothing has happened maybe it will maybe it wonāt
@GSR I feel you bro Iām also feeling better . One thing that helps me is just live your life as you normally would and donāt let the thoughts affect you bc they arenāt real or donāt represent you š
@jzepedaa7 Also Iām going to the gym and playing soccer and I missed so much donāt let these thought define you too bro. Iām starting to date and talking to girls. Itās not something that you need too do itās somthing that I want to do. Keep at guys
@GSR Yup I battled this for 10 years but for the first time in those 10 years I feel like Iām figuring it out and have hope , also started hitting the gym again and I hung out with my girlfriend today went better then expected š
@jzepedaa7 Happy for you bro. Right Iām always a little ruminating and saying words about women I should really stop doing that it think the fear of me not saying and something may happen but Imm work on that . Yeah like I have struggled with relationships with women like sometimes youāre like what if I donāt like them but I know itās a bunch of nonsense I hope one day that this will subside for a long time. I really get shy around girls and something I have always but j never forget the feeling of being with them.
@GSR You said it yourself bro itās a bunch of non sense . All of it . Every thought that doesnāt align with how you really feel isnāt real . Thoughts are not you and you are not your brain
@jzepedaa7 Yeah man. But way better Forsure. I wasnāt go to parties but right now Iām just okay. There times that the thoughts has slowed down and times that spike but I know one day this would just be a memory I can feel it
@jzepedaa7 Damn 10 yearsā¦Iāve been dealing this since may of this year. Damn bro props to you bro hang in there. I will also too bro it will subside everything has and expiration date bro
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