- Date posted
- 2y ago
rocd
i feel like im giving up in my relationship and i dont want thatš„ŗš„ŗš„ŗš„ŗ
i feel like im giving up in my relationship and i dont want thatš„ŗš„ŗš„ŗš„ŗ
Try to turn that thought around and say, this distress proves that I DO care and WONT give up.
@Jigjon99 yes but it feel soxreal that i dont want be with her bro
I feel ya man, thatās our brains playing games.
@Jigjon99 are you now better?
@mrgg11 I have good days and bad. Iāve been at this a long time, like over 15 years. Iām actually having a rougher time today but that happens.
@Jigjon99 How you holding up today?
@mrgg11 Hahah that was meant you you
@Jigjon99 today we fight and i cant see her anymore crying i cry every time i love her but i got mixed feelings i dont want that i want with herrrrr to enjoyyyyy
Iām sorry man
@Jigjon99 but i will not let ocd win.thanks bro for trying to help.
@mrgg11 Good job dude! If you need to vent or anything, give me a holler.
@Jigjon99 how how i dobt understand?
@mrgg11 I was just saying you can just message me if your having a bad day and needed to talk.
@Jigjon99 thank you bro i would like something to talk with you about sex but ill talk later
@Jigjon99 hey bro
Hey, howās it goin?
@Jigjon99 i got anxiety when i touch a girl part body i got hurt in stomach i dont know why i cant have sex bro and i like her body
@Jigjon99 Is it like an excited anxiety or a dreadful anxiety? They feel similar but try to distinguish the difference.
@Jigjon99 doesnt that mean that im gay right?
@mrgg11 Not at all. It just means you have anxiety around intimacy.
@Jigjon99 plz answer here bro
@mrgg11 I did but maybe it didnāt go through. It does not mean your gay. Thatās your ocd brain playing games. Itās ok to have anxiety around intimacy with your girl, doesnāt mean you donāt like women.
@Jigjon99 eurotophobia*
@mrgg11 Ocd is a real sob sometimes
@Jigjon99 any advice bro
@mrgg11 Just try to remember that thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are not fact. Try to stay in the moment and out of your head. I know itās easier said than done.
@Jigjon99 so this mean im not gay right?
If your not attracted to men, I would say no.
@Jigjon99 i have like false attraction.
@Jigjon99 look at eurotophobia fear of vagina
@Jigjon99 im scared asf i dont want lose girl that i love so much
@mrgg11 Do you see someone professionally?
@Jigjon99 what
@Jigjon99 in what ascpect you think?
@mrgg11 Like do you see a psychologist to talk you through these fears and anxieties.
@Jigjon99 oh no i dont know im scared bro im scared that im gay i know i got ocd but i sont know im scared of sex and of everything
@Jigjon99 i know i cant imagine life with boys
@Jigjon99 any advice?
@mrgg11 I would recommend getting a therapist involved to help you navigate through these issues. Iāve been seeing one since I was a teenager and it has been life changing in the best way.
@Jigjon99 you had those problems?
@mrgg11 Not specifically, my obsessions are based around āloveā and why I donāt feel it towards my wife and children.
i couldn't take this anymore. maybe i'll just let ocd win this time. it's too hard to not have a clear conscience everytime i'm with my bf cuz my mind is telling me i'm unfaithful and don't deserve to be happy. i feel like i'll never get better anymore. i already told myself many times to stop attracting attention from other people especially to people i'm having false attraction to. but i did it again yesterday, right after i smiled a little extra in front of that girl i might be attracted to i could feel the massive anxiety in my chest. already decided last week that i might be actually attracted to her so it's best to fully avoid her. i avoided her with the best i could, but we're in the same classroom and i saw her in my peripheral vision looking at us (my bf and i) whispered to myself not to make any mistake i'll regret, but then i felt like i lose control and laugh a little extra. i searched micro cheating and it says there "trying to impress someone you're attracted to" and now i want to break up with my bf. the guilt is too strong. i couldn't sleep at night.
Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where thereās something my bf did that I feel like Iām not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I donāt want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like Iām going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself āhe never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were togetherā but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. Heās given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so Iām just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I wouldāve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing heās done wrong was before us becoming official. Iāve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I ācanāt live with itā but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I donāt know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think itās both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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