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- idont241
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Every question you ask is reassurance seeking what if questions. Although people with ocd can related especually thise that share your theme its not going to solve the problem by asking these questions and most people who are somewhat educated on this issue know it wont help you to answer. Why not try asking for sone strategies and advise on how to work through this? There is a solution that works but you hace to be willing to try. I dont want to sound harsh or unsympathetic that isnt intention. But your going through this cycle day in and day out. It sounds painful.
Understandable. Your spending all your mental energy trying to figure out the answer to a question. Its exhausting it really is. Its like running a marathon in your mind with no finish line. OCD will make you doubt any and all possible answers. That is why there is the word disorder in ocd. Its why someone without ocd wouod be satisfied if they said to themselves said "yea i am gay". People with ocd this doesnt work because youll always be like "what if im not"?. Or vise versa it doesnt matter. This is a mental illness. Therefore you have to look at this differently then regular people: 1- You have to tell yourself you might never answer this question to your satisfaction. 2- You need to try and stop ruminating on this topic. This is so hard to do. Every second you stop thinking about it your doing something good for yourself. Use that as enouragement when you realize you stopped thinking about it even if you didnt do it on purpose. Just to show yourself you can. Like if you got distracted somehow just to prove it to yourself that it can happen. You can not think about it sometimes. 3- Learn to sit with anxiety. When you ruminate your trying to oush away the anxiety related to the question. If you can pause the thinking and focus on how anxious you feel you are actually helping yourself. I hope you can find some will to try and do some of these things. They really work. People want to help but at the end of the day only you can make that decision or not.
I would tell what I do that kind of helps but it’s more of a compulsion and that would make it worse
Gay people say it felt normal and like them. Does it feel like that to me?? I honestly don’t know. I am doubting everything. Do I even enjoy this? Is this me? Do I like This?
Do I fantasize about women and enjoy it? Do I want a girlfriend? I am doubting EVERYTHING
I don’t know what to do. It feels too real. As if I want this and I don’t know why I don’t pursue it then? It’s so confusing. I don’t know anything everything is a blur. I can’t even answer the simplest things and it’s killing me
Please tell me then. It’s fine
It sounds dumb but if you don’t wanna try it on a real person here’s the route to go, You get a pillow or anything, you act like it’s a girl and you give it a smooch. And your emotions and body will pretty much answer your question. Also I’m sorry if this harms you in any way shape or form, I didn’t mean for it to hurt your OCD or anything
Maybe I didn't always have pure o but I think my perception of myself has been off for a long time. Feeling weird or different or flawed most of my life. Being made fun of and told I was weird growing up didn't help. Anyone else?
If I’ve been aware of being aroused by certain things in the past but just now think it means something, is that the same as someone coming to the realization they’re gay? Maybe I have always known, and that’s what scares me the most
Yk how people always say that you would know since childhood or early teen years what your sexuality was even if you didn’t acknowledge or question it? That truly scares me because now I’m question did I secretly know I was bi or gay and just didn’t pay attention to those moments? Was I attracted to men without realizing it ? Did I just push it aside and focused on woman? I’m so lost because for all my life I’ve considered myself straight but now it feels like I’ve been having short moments in my life that I knew I was something besides that. I truly don’t know if this is ocd convincing me or if I’m just to deep in denial to admit it. I’m so lost and feel so alone.
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