Oh god someone please help me!! 😭 I need help!! I don’t wanna break up! But it’s like I really want to and due to me believing I don’t love him!!! 😢😢😢😭😭😭 please!! Did anyone recover from thinking they didn’t love their partner of ROCD anxiety and depression!?!? Am I just too afraid too break up is that it!!!!!!!!! My 12 year relationship is gonna die!!! Please!! I don’t wanna break up!!!!
Sit with that anxiety. Sit with it. Run towards it. It’s the ONLY way out. You running away from it intensifies it. Stop trying to force your intrusive thoughts and feelings out. Just because you thought it, or felt it, doesn’t it make it reality.
It's OKAY I've been there and still struggle with it... but I've realized it's a fact we have feelings but feelings aren't fact. Whenever I'm uncomfortable for WHATEVER reason, my mind attaches onto things I love and tries to blame it. For me my mind decided that I'm not happy in life so it must be my boyfriend (who is super supportive and would never hurt a fly). It got to the point I'd get sick around him, so nervous, guessing and checking my feelings. Blah blah blah it's a never ending loop until you stop letting the thoughts have such a hard hold of you... also one thing to consider that helps me. People fall out of love, people feel indifferent about their partners sometimes. Those butterfly feelings or even warm feelings sometimes isn't even there and that's OK. The good news is, if it's a relationship worth fighting for (which showing your concern means it IS) then you can work on falling back in love. The brain gets bored, that's normal. After 12 years I'm sure things have settled and maybe gotten pretty predictable. There's a comfort to that, but sometimes your brain doesn't crave comfort, it wants NEW, FUN, EXCITING. Basically our brains are looking for that happy chemical release. Once you realize that, and realize love isn't like the Hollywood movies, it gets alot easier. You fell out of love.. congrats, it's normal. Now work on trying new things, experimenting, eye contact, active listening and building up a new kind of love that will last years to come. It's okay. Also keep in mind, what I said above I'd of course if it's not just ocd attacking your mind. If it is, then at least you know and start working on that. Hope this helps 🙏
Yes! I have got through this. You WILL be ok. Hang in there. Remember that OCD laches onto the things you care about most, your relationship. Stay strong and let the thoughts be there without trying to make them go away. YOU GOT THIS❤️❤️❤️
Make a loop tape of a break up letter. Sounds crazy but write it, listen to it, and repeat. You may have to start smaller if you can’t do that right now. Sit with the uncomfortable feelings. Feelings are temporary and they will pass. Even if it doesn’t feel like it. Some days I’ll have a flare up but other days I don’t have a thought. Complete 180 from a year ago. You can do this. You can do hard things.
@Anonymous Such a great idea.
I obsessed and obsessed to this point!!! 😰😢😭😭😭😭
please…. Someone help me!!! 😭
i get you. i’m 12 and i’m in a relationship. it’s hard because i try to break us up all the time because i self sabotage sometimes. i like to think that if I push people away and it ends up not working out then since i pushed them away it will hurt less. but it never does. do whatever you feel is necessary. If you really want to break up with them to do it. I’m sorry I’m not really good at giving advice :(
My rocd is spiraling so bad i feel like I’m terrible and can’t recover 😓 idk wuts real anymore yet ik i never wanna leave my man😓whats wrong w me
I believe I have ROCD — at least, that’s what many people here have told me based on what I’ve shared — and I really need help, because I feel like I’m falling apart. I don’t know what I feel anymore. I don’t know what’s real. My thoughts come as loud, cold statements — not questions. They say things like: “Nothing is the same.” “You don’t love him.” “You’re just staying because you’re used to him.” And even though I know I’m supposed to let the thoughts pass and not engage with them — I can’t. I get stuck in them. I try to find answers, I ruminate, I check, I cry, I panic. Everyone says “love isn’t just a feeling” — and I know that. But… I still want to feel something. I want to feel warmth, or connection, or even just peace. It’s been so long since I felt anything like that. Now everything just feels empty or terrifying or cold. My brain only gives me negative interpretations. No memory brings me comfort anymore. Nothing feels like it used to. And the worst part is — it all feels true. Sometimes I think: “What if I’m just denying the truth?” “What if I’ve finally realized that I don’t love him, and I just don’t want to admit it?” This feels like the worst version of myself. I’m so confused and scared and tired. Even therapy didn’t help — my therapist said things that made it worse, and now I don’t know who or what to believe anymore. I just want help. I want to know how to face ROCD — if that’s what this really is. I want to believe I can feel love again. I don’t want to lose myself in this forever. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you start to get better? i cant even remember past good memories with him, my head tells me that i didnt love him and i was just “excited “ to have someone. We have 2 years together and i have been dealing with this for a year and a half.
Hi. I wanted to stop posting here, but I can’t hold it in anymore. I’m feeling so lost. I’m in a relationship that, from the outside, looks wonderful. We’ve been together for 2 years. He loves me deeply. He’s kind and caring. And still… I can’t feel anything. I can’t imagine a future with him — living together, starting a family, growing old. When I try, it feels like something in me shuts down, like it’s wrong. I don’t feel happiness in the relationship. I don’t feel love, warmth, or comfort. I feel anxiety, numbness, guilt, and fear. We fight over the smallest things. My thoughts scream that I don’t love him, that I’m forcing this, that I’m just used to him. The scariest part is: sometimes I feel okay, even calm. And that’s when it hits me — “What if this calm means I’ve accepted the truth? What if I don’t love him?” It feels like I’m in shock. Like I’m finally seeing clearly… but I’m terrified that it’s a clarity I never wanted. I don’t know what’s real anymore. I just know that I’m exhausted. And I want peace. If anyone else has felt this — the numbness, the fear, the doubt that feels like the truth — please tell me how you’ve gotten through it. I don’t want to lose him. But I also don’t want to keep living like this. i know that people reading this will tell me to leave. but i dont have any reasons. All the problems started because of my never ending thoughts. i feel like i ruin everything. i feel like i have changed. im so lost and scared. i dont understand what is happening. It feels so real. im in agony, im crying so much. I wasnt always like this. i am trying to remember times i felt better and i cant. i cant feel anything. its so hard. i can’t explain how i feel and in scared what are you going to respond if someone will. i usually see “if you feel so bad then leave” but its not like that. he loves me so much and if the thoughts werent there it would gave been so different. everything was perfect. but i keep thinking that when the thoughts started, one and a half years ago, i realised that “i just dont like him” and gbat i couldn’t accept the truth and i am denying it. i feel fake. do i even have rocd? or is this cope?? why do i feel like this. why does it feel so real? please somebody help me
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