y’all i’m so stressed out, my bf has hsv1 and idk how to take it, like i’m not okay with the risk of getting it because it scares me.. ion want anything permanently but i do love the guy.. i’ve been thru rocd and we overcame a lot, he’s the sweetest but it’s like.. can i really get past this? i’m scared and my anxiety is really bad
I know it is. If you have a NOCD therapist or therapist of some other kind it might help to talk to them about it. Sometimes time can help, I used to worry every time I kissed or was intimate with my bf that I was gonna give it to him and now I barely think about it. Best of luck ❤️
@emdee Yes! I’m really hoping time does it’s thing, cus it’s tough! I worry every time we kiss or be intimate! I might look into dental dams as well! Thanks a lot ❤️
Hsv shouldn’t be a deal breaker in of itself but maybe how your anxiety and ocd responds to it might be. It might be helpful to become more educated on hsv and do a test yourself as a lot of people carry the virus and are asymptomatic. I wouldn’t date someone because they had it and I had mad health anxiety about it and then I ended up getting it myself from the next person I dated who didn’t have the decency to disclose that to me. And it’s no big deal, I’ve had 3 cold sores in 2 years. But yeah the anxiety I went through over getting it I would have like to avoid.
@emdee I appreciate you for responding to me.. i think OCD makes it a lot worse.. I just worry about getting it down there especially when we have oral sex.. but do you think it could’ve been avoided if that person had disclosed.. since it’s so easily passed.. i worry about it.. since it can be passed with no symptoms but i suppose paying attention to your body can help
@FunkyFred I understand your worry, I think ocd makes it a lot worse and it certainly did for me. I worry about passing it to my partner that way but he is ok with the risk. I went on meds to lower the risk which could be an option for your partner. The person who gave it to me was also giving me oral sex and I managed to only contract it on my mouth. I got really obsessive over it and would check down there multiple times daily for basically a year which was pure ocd torture. I think if they had disclosed it might not have changed things but it would have been the right thing to do. It turned out they recently had a cold sore and if I knew I would have waited longer after it healed to have contact and maybe that would have prevented. If it makes you feel any better, I have yet to pass it to my partner (that I know of) and my mom has had it for almost 30 years and my dad doesn’t
@emdee thank you so much, i don’t want to completely cut him off because of it.. i don’t wanna risk it but i do love him.. & everyone keeps saying majority of ppl have it.. but thanks so much! it did make me feel much better!
@FunkyFred I get it, ocd makes things like this so much more difficult. You love him but you want to avoid being constantly worried about getting it. Does he know how you feel about it?
@emdee Yes he knows, he gets annoyed with me about it cus he says i never stop bothering him about it.. but he’s doing all he can do to prevent transmission. Ugh this is really difficult
anyone else have ROCD that has no desire to kiss their boyfriend, I almost feel like an ick when I do, I'm scared. Help!
I don’t know what to do I’ve been seeing this guy for roughly 4-5 months and I like him so much like he could be the one. He was in town for something for most of the time we’ve been seeing each other but he recently moved back to his state which is pretty far away. I’m absolutely terrified that I’m going to accidentally get an STD from somewhere like a toilet seat or the other day after taking the bus home I forgot to wash or sanitize my hands before wiping plus I’ve had coworkers and even my roommate admit that they’ve had chlamydia and one has HSV. I’m terrified that I’ll get something and he’ll think I cheated and we’ve both been hurt like that before and I wouldn’t want to put him through that or have him think that of me. I’ve been trying to not google anything or go to the doctors bc those are my compulsion and reassurance seeking things but nothing is helping it’s to the point I don’t want to use the bathroom or do anything does anyone have any tips to help it’s starting to effect my life I know this isn’t possible but I keep thinking it would just be my luck that I’d the odd one out it does happen to
my ocd and anxiety has been so bad a couple of days… so i started liking this guy that i am friends with and we also went to prom together… after prom, i caught feelings for him even more because he’s so respectful and nice… but he is also a boy that acts like one… but overall he’s rlly sweet.. the other day though since we go to the same school we were in the parking lot after school with our friends just talking and socializing… but once he was leaving i went to go give him a hug and hugged me… my other guy friend was with us who’s also friends with him and hugged him too and whispered in his ear and said “yo u and sav would be a good couple” and he nodded saying “yes” (my guy friend told me that) so eventually i told him saying “yeah i like him” blah blah but there is a problem that bothers me so badly… my friend likes him… i didn’t tell her for a while until i think my OCD was just bothering me sm if i didn’t tell her so i told her how i felt and i was just saying like “i don’t want this to ruin our friendship or anything but i have feelings for him…” yada yada… she was like “i understand but if i’m honest with u if u ask him out i will be upset” i’m just like i wasn’t planning to rlly i can’t tell if he rlly likes me anyways but i didn’t say that… i said “i’m just telling u how i feel” and she goes “i mean i would see u guys anyways because u guys are closer” then she says “can i ask u something and a non rude way” and i was like sure…. she goes “since i’m the first person that liked him can i give it a try if it doesn’t work that’s that” and i was like girl idk it’s Gods plan if it doesn’t work it doesn’t if it does it does” and i’m saying that in the most mature and respectful way yk? because i am christian i’ve been praying about it also. so we were good after that but my anxiety and OCD has been so horrible… i’m uncomfortable around them because she flirts with him but i don’t and she did it on ft when i fell asleep on ft and my best friend was on there and had to hear it….she told me that he does it back she just can’t tell if he’s joking or not… but i’m so overwhelmed about it i’m having thoughts like “what if u and him stop being friends” … “what if something bad happens” …. “what if ur not confident in yourself enough where he won’t like you” …. “what if this is a love triangle” i’m just so sick of this and i don’t wanna be so distraught over a stupid boy because i’ve been through sm with my past talking stage thinking it will work but now im like rlly cauious over being in a relationship now…
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