7710 ❤️
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I…
I love him but why can’t stop this… When I try to not obsess I hear in my mind saying “I wanna break up” over and over before…
Kallie Kallie
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I've been there, you just gotta wait it out
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous I kept testing myself saying I wanna break up to test myself…. I damaged myself….
chatalachatala
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I have been there, you just have to realize it’s the OCD saying that and not you. OCD tends to attack the things you love most. Hang in there!
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@chatala It’s not going away!! It’s been 10 days… I am worried I just don’t want him anymore…. I obsessed about our issues and it makes me wanna leave!!!! I wanna love him! I…. I hope I can get thru this…😰
EmilyCruceEmilyCruce
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I’m so sorry to hear your dealing with such distressing thoughts! Intrusive thoughts can seem so loud and real in the moment. Remember, trying to analyze them or trying to push them away will give them more power. Non-engagement techniques can work wonders! Best of luck!!
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@EmilyCruce This doesn’t seem like ROCD… I don’t know if this stuff blended into my personality or whatever…
Kallie Kallie
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@7710 ❤️ But okay so worst comes to worst it's not your ocd. You are obviously upset about this which shows you care, so then focus on falling back in love. ALL relationships go through these phases and sometimes you won't want your partner or you think about other people. That's OK and natural. We are humans with ideas and brains that constantly chase feelings. Now the important part is that you turn towards eachother and remind yourself why you love eachother. Some people go years in a relationship with ruts, only to pick themselves back up and falk back in love with eachother. Not feeling love is NOT a death sentence in a relationship. Give yourself some grace, you got this
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous I don’t wanna. Break up!! 😭😭 I don’t want this to be me!!! This can’t be real!! I still show love to him I still say I love you! I want to choose him! I don’t wanna end up ending my relationship! I can’t stop crying!! I love him I know I do! I am hiding my face from him so he doesn’t see me cry….
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous 😭😭😭
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous I just want my relationship back. This can’t be real!!! It can’t be!! 😭😰
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@7710 ❤️ I need this to stop!! All I have been doing is crying all day today and yesterday….
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous Not real!! Not real!!!
Kallie Kallie
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@7710 ❤️ You got this, I've been there and my love cane back. But you gotta stop checking ans guessing
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous It’s just how am I gonna get past this… 😞
7710 ❤️7710 ❤️
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@Anonymous It wasn’t like this 2 weeks ago.. I obsessed but had happy moments and knew I loved him a lot.. I just want to love him but am I just in denial… I just want my happy moments so I can be happy with my partner. But then at work it gets bad bc it makes me believe I have crushes on people. I just don’t know… I obsessed about it for so many years.. 😞 he is the one person I truly care about… I mean that with all my heart. I love him. I can’t even touch him without feeling guilt.. I just want this to stop so badly…
Kallie Kallie
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@7710 ❤️ And it will but with time and patience. I've been there, I did bath things in my relationship because I thought I didn't love him. Guess what? I didn't get those warm butterfly feelings with him anymore and I was going crazy. I'll call myself out but I looked for it under the covers with other people, only to realize whatever relationship I'm in I'd "lose feelings". After going through this awful journey I realized love isn't about those infatuation feelings. GIRL, they end with anyone, that's strictly a biological thing for reproduction. Real love is working past those feelings, doing it together and making it work
Kallie Kallie
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@7710 ❤️ Your crushes is your minds way of trying to achieve that feeling. Brain is so stupid, brain doesn't know any better. But we do. We aren't just impulses, we choose what we do
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Anonymous
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- 25w
I feel like I don’t love him sometimes 💔
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cam123
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- 22w
Stressing about my relationship
Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a short period of time....and he's head over heels for me...at least he says so. All the time I'm so scared he's going to break up with me or any time something is uncomfortable I shut down and think I did something or he's thinking about me in a negative way and I don't know how to stop it. He doesn't do anything to seem like he wants to break up with me, but any time he does something a little different then normal I immediately think of the worst. If he's being really quiet I'll be thinking *is he going to break up with me* *does he not want to be with me* *is he just hanging out with me right now because he wants a girlfriend to pass the time* all of that stuff. And honestly I'm so scared..... because what if my thoughts are true?
MM311
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- Date posted
- 19w
relationship ocd?
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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