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you’ve been down this road before and you can get through it again! Ocd would like you to ruminate and think that you can “figure it out” come to a realization or a conclusion. Lies, lies! The best way out of this is to acknowledge what happened. Tell yourself “maybe I did have a groinal response” but I’m choosing to accept the uncertainty of that situation and move on. If this situation happened to me, my therapist would like me to use this situation as an exposure, acknowledge and agree with what ocd says I am and sit with the anxiety. In the end, what changes? Our actions define us, not thoughts or our feelings. In the end, a thought is still a thought. You have my support, man , you can do this!
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As someone with pocd who has been through the dark and recovering, and who works in pediatrics, I still struggle with the same thoughts and feelings around kids. You aren’t alone! The only way I’ve been able to get through is keep on with the coping skills and ERP! You got this!
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It’s definitely not you, OCD’s a real mental disorder and it doesn’t define any part of your morality! The fact that you feel awful, as I’m sure you’re aware, means that you aren’t a bad person. Honestly, it means you’re a good one. You’ve got a disorder that makes your brain do stuff you don’t want it to do, and since your brain is in charge of your body’s reactions, groinal responses can happen. It doesn’t mean a thing. Just that you have OCD. The tricky part is that the less you fear these things and ruminate on them, the less frequent these incidents will be. It relies on you being freaked out. It’s a hard road, but you’re already on it. The first step is always reminding yourself that it isn’t you.
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Thank you :)
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You also have to think about the “senses”- stuff like that is almost a reflex- does not mean you’d act or actually think that way.
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I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
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Every time I go to bed late and I’m falling asleep, I suddenly get an intrusive thought of a child’s face and my groinal area always responds to it. It’s such an uncomfortable experience. I am way too tired to try and freak out so I end up falling asleep. The next morning I’m always trying to figure out whether I had the groinal response first or after the thought. I start giving OCD power but it feels like If I let it go, then I’m in denial or whatever. I don’t want to ever do anything sexual with a child. I don’t even feel comfortable talking platonically with people who are 17, much less a child. My therapist says that I have a deep rooted fear that I’m this horrible person and that OCD loves to feed off of it. When you get a groinal response, it makes the thought that much more real. I never want these things to happen. I want to only be into adults. It’s so discomforting and stressful. Especially since I’m hyper checking how anxious I am, and if I find I didn’t really have much anxiety, then I’m like “well if I didn’t have anxiety, what does this mean?” And more questions occur til I end up in a rabbit hole
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I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
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