MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

On the other side now

I struggled with hocd for a good 4-5 months and can now say that I am like 95% free of symptoms(occasionally get anxious and some thoughts but they just come and go) I’ve had some episodes of other odds like TOCD and some Harm OCD but at the end of the day it’s ocd. My best piece of advice is accept that your fear may or not be true and don’t spend a single second trying to solve it or analyze it. Remember everyone else lives with the same uncertainty as us we just give it more meaning so stop trying to be certain. If you have any questions lmk.

Sexual Orientation OCD

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

Also one more piece of advice stop going on this app asking if ur symptom is normal or not or going on Reddit or whatever internet source to find an answer. Just don’t give af about what is going on in your head as hard as that is and eventually you just won’t care. I never thought I could beat it but here I am living the life I was before and honestly even better.

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

I lost myself i had false crushes false attraxtion i have gf and its so hard i cant have sex i cant anything

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Let those feeling pass through and don’t try to figure out at all what it means just keep going on in life. Remember no compulsions idc if it’s feels real or not. Remember at the end of the day say ur fear comes true who cares, gay people are happy to be gay, I’m not saying this to scare you but just be ok with the idea of being gay I promise you stop trying to figure it out. You might be gay you might not. Ask yourself would rather be anxious/depressed 24/7 or just allow yourself to accept that your fear might be true.

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 Only way to beat this is to stop finding an answer and let it play out. You have to be willing to accept that you are gay and that your so far in denial that you just never realized it or that this whole thing is just ocd I promise you just stop figuring it out and whatever the outcome is your life will be 1000x times better

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 can i ask u some questions?

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 when i touch private part of girl i get anxionity or when i look at them like im scared to that

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Ok who cares don’t think about what it means maybe it might mean your gay or it doesn’t just move on. The more and more u analyze how you feel about one sex towards the other the worse you make ocd.

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 but when i think about it maybe yes maybe no it make me calm cuz its saying im not gay

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Like I said in my main post stop trying to figure out what you are let the thoughts come in and don’t ruminate about them or reassure yourself. I promise you as soon as you give up trying to find an answer you will get better.

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 this about private part is not ocd im turned on on girl and everytging but when i see it i am getting off and like anxionity is around me you got instagram?

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 You need to stop reassuring yourself and stop telling yourself your not gay.

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Yea I do

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 you got instagram to i ask you some questions?

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@MichaelAlex03 name?

MichaelAlex03

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Michael.llev

geodrimilis

Date posted: 22w

How to counter hocd (in my opinion)

Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.

Sexual Orientation OCD

jwall2.0

Date posted: 18w

Looking for HOCD / SO OCD advice

Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.

Anonymous

Date posted: 13w

Any Advice?

Hey everyone, just wanted to post an honest update on where I’m at in my HOCD recovery. Right now, I'm stuck in what feels like a 24/7 spike — nonstop thoughts, intrusive sensations, identity doubts, and hyperfocus. The worst part? It feels real. Like I’ve “lost,” like I’ve accepted it, like I am gay. The thoughts don't feel like anxiety anymore — they feel like truth. I’ve been trying to do ERP, but the spike has been so constant I don’t even have to “do exposures” — the thoughts, feelings, and sensations are just there all day long. It’s like living inside an exposure. And it’s exhausting. BUT — here’s what I’ve been doing (and what I’m sticking to now): I say once: “These thoughts and feelings are welcome to stay for as long as they want.” I let the doubt, the feelings, the hyperfocus exist. I don’t check, test, or analyze — even when it screams at me. I live my life anyway — folding clothes, watching TV, eating, walking — with the storm in my head. Even when it feels 100% real. Even when I’m fully focused on it. I’ve stopped trying to feel better. I’m letting it all burn — and just not fixing it. It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel like progress.

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