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Trust me, if you been dealing with this for an extended period of time. Your mind is gonna trick you and make you think that because you think of it it’s true.. and that maybe you want x or y to happen. When deep down you know that’s not true.
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@Anonimo05 2 years straight…
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@Anonimo05 I had my happy moments where I knew I truly love him. But I am really scared that I’m not in love with him anymore… 😢 I don’t know if this is true or not anymore or if the ROCD completely made me obsess about our issues and flaws… when i try to reason with it it doesn’t work… 😢 I heard a podcast where the ROCD can make things seem bigger than they are… I know we have issues that can be solved. My partner said we can’t solve them if you’re always stuck in this mind set all the time..
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@Anonimo05 I can’t tell what’s real anymore.. but I know when I am happy and know I love him. I am able to enjoy myself by drawing or playing my video games. I can actually talk to people
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@Anonimo05 I keep say I know I don’t love him but I don’t get a reaction anymore 💔😭
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@7710 ❤️ I do it so I can see if I get anxiety
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@7710 ❤️ That's a compulsion doing that, and the reason you don't get an anxious reaction anymore is because your just used to the thought/compulsion. Its basically like exposure responsive therapy, you expose yourself to the 'threat' or fear and you get used to it eventually and it no longer causes you anxiety. 🙂
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@OCDsucks22 response **
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Seeking reassurance here is a compulsion. Checking your feelings/anxiety to certain stimuli is a compulsion. You should write them down, and when you feel the urge to do them, resist. I am also tempted at times to view love as feeling/contentment and not as commitment/action, but that is not the way to go. Focusing on your feelings and trying to "reason" with OCD keeps us going in loops. You can break out, you can do this.
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@JB1020 I gave into one… saying I didn’t love my partner… I know I love him I do I really do. I can’t take feeling this way anymore 😢💔
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Bro I got over that fear I think but now I feel like I don't wanna be inlove with him no more is that rocd or am I just losing feelings I couldn't fins anything on the internet about it
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If it feels like OCD it's always OCD 🙂, if there's doubt it's OCD
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@OCDsucks22 Why? I feel very doubt and anxiety when I thougth "I don't wanna be inlove with him" I don't know what I want
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@Lanaaa_012 If I'm not the only person who's having this feeling then it's ocd guys 2 more people said they hade this feeling
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@11/27/21 can you describe how exactly you feel?
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@Lanaaa_012 Idk I only felt it once today was thr first time it was like ididny wanna be with him abd it annoyed me
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@11/27/21 I feel that way too!!, my biggest doubt is if I really want to go or stay it causes me a lot of anxiety
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@Lanaaa_012 First it qas if I love him now it's this he's so sportive bro. text on ig??
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@11/27/21 Sorry, I don't understand
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@Lanaaa_012 Lmaoo wanna text on Instagram better
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@11/27/21 Ohh yes!, its l_hanna011
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@11/27/21 what is your Instagram??
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@Lanaaa_012 I will follow you right now
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@Lanaaa_012 Followed my account is private
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It hurts so much to write that. Lately, every time I talk to my boyfriend — whether it’s through text or in person — I feel this deep irritation, like everything he says or does annoys me. Sometimes, it even feels like disgust, and it’s terrifying. I don’t feel love. I don’t feel excitement. I don’t even feel sadness about not feeling anything… just numb. I look at him and I don’t feel like I used to. I don’t know what happened to me. I used to be so sure I loved him, and now I feel like a completely different person — cold, distant, empty. My brain keeps telling me: “You don’t love him anymore. You never did. You’re only staying out of habit.” My mom told me that if I don’t like him anymore, then I’m hurting both him and myself by staying in this. And hearing that broke me. Because that’s exactly what I fear — that I’m faking everything, and I just don’t want to admit the truth. I feel so lost. And I don’t know how to separate my thoughts from reality anymore. All I know is that I want to feel something again — anything. Because right now, all I feel is guilt, fear, and confusion. i used to know these thoughts are just thoughts and that if i didn’t have them i would be so happy but now, i cant think aboyr that bc the thoughts feel too real.
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My boyfriend just poured his heart out to me. He told me how much pain he’s in — how disconnected he feels from me, how hurt he is that we’re not intimate, that I don’t react to his love, that we don’t feel like a couple anymore. He said things that should’ve broken my heart… but I felt nothing. Nothing. And now I’m terrified. Not just scared — destroyed by the thought that maybe I really don’t love him, and I’ve just been lying to myself this entire time. I keep thinking: “If I loved him, wouldn’t I feel something?” “Why didn’t I cry? Why didn’t I reach for him? Why didn’t I say ‘I’m sorry’?” “What kind of person listens to someone they care about and feels absolutely nothing?” I feel like I’ve been fighting this for so long — like I’ve spent months, maybe even years, battling the same thoughts over and over again: “You don’t love him.” “You’re just used to him.” “You want to want him — but you don’t.” And what makes it worse is that everyone around me says the same thing: “Maybe you’re forcing it.” “You can’t control how you feel.” “If you’re this confused, that means something.” But what no one seems to understand is that I’ve tried so hard. I didn’t want this. I didn’t choose to become cold. I didn’t choose to stop feeling things. I didn’t want to lose my ability to love — or to connect — or to just exist next to him without questioning every single breath I take. I feel like I’ve become someone else. Someone who doesn’t react. Someone who doesn’t smile when he’s kind. Someone who doesn’t feel warmth when he says “I love you.” But this isn’t who I was. There was a time when I loved hearing his voice. When I looked forward to seeing him. When I felt. And now… nothing. Just this endless cycle of doubt, guilt, numbness, fear, and the horrible thought: “If it feels this real, maybe it is.” I don’t know what this is anymore. I feel like I’m hurting him. And I feel like I’m losing myself, too. And the most terrifying part? I don’t feel anything about that either. But if I truly didn’t care — why does this hurt so much? If anyone else has ever felt like this… please, please tell me I’m not alone. I don’t want this to be the truth. I don’t want to lose him. But I also don’t want to keep living like this.
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Lately, I’ve been feeling like something has changed in me — like I have changed, and like my feelings for my boyfriend have faded or shifted. It’s one of the worst sensations I’ve ever felt. I keep thinking things like “I don’t love him like before” or “I’ve changed too much to feel anything now.” Sometimes when he calls me or makes a joke, I get irritated for no reason. I feel like I’m being mean, cold, disconnected — and then guilt crashes down on me. I remember how I used to feel: warm, close, expressive. And now… I just don’t feel the same. That makes me think: “Maybe I’ve fallen out of love.” But I’m also constantly anxious. I overthink every moment. I can’t relax into anything without analyzing if what I feel is “right.” It makes me wonder — maybe I haven’t actually changed. Maybe I’m just overwhelmed and tired from months of these thoughts and fears. I don’t know how to feel right now. I just want to believe that this disconnection isn’t proof that love is gone, but a sign that I’m scared and burnt out.
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