7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

Rocd trick..

People say love is a choice but how can it be!?. .. I constantly wanna choose to with him but it’s like my mind is made up that I wanna break up… constantly thinking our problems can’t be solved when they can if we make effort. But I know somewhere deep down I love him. I have some moments of knowing even if they are tiny… I constantly obsess believing I don’t so when I am around him I hear I wanna break up even though it’s not me. Then there are times I say I wanna break up bc I believe I could feel better again and things between my partner and I can go back to normal… but it doesn’t seem that way… it’s like my brain is ready to move on from the relationship when I honestly don’t want to move on without him. I just want the good times and good moments back with him again. I don’t wanna end my relationship. 😭😭💔💔

Relationship OCD

NS1234

Date posted: 2y

I know , me too. It’s sticks for some time sometimes . You should try to speak to a therapist. It will help. These are just thoughts , fake thoughts , you’re going to be okay

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

@NS1234 They don’t feel fake… 💔 during my happy moments I knew I loved him so much… I miss hugs so badly long hugs 😭💔

NS1234

Date posted: 2y

I know , I hear you. I feel that way too and it’s awful. It’s happened before to me and it goes away over time , just be patient

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

@NS1234 I’ve had this for over 20 days… non stop.. 💔😢 I don’t know how to stop it… I had no relief moments at all 💔💔💔

NS1234

Date posted: 2y

I know me too. I’m just numb right now

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

@NS1234 Like there is hope that things can go back to normal with my partner again…

Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y

This is tough to read because it hits so close to home. I have felt all the same feelings and doubts myself. The strong inner thought that breaking up and moving on is the way to go when you don’t want to is painful and consuming and feels so very real. This is classic ROCD and the answer is getting help through OCD therapy. This is very treatable but unlikely to get better without treatment. It actually can get worse. Also, it will come back in future relationships, should this one be ended by you, for example. I am in therapy now with NOCD and the skills you learn are great. I’m seeing forward motion. It takes time and hard work but I strongly encourage you to do the same course of treatment because ROCD is so debilitating. There is hope and a way to move on when you see a therapist. There are a lot of skills (too many with too much complexity to explain on here,) but I will encourage you to try your best to stop dwelling. Trying to find answers and certainty feeds your OCD. The more reassurance you get from yourself and others, the stronger the viscous cycle becomes and you’ll wind up in a worse place with actually less certainty. I am so sorry you’re going through this pain. You’re not alone and things can get better.

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

@Brendan =] How bad can it get!?!!!

Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y

@7710 ❤️ I’m not entirely sure how bad it can get, as it’s different for everyone. But I would encourage you to start working on treatment before it has the chance.

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

I don’t wanna end this one! 😭😭😭💔💔💔

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

https://nocd.page.link/vSMPHUsBXiW44Jzg7

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y

Please !!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

Rocd -feeling like relief would be to breakup

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months but seriously talking for around 8. I have never met anyone so perfect and amazing. I love him so much. Into our talking stage i kissed my ex situation-ship and ever since have been dealing with the consequences. He forgave me and gave me another chance and i have shown him how much i care every day since. He is over it now since it was only in our talking stage. I have had thoughts with my ex name, thoughts i hate my boyfriend, always constantly thinking if im bored, if i love him. It switches day by day and impacts my life constantly. I don’t feel like myself at all. Some days i can’t do it. I just want to be happy and secure with him. my thought from the past few days is that i want to be single and hook up with other people. I don’t actually want to hook up with others but i feel so terrible and guilty. Does anyone else deal with this? Sometimes i can’t tell the difference between my real thoughts and the fake ones. I have been debating breaking up with my boyfriend because i feel like it’s best but i would be so sad. He is perfect and i see myself marrying him.

WhoAmIReally

Date posted: 24w

I am not doing well. ROCD

I feel like I want to break up with my partner and go off and experience things like falling in love and butterflies and magic again. My partner is my home and my family and my rock and we’re compatible but sometimes it feels like I have these unfulfilled needs. And then ocd comes in and SCREAMS about these things and pulls me away from my partner. We’ve been together ten years. It says leave leave leave leave leave. And I feel like deep down I don’t want to stay. But I know love is a choice. How can I choose to stay when my body is screaming rub. I know I have ocd, and this is what ocd feels like, and I also have a lot of trauma regards to attachment. Am I being a coward??? Will this ever end?

Relationship OCD

Firefly girl

Date posted: 21w

Rocd

I’m so confused if the breakup was the right decision I felt so confident about it in the moment but now I feel the opposite I don’t understand how my emotions can switch up on me this much

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