About exposures in HOCD

@Anonymous Yeah, can you elaborate? Is good to meet people who are going through the same. It has been really hard for me when I feel like I’m aroused with my thoughts or watching images. To be honest I didn’t understand it before, but my therapist said that it’s a way from your body to make you react about sonething that scares you. I know it’s really confusing, but the more you try to make it go away, the more it sticks. I hate it so much, but arousal doesn’t necessary means attraction or preferences in your sexual orientation. I know it sucks believe me, there’s nothing I would want more to make that feeling go away.

@Anonymous Yeah thats exactly how I feel sometimes, it’s really confusing cause sometimes it’s really strong. Like sometimes it’s hard to believe that it’s just a groinal response, but I guess it’s just that. I know it’s really confusing.

@mrgg11 No, I don’t. I wish tho haha

@mrgg11 Damn that’s really hard for me too. Like when you go on vacation and there are nice looking guys at the beach or something. When this happen I just try to continue doing what I’m doing. It’s really hard tho.

@danielwarwick i am moving with steps you know today it was everytging nice till my ocd started attacking me again but is hard with gf it started attacking me like if you like to touch ur d… with your handwhen is like hard then you would like touch anothers d…. then your down again

@mrgg11 i got anxionity to parts of girls which it make me so bad in lose sex drives tomorrow jight i go to sleep to her and i hsve panic attacks

@mrgg11 I’m so sorry to hear that, but I feel you. It’s good to listen to other guys going thru the same. A couple of years ago I had to finish a relationship with a girl that was the love of my life because hocd. I’m still not over her, even if it has been 3 years. But it was when my HOCD started and I literally could’t be with her cause I felt uncomfortable and like I was faking I was straight. It’s so fucked up, I’ve been having problem to get with girls since then. Anyway, the thought of u thinking that you would like to touch other d… is just an instrusive thought haha. You should really try to be present and let those thoughts come and go and enjoy your time with your gf.

@mrgg11 every time i see or touch her part that down i get anxionity and my erextion goes down.

@mrgg11 My therapist told me this metaphor, she said imagine an animal in the wild who’s going to be eaten by a lion or something, di you think that animal will have sexual desire? Do you think it will be up to socialize? Of course not, so it’s kind of the same, if you have been struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, you won’t feel aroused naturally because your body is in constant fight or flight mode. I know it’s really confusing because ocd will take advantage of that to take it as proof of that you don’t like girls, but it’s just something related to anxiety. I have friends who in the moment couldn’t get an erection because they were too nervous, and they don’t think they’re gay. It’s just that you need to be relaxed and comfortable. You can talk to your partner if you’re having problems to get intimacy, maybe you can try other things, like going on dates, watch movies, etc, to make you feel mire confident. You don’t have to tell her about hocd if you don’t want to, but you can tell her that you’re going thru anxiety and you could really use some romantic love haha I’m sure with time you’ll feel better and you will have your sexual drive back. Hope it helps

@danielwarwick you dont know how much you helped me with that saying thst are introusive thoughts i didnt know that that is introusive thought

@danielwarwick i was with my gf tonight snd it was so nice

@mrgg11 I’m so glad!! Keep doing recovery work

@mrgg11 you got instagram daniel?

@mrgg11 I have a page dedicated to ocd, iis in spanish but you can add me on there tho if you wanna talk! @entendiendoeltoc

@danielwarwick cuzocazi name

@Get it done! Yeah, I know her, she’s really good with her videos and info! I just get really confused when I’m doing an exposure and I start feeling really aroused, like idk if that will ever go away you know? That kinda messed me up. Has it ever happened to you that the groinal is really intense?

@danielwarwick I would not say that it was really intense, but it did f**k with my mind. Going back and forth if I had a response, if I was actually se*ually attracted to that person. If it mattered if the response happened before or after the intrusive thought.