I’m interested to know if I have relationship ocd. I’m in a relationship, and I’m always questioning; is this ok, should we break up, what ab the future& I’ve have several anxiety attacks over it. He’s a lovely person, he treats me right and everything, so it’s definitely a me problem- does this sound like relationship ocd? Pls let me know your thoughts/ experiences w it, tysm xxx
I feel the same way and have been in a relationship with someone I love for over two years now. The closer we've gotten, the worse I feel about the relationship - I'm always questioning if we really love each other and seek out reasons we do and don't. I catch myself reading into every little thing searching for imperfections in our relationship and then those imperfections are all I can think about throughout most of my days. I caught myself seeking reassurance about the relationship from loved ones constantly. After talking with him a lot, I'm certain it's a problem on my part and my own responsibility. To me, yours sounds similar to my struggle, and I'm really sorry because I know how tiring and horrible it is. I've recently started seeing an ERP therapist, and it's been helping me a lot. I hope that you find the relief you need so you can enjoy your relationship!
I used to do this too .
@emilyjean Tysm, for telling me, it’s nice to know I’m not alone! My biggest fear is that I’ll regret being in the relationship in a few years for a few reasons tbh but I won’t bore ya! 😂 and because I’m scared of regretting it I’m constantly thinking and reading into everything, does this sound familiar? Even if it doesn’t, it’s nice to know someone relates- ty <3
@LucyA Yeah that totally sounds like a thought I've had and obsessed over. It helps me knowing they're not my own thoughts, though, and that it's OCD. Relationships are just so uncertain it's so triggering 😪
@emilyjean Tysm, I genuinely appreciate u saying u relate, ty <3 and you’re right, there scarily uncertain 😕 xxx
I have had rocd all my life but didn't know. For me it showed up in other relationships too friendships, family. I used to constantly look for signs they didn't love me or like me. A tone, a comment etc and then I would spiral into distress. You can tell I think if it's rocd if it has a slightly irrational flavour to it - eg my partner is going to leave me, I am never going to be happy, no one will ever love me or I am never capable of love etc etc other people will be loved and I won't etc. I recommend watching some educational stuff and see if it fits for you. This video is really good and shows the cognitive distortions that are common in rocd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=24lFaIPLDOs other good place of info is www.rocd.net hope that helps
@Clairenz Tysm, for the links I’ll definitely look into them, ty for your help :) I just have a lot of anxiety about staying in the relationship but for no real reason, I’m just scared, and I just was curious if it was ocd or something els or maybe a mix of things. But I do know I’m safe in this relationship and if I am safe why am I so scared?!
I am in a relatively new relationship (around 2 months) and it has been completely virtual due to varying circumstances. I have never been in a serious relationship before and my past “exes” have never been this serious or brought up any of these feelings. About a month in I started having tons of symptoms and thoughts I figured were due to an SSRI change (i eventually went back to my original med/dose) however, it has remained quite bad since. Thoughts include: -I don’t actually like my partner, I just like the feeling of being wanted -I have crushes on other people, including my partners friends who I barely know -I don’t feel butterflies so I must be losing feelings for him -I think he’s ugly/im just not attracted to him -I’m secretly a lesbian and I’m wasting his time by being with him -a general feeling of dread, wrongness, or needing out of the relationship -not being able to believe him when he reassures me about everything -all of the above is just my genuine feelings and I’m using ocd as an excuse These are obviously crazy things to think, however one of my biggest compulsions is confession and self sabotage so I have told my partner all of these things in detail. He’s really great and patient about all of it but I can tell it weighs on him. Hes even recently expressed feeling like it’s his fault and that he wonders if it wouldn’t be this bad if I was with someone else. I feel so miserable but i feel like I’d be miserable in any relationship but im scared that’s not the truth and my ocd isn’t real. When it’s good i feel the most romantic love for him I’ve ever felt toward anyone ever. He’s an incredible person but I just feel so alone and lost on what to do. I’ve literally tried to break up with him like five times and each time we’ve ended up wanting to stay together. I’m really really scared I’ll never get better or this is simply the wrong relationship for me.
Hi everyone, I’ve already been diagnosed with OCD, and I strongly suspect that I’ve developed a ROCD pattern. I wanted to share a specific situation that just won’t leave me alone – even though it’s objectively been cleared up. I’m in a relationship with a man who is, by nature, a very transparent, honest, and loyal person. Rationally, I know I can trust him. Recently, he got a phone call while I was with him. I asked him to check who it was. He hesitated briefly and then checked kind of slowly – the number wasn’t saved. To me, the whole thing just felt a bit strange. It didn’t seem like “open behavior,” even though he told me afterward that he simply didn’t have the energy to deal with it, since he had generally had a bad day. The problem is: Even after this explanation – which makes sense – the thoughts won’t go away. I keep replaying the situation in my head, analyzing his reaction, wondering if that hesitation meant something – even though I know he didn’t do anything wrong. I feel like I need to bring it up again to feel at ease. But I also know that would only bring temporary relief, and then the cycle would start all over again. It feels just like other OCD loops – only this time, it’s centered around my relationship. Have any of you experienced something like this? How do you stop yourself from falling into the reassurance trap over and over again? I don’t want to overwhelm or hurt my partner unnecessarily – I just want to learn how to manage this inner tension better. did it sound like ocd?? Rocd?? Thanks for reading. It really helps to know I’m not alone. (edited)
Hi I'm new to all of this so I hope I'm doing this right. 5 years ago my 34 year marriage ended. My ex husband was a mentally and financially abusive, covert narcissist. All that is behind me now and I'm finally remembering who I am again. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy but the problem I'm having is relationship OCD. This has taken me by surprise really as I've had OCD from a very young age but never has it been about my relationship. I constantly check messages and go over and over conversations and convince myself my partner will eventually cheat. Almost every single person in his life I can feel threatened by and I hate this for him and also for me as I don't have any peace of mind. This is ruining the lovely relationship I know I could have so I really need to get a handle on it. Has anybody else experienced this and managed to control it?
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