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Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

Break up warning

I broke up with her this morning because I couldn’t feel what I was supposed to feel all I felt was anxiety. I wasn’t excited to see her anymore, I felt sick all of the time and I couldn’t think of being in the relationship anymore without being nervous and anxious.. two weeks ago I was absolutely in love with her. We talked and I held her while she cried. And for some reason I felt closer to her then, then I had all week this week. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I can’t make it past 4 months.

Relationship OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

Hey hun, I’m gonna give u some controversial advice. I think it’s good u broke up with her, and the reason why is because you weren’t in the right mental state to take on a relationship. And I say this as someone who struggled so much with relationship ocd not too long ago. I truly do believe you liked (or even loved) your girlfriend, but relationship ocd is going to make you doubt that and this amount of insanity is not fair for you or your girlfriend . HOWEVER I mean this only if u guys just started dating. If u guys have been dating for a while and u just developed relationship ocd I would recommend practicing ERP and uncertainty while still in that relationship because u probably still live her, ur ocd is just making u doubt that. BUT if u been had OCD, it’s just not worth getting in a relationship right now. Enter a relationship healthy & whole😩…. I wish u the best❤️

Username: Brendan =]Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y ago

I’m going to say a few things: *Breaking up is a compulsion. As with any compulsion, any relief you feel will likely be temporary. In other words, I strongly recommend you go into ERP treatment because I don’t think the thoughts here are over. *These feelings will likely return in future relationships. ROCD is the problem, not her. *ROCD taking the excitement and joy out of the relationship is common. You may very well be able to get it back through ERP treatment. *It’s ultimate up to you to decide if you let her go for good or go back to her and try and work things out with you getting ERP treatment. Just know that being open and honest may help things if you want to work it out. One option is you turn it into a break instead of a breakup and you get help. I’ve been in ERP therapy with NOCD for a few months and am already making great progress. I disagree with the above post that it’s good you broke up with her if it was something that’s been long term and had good potential to last if ROCD was treated. It takes a little time but it’s very treatable. I know this is so hard and so painful. Be gentle and kind to yourself as you’re going through this mess. This board is always going to be here and we’re here to help.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

@Brendan =] I feel nothing after the breakup I don’t know what that means.. the anxiety is gone and the thoughts. My brain is empty. This has happened before many times I just don’t know what it means when the feelings and thoughts go away after the breakup

Username: Brendan =]Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous I’m not a licensed clinician and don’t want to pretend to be so I’m just going to say I have no idea how to respond to that. I’m sorry. I do think someone with the proper training and methods could be extremely valuable. Please strongly consider the ERP as it can be very life-changing. I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful.

Username: Sero82Sero82

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous It means you gave yourself some temporary relief. In my case when I did this, I began panicking like 2 minutes later and called to get back together 16 min after that. Not saying this is ur case.

Username: Brendan =]Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y ago

@Sero82 Yeah, it’s purely speculation but I can see regret down the road. I just don’t want them to miss out on their chance with someone who may be great due to stupid ROCD.

Username: mrgg11mrgg11

Date posted: 2y ago

im in this too but im not breaking up😭

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

@mrgg11 It’s okay. You don’t have to. I just had to do what was best for me. That doesn’t mean it’s best for uou

Username: mrgg11mrgg11

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous i feel its best for me im not excited like before but i dont want lose her because i feel like shes the one for me and even with rocd i feel like we gonna be all life together

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

@mrgg11 I understand that and I took a step back with mine in hopes that I can work on figuring out treatment options with my therapist. And she understands and is supportive

Username: mrgg11mrgg11

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous so you did that for doing erp?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

@mrgg11 Not necessarily. Im just now discovering I have ROCD and Im trying to figure out how to get a diagnosis etc in order to be better for anyone im with.

Username: mrgg11mrgg11

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous you got insta bro

Username: mrgg11mrgg11

Date posted: 2y ago

@mrgg11 im to scared and nobody can explain me rocd can u explain me that

Username: 7710 ❤️

Date posted: 2y ago

This isn’t ROCD anymore… I think I actually don’t want my partner anymore…. I’m having so much anxiety about this… 😞

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Username: victoriagreenn

Date posted: 46w ago

I broke up with my boyfriend

I broke up with my boyfriend and I’m not sure if it’s because I needed to or if OCD pushed me to it. I have Scrupulosity and ROCD. We had a conversation about how we viewed the Bible and Jesus. I’m not sure if there’s a miscommunication but he made it sound that the Bible was secondary to our Spirit and that Jesus is pedestaled to much and we should be more like him instead. It scared me that the foundation of our belief is unequally yoked and I broke up with him. I woke up this morning and feel terrible. I don’t want to leave him but I also want to make sure I’m following God’s Will. We’ve been dating/talking for four months.

Username: we will be ok 🍉

Date posted: 42w ago

Please respond I need advice ): 🙏

My bf and I of one month spend a lot of time together. but recently I feel relieved when he’s gone and prefer to be alone. The love I show him feels forced. I hate feeling this I don’t want to. He reassures me that it’s just OCD and I do love him and then I feel better and in love but then it happens again. I’m scared deep down I am losing feelings but am in denial. He’s such a great guy I don’t wanna feel this. But I feel like I want to push him away or do my own thing a lot of times and I HATE IT!! I’m so sad and frustrated. Can OCD cause this? Or should I break it off ):

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