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HOCD and intrusive feelings
What do I do when my HOCD makes me feel like I’m in denial and that I’m not romantically attracted to women, and the intrusive thoughts are there during these intrusive feelings? 😞😞😞
What do I do when my HOCD makes me feel like I’m in denial and that I’m not romantically attracted to women, and the intrusive thoughts are there during these intrusive feelings? 😞😞😞
I find the best thing to do for me is to try and refocus back on the present moment. Do your best not to add meaning, read into, or argue with the thoughts. It’s definitely easier said than done but the more you practice the easier it gets.
@mjvl100 The intrusive feelings make it feel so difficult…
I’m the same.
You can hear the thoughts but you don't have to listen to them. When i'm in these kind of situations, non-engagement responses are the best for me. When i hear these thoughts, i allow them to speak for like couple minutes, feel the fear and anxiety and after couple minutes i say "yeah, OK, i may be gay or i may not be gay. I don't know and i don't care. So, goodbye!" you don't have to %100 believe it, just say it.
@zzyyxx What about the intrusive feelings…?
Hi! I struggled with this same thing for a long time. The best treatment I found was to think “what am I missing out on by focusing on my intrusive thoughts” every time I felt compelled to perform a compulsion. For me that played out like this “Am I gay?… Hmm let me check… Wait… What am I missing out on by worrying about this… I am missing out on connecting to the present and with my girlfriend… Let’s try to do that instead!” This only worked for me once I radically accepted that I have OCD and did it every time you have an intrusive thought! It feels so real when you’re going through it! You are strong and you’ve got this!
@paule150 It’s making it feel real though… 😞😞😞
@Givenup Uncertainty always feels bad with OCD! If this strategy doesn’t work for you don’t feel obligated to push it. You will know when you find a strategy that works with your OCD theme!
I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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