Struggling with HOCD/ SO-OCD

I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.

Hello, so I’ve been struggling really badly with so-ocd where I am worried that I’m not actually straight when that’s what I’ve always thought and wanted to be. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now, he’s my first boyfriend and I really love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I remember one time, before I had struggles with so-ocd, I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I’m missing out on other men by staying with him’ and it didn’t really cause any anxiety but I felt quite guilty for thinking that. But I moved on. However, right now I’m in the depths of so-ocd it started back in March I believe, and today I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I never get the opportunity to try being with a woman because I’m in a relationship with a man’ and that has really set me off today. I’ve had a meltdown over it, my chest feels heavy and it felt so real like I actually wanted it and I had a feeling of wanting to be gay even though that’s not what I want in life. Why is this happening to me and I feel so horrible for thinking this like it felt like it was me and not the ocd and that I’m just lying to myself and my boyfriend. I’ve tried scrolling on here to see if anyone has had a similar thought or experience and I am aware that this is reassurance seeking but I just need someone to tell me that I’m okay

I have been going through Hocd for a year now, started when I got an std off a girl and I gained aload of anxiety off this scared that other girls would see me as disgusting. Then when I got it sorted out after 3 months, I tried with a girl and condoms made me soft so I struggled to keep hard and I asked the question in my head does this make me gay. Then next a girl asked me it when I didn’t stay hard. This really messed with my head because all up the years my biggest hate would to be gay as I love being straight and I clearly was but this really messed with my head. Stupid things like not being able to listen to male artists and hyper awareness of bodily functions, did I think someone was goodlooking of the opposite gender, do I want to kiss them. I’d get an increased feeling of anxiety I wouldn’t want to but my head because of this would be like do I. I have a girlfriend at the moment and I always get hard with her when I’m with her I know how I feel and everything but the Hocd really affected my head I did a lot of compulsions and lots of reassurance seeking at the start. A lot of irrational thoughts come into my head. I want to be normal for my girlfirnd because I really do love her and I can tell when I’m out of my head that I’m attracted to women ofc I get the oh am I lying to myself and all this stuff. Any tips on how to help with this?