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I would say keep yourself busy and especially in this moment sit with the anxiety and uneasiness as much as you can
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Ok thank you. This is all so weird. I’m not even that upset about it anymore, and if I was gay I wouldn’t care but it just doesn’t feel right. That’s not me, but my mind won’t get it
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- 6y
Yeah, before my hocd hit full blown whenever I got my intrusive thoughts and got anxiety I would feel that way when they started to fade away. Means just you're accepting the thoughts and even though they may seem real you know you won't act on them and they don't represent you
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- 6y
You'll be just fine, everything will go back to normal :):) can I ask how long did you have before you started to feel this way?
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Yeah I get those thoughts sometimes too, a lot of it’s like what if I’m really attracted to girls? Then I get anxious and upset. But I try to remember that if i was that way I would know. I might question it but everything is ok. Because like I said why does it matter? My brothers that way and he’s accepted and if I’m that way I would be accepted. I know I’m not because I don’t want to do that. It’s odd to me, that’s just not my cup of tea. What triggered this whole thing was when a bisexual girl was on my volleyball team. I was scared that she liked me, then I started to question how would I react if she like me? Then it all went downhill. I said “I wouldn’t like her back” and then OCD hit and made me think are you sure? What if I’m gay? Crazy things like that. It’s so dumb
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I’m exactly where you are right now. I’ve “accepted” that it’s natural to be sexual and that if something were to happen it would be okay. it’s not that I want it to happen because I don’t but telling myself that it’s natural and okay makes me feel better? Does that make sense
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Yeah that makes since. It’s just a thought and that all. It’s just confusing. Because idk it’s weird. I know I’m not that way and that’s all that matters
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Thank you for that, that gives me hope! I know I’m going to be ok. I just need to keep pushing, it’s very confusing and weird but I’ll be ok
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Right like I’ll just be chilling and then a thought will pop up in my head like “but what if you meet a girl and do fall for her?” And then get anxious all over again but then I remind myself that it doesn’t mean anything and that even if it does happen, I don’t have to marry her or follow through with anything, people are allowed to experiment. Although I really am not attracted to or want to do that, anything is possible. I hate it because I have no interest in it and those thoughts make me feel like I do but it’s helped loosen the grip on my ocd thoughts so they don’t take over my mind
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@notfortalk it’s been about 7 months now
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- 21w
I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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- 20w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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- 16w
I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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