- Date posted
- 2y ago
Intrusive romantic feelings?
What's everyone's thoughts on this subject? Does anyone get hit hard with this type of thing? This is probably the worst for me than anything else. What's your experiences with this?
What's everyone's thoughts on this subject? Does anyone get hit hard with this type of thing? This is probably the worst for me than anything else. What's your experiences with this?
One thing that helped me get through this part of SOOCD was remembering that my brain will see what it’s looking for. It’s kind of like how you can convince yourself there’s something wrong with your brain health if you have a headache. If you’re always thinking about your SOOCD thing, then your brain will simulate what that feels/looks like. I mean, maybe. Not providing reassurance, just a nugget that was useful for me :)
Yesss, exactly!! I'm hoping that's what happened in my case and that I don't really need to change my whole life and leave my fiancé
This just happened to me for the first time and sent me into a downward spiral of panic. Then of course when I googled it it said I might be in the beginning stages of coming out as bisexual and I've been gagging ever since. Up until now I've never ever liked a girl but I always get the false arousal, but last week I had the romantic thought for the first time. I'm scared what it means and hope it's just part of the OCD
I could honestly deal with being bisexual, aslong as I could still have that same feelings towards my prefered gender
@benno97 That makes sense. I think I probably feel the same way. But I guess it sent me into a panic of needing reassurance that I'm not harboring some secret side of me and that I don't have to leave my fiancé. It's just really scary. I'm pretty sure this only happened because I'm always focusing so much on checking to make sure I'm not attracted to the same sex, and I know when you hyperfocus on something it can backfire
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
I read a lot of other people’s posts where they deal with intrusive feelings, and sometimes even emotions? Would anyone care to further explain so i can understand this better? it would be very much appreciated.
Hey everyone, I wanted to come on here today to just share this post because I’ve been struggling with this recently. I just wanna know if this is a common thing in relationship OCD. So last Friday me and my boyfriend had a conversation that was important, and my emotions were high and I got a little emotional about something he said and we had a long talk about it, the conversation went great and afterwards everything was okay. On Saturday I was so excited to see him after work and I was overflowing with feelings of happiness and excitement. Sunday was great and we stayed on FaceTime just enjoying the day together after he went home that morning, and then came Monday. I remember getting a thought like this, “What if I’m losing feelings for him and I’m just leading him on?” And even this thought, “I don’t really feel anything towards him right now, does that mean I fell out of love with him?” And then the anxiety came, I could literally feel myself breaking out in cold sweats and I could feel the pain in my chest after these thoughts crossed my mind. But what bothers me so much about this is on Saturday and Sunday I felt so content and happy with him and I was so happy and I didn’t have any anxiety whatsoever, and then Monday came, and I had those thoughts and I feel almost numb and I can’t feel anything else except the feelings of worry and fear and my anxiety has been at a all-time high and I keep feeling this pain of guilt and hurt in my chest and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced the same. Because personally one thing I hate is that one day I can be so happy and energetic and then the next day I can feel numb and feel absolutely nothing towards my boyfriend. I’m not sure if this can correlate with my menstrual cycle as well, but I’ve heard that that can also make your relationship OCD worse and cause you to feel differently about your partner. Just wanting to see if anyone has dealt with the same!
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond