- Username
- Dai
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Um.. I would dump the friend.. adhd never caused me to harm any person or thing. But you should definitely give yourself some space to calm down and go over everything in a logical manner.
Like cwgrlup199 said, many many people have ADHD without doing terrible things or hurting people. You have no obligation to be friends with his person. I understand wanting to expose yourself to your triggers instead of avoiding them, but it is completely reasonable to want to not be friends with someone who has done something like that, whether or not you have OCD. In this case I really think you should listen to your gut
Yeah everyone's right about this, you're not required to stay friends with someone like that. Regardless of what excuses they have, they did something massively wrong. Don't let it get stuck in your head. It's the kind of thing your OCD might grab with both hands.
Oh wow, I’ve stopped thinking about him for a good while now. I think this all helped. Thank you guys so much!
Okay it sounds like you're really overly anxious about that... Although it is very reasonable to feel uncomfortable with that friend now! But his actions are his own actions. You need to try to resist your compulsions, let the anxiety go on its own, because you've turned his bad behaviour into a new obsession, somehow. The anger you feel towards him is utterly justified though, because that's a really awful thing he's done!!
Thank you @Spiral, I’ll try my best
Glad to hear it Dai! Stay strong!
I have ADD myself and even I’m revolted too. I’ve never harmed anyone in that way. It’s really f**ked up. I just feel...stuck at this point. He regrets what he’s done, or at least he says he does, we started a d&d campaign a while ago, and he’s helped me get back into my creative streak somehow. I just can’t help but feel guilty
Tips for dealing with morality/decisions? I recently found something out about a friend from another friend. It distresses me, but I don’t know where to go from here. My OCD is making it hard to make a choice because it’s saying “this should be an easy, black and white choice. You are bad for not instantly getting rid of this person”. I need help figuring out how *I* feel, not how the OCD feels. Does anyone have advice? I feel like utter trash, I won’t lie.
When I was in HS around 10 years ago I didn't have a good understanding around consent and had really inappropriate behaviour towards female classmates. My actions weren't super violent but they were also far from appropriate To this day at times guilt still eats me up even though I know much better now and would never do that. The OCD Obsesses over it to the point it makes me think if people knew I did this when I was a teenaged kid they wouldn't be friends with me today if they knew I touched people etc. When I didn't have a good understanding of boundaries. How can I manage this with my OCD? It won't stop
A friend of mine a few months ago did something very bad to me. Tldr, there was sexual assualt, and it was basically a nuclear bomb when i discussed it with a friend and everyone found out. I've had such a hard time dealing with it, since i get these obsessive thoughts, "what if i misremembered what happened" "what if he didnt mean to do it?" and ive avoided talking about it with anyone, so people made up their own conclusions and stories and I lost almost all my friends because they didnt understand what was happening. Talking about it causes such ruminations and shame spirals. How can I resolve or work through this experience when I cant think or talk about it without guilt and doubt from OCD?
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