I feel like I should just confess every detail

I've confessed some things to my gf and have been told this is likely a compulsion by my therapist, however I still feel guilt because there are some small but potentially significant details I left out, in addition to somewhat relevant mistakes from my past. Because so much of my anxiety comes from me being worried she'd leave me for these things, I feel like if I just told her everything, my guilt would actually go away. But I'm worried this is just my OCD and these things are only self destructive to tell her. But can't it be good to tell her if I can finally have some peace by telling her every single little detail/concern? I'm so tired of feeling like a monster

Stardust777

Date posted: 2y

Been there. Do NOT confess. They do not need to know every single detail. Ocd wants you to live in guilt. No matter what you say or do. The guilt will always be there. Or it will create different things that you need to confess to. You need to let go of whatever you did. Learn from your mistakes. As hard and difficult as that sounds you have to. For the sake of yourself and your loved one. The guilt will swallow you whole. I’m telling you as someone who has real event ocd my obsession and guilt started to create false memories. Awful awful ones. It’s going to want you to keep confessing. Do not give in.

Anonymous444444

Date posted: 2y

I get that, I just feel worried that these are things I did that wrong my partner. Don't give me any reassurance here because that's not what I'm seeking, but for me I almost went to a female friend's apartment while drunk and held hands with her. I told my gf both of these things, but my concern that I don't think she understands is that I'm not sure if I was just going to the apartment to hang out, or to fool around. I feel like that's something she should know, that it was something I think I was trying to do to cheat. But I'm honestly not 100% sure myself. So hard to know what to say and not say with OCD :(

Angel20

Date posted: 2y

As someone who’s been there, each confession will make you feel good for about an hour or so then ocd will find some other detail you’ll feel the need to confess and it just goes on and on and on …….

nicolemw

Date posted: 2y

I relate to this so much. It actually almost ended my relationship a few years ago. I guess my only advice is to just tell yourself to just wait 2 more weeks.

Grenoble

Date posted: 2y

Your OCD is lying to you, the guilt doesn’t go away. A lot of my confessions are just things I’m worried I did or meant, not what actually happened. Sometimes I’ll realize it wasn’t true after confessing and there is no taking it back

Anonymous444444

Date posted: 2y

Everyone is right, I need to realize I am chasing perfection in a relationship, which is impossible! I will just focus on loving my girlfriend even with this nagging feeling I don't deserve her. Happy Thanksgiving everyone, I'm thankful for the support here ☺️

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 17w

I messed up :(

Tmi warning I was being intimate with my bf and I kept getting the name of someone else pop up, but I didn’t feel anxious. Afterwards, as much as I tried to delay confessing, I couldn’t help it. I confessed. My bf was fine he said I probably didn’t feel anxious because I’ve gotten used to the anxiety and it’s okay, it doesn’t define me any more than it would if I was anxious. A few minutes later, he got upset and said that the confession kinda ruined a blissful moment. I’m so upset that my head feels so turbulent I didn’t even notice it was a blissful moment for him and could’ve been for me. I feel so awful. I haven’t slept in a day, I can’t stop crying. My bf is afraid that because this specific name keeps popping up, it might mean something and he feels less than sometimes because of it. I know I shouldn’t have confessed but I felt so safe that it was like a dam broke loose. I feel so awful. What’s worse is that I’m still scared it means something, I’m scared that my boyfriend’s fear is right. He’s very understanding of OCD and how it manifests in me and everything, I think I just kinda messed up a sacred moment and I feel so much guilt and confusion and just horrendous. I’m not even fully anxious. I don’t know what to do. I apologized a lot but I feel like I don’t deserve him and so selfish

Anonymous

Date posted: 15w

Confession compulsion

I feel like I need to confess everything to my wife. This week it’s gotten me in a lot of trouble, there’s more I feel I need to confess but I know it’ll hurt her. How do I just not!

ccheney0

Date posted: 4w

I can't stop confessing to my boyfriend

I can't stop confessing! I have this urge to dump on him every thought and wrong doing I've ever had and its destroying me! Im worried it'll destroy us too. When we started dating I stole a story from a friend to make myself look cool which was pathetic. But its the only time I remember doing anything like this.

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