Fear of dying/impending doom

Hi! I’m 27 weeks pregnant and deal with ocd obviously since getting pregnant a lot of my obsessive thoughts have changed and are toward pregnancy and parenthood but I have one I can not get over and it’s dying during labor… I have been scared of that since I was a little girl I remember my sister and me watching a video about something happening to someone during labor and them passing and ever since then I have been scared and sick that’s gonna happen to me. It’s so bad I want to set up a what if it happens so everyone knows my wishes but I also don’t want to because that triggers me so hard. I’m too the point now with this thought it’s effecting my everyday life I get physically sick anytime I think about going into labor. I feel so alone because I never hear anything about this.

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Username: Swissguy73Swissguy73

Date posted: 2y ago

I agree with the previous comment, it’s not likely, but it could happen and believe me I hate that. I want certainty so much, every day! but as someone who also struggles with fears of dying and similar I would suggest you work with a therapist to start ERP and expose yourself to those fears. That’s the only way to overcome it. Logic doesn’t help much with OCD but habituating to fears does. You can also read - jonathan grayson freedom from obsessive compulsive disorder. It will be so much easier now because you will be so tired with a newborn it will be hard to take care of yourself.

Username: AmerwehlAmerwehl

Date posted: 2y ago

@Swissguy73 Thankyou I have been pretty much symptom free for about 1year now not saying I donr have bad days here and there but I can see the anxiety and ocd creeping back in I definitely agree I need to get back into my ERP program I’m waiting for a call back.

Username: k$$k$$

Date posted: 2y ago

i’m so sorry your going through that. i’ve never been pregnant and i won’t be for a long time but i am scared at the thought too, but the chances of you dying at giving birth are very slight as long as your healthy, the baby is healthy. doctors usually have everything down and incase of something bad. try and focus on the experience and excitement of being pregnant and growing a human in your body and bringing a person into this world it’s very special and can be very fun.

Username: AmerwehlAmerwehl

Date posted: 2y ago

@k$$ Thankyou very much! I have been very blessed and both of us have been super healthy and my doctors keep telling me you are both healthy plan on staying healthy until we say other wise then we will deal with it then but you know how ocd is lol

Username: Dee CDee C

Date posted: 2y ago

First of all, my hopes & prayers go out to you. I won’t offer you reassurance but will suggest that knowledge is power. What I mean is while you’re waiting for the appointment try checking out The OCD Stories podcast or NOCD weekly webinars. I find them to be informative, educational and inspirational. Hope this helps you. All the best to you.

Username: AmerwehlAmerwehl

Date posted: 2y ago

@Dee C Thankyou very much!

Username: Anxiousashley

Date posted: 5y ago

I think I may be pregnant but it’s still too early to tell. It scares me because I think due to my ocd I may not be a very good mother. I think what if I have to be hospitalized again and can’t be there for my child? Or what if I get the intrusive thoughts about them? The ones about my husband have been coming back slightly but it’s definitely focused on health right now. My friend’s lung collapsed two days ago and she’s my age! (27) and now I’m terrified that it may happen to me or worse I may have a heart attack and die. If I am pregnant I may choose to abort. Idk yet, a part of me thinks that those of us with mental illnesses should be sterilized. I’m curious to know other ppls opinions on this subject...

Username: hereintheUK

Date posted: 1y ago

Parents and mums to be…….

Hi everyone I’m new here. I’ve been to hell and back in the last 5 months with my OCD which has affected me with various themes in various ways for since childhood but I’ve only this year discovered I have OCD. I have been suicidal 3 times and very close to ending it all. I have a question for all the parents out there/mums to be suffering with OCD…… I already have a 9 yr old boy and 8 yr old girl and have just found out I’m pregnant again…… I really want to be happy about it but my OCD is determined to make me terrified of having another baby and I am living in fear and dread of changing nappies etc as I know it will start affecting me with POCD type thoughts. I didn’t have OCD anything like as bad as it has been this year when I had my two eldest so never had any issues when they were babies. But I don’t even know how to feel except I am terrified now and very seriously considering abortion just to not go through what the OCD may do to me mentally! Though it would devastate my partner. I have had minimal therapy so far since August but no ERP therapy, I’ve lost faith in therapists as I’m yet to meet one that actually knows what OCD is like for those of us living with it. Is anyone else currently facing this situation with being pregnant or been through/currently going through it? How are you coping? Please don’t give too many details as I am scared of being triggered

Username: kanyewestlov...

Date posted: 1y ago

should i still have kids?

i haven’t been diagnosed w/ ocd but my therapist says i have like symptoms of it but i recently just stared dealing w/ Pocd (hell) that my therapist says was triggered from the sound of freedom which absolutely breaks my heart bc i was so excited to support the movie but now i feel like it’s one of my biggest regrets. i feel as if i would’ve never watched the movie i would’ve possibly never started dealing w/ this. But my biggest scare now w/ this is having my own kids . i’m F18 and throughout my whole teenhood my biggest goal and dream was to become a mother a GOOD mother. everything i tried doing was motivated by the thoughts of giving my kids the absolute best one day. Now i feel like it’s my biggest fear w/ dealing w/ this and i don’t know how i’d even explain to someone like my bf for example, of the reason why i don’t want to have kids anymore ( though i still really do but i just literally feel like can’t because of this 💔💔) are there any mothers out there w/ Pocd w/ kids out here? how do you cope w/ this? should i even have kids?? i also feel as if it kinda bad rn. i was doing good for a couple weeks and last night it just rushed back for no reason. i’ve learned what groinal responses are ( it absolutely scared the shit out of me before i found out what it was and i was just not okay and sort still am not when it happens. it just feel too real and i end up sobbing god i hate this ) and i feel as if i’m constantly body checking myself especially when i see a cute baby or children tiktok i love babies n kids id never wanna hurt them in such away i rather pass away. i just can’t believe why this this happening i used to be so much more happier before this and i really don’t know how to deal w/ this and what i should do😖💔💔

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