Did anyone break up bc they believed the wanted to? But has very bad obsessive tendencies? Pleaseā¦ I know somewhere I still love my partnerā¦ I said I love you to him and I meant it but being close to him is hard.. š
Iāve gone through this and i almost ended my relationship, i asked for a break rather than a breakup because i was too scared of regretting the decision of breaking up, you should try erp and learn it really well and start doing non engagement responses to your obsessive thoughts, and avoid any compulsion at any cost, breaking up in this case is a compulsion it promises you the relief of knowing you no longer have to ālieā about your feelings to your partner or hurt them or waste your time, but as soon as you do the compulsion and give in to it, youāll only feel relief for a few hours sometimes even a few minutes, before it gets worse, so just dont do it dont take any decision regarding your relationship, and communicate with your partner about your ocd without scaring them with conversations about breaking up, youāll feel relief after erp and youāll look back at this time and realize how ocd is tricky and so irrational, i wish you the bestā¤ļøāš©¹
@soumya My partner knowsā¦ he found my posts on the ROCD on Reddit and now knows everything Iāve been going thru. He was shocked/terrified/confused and upset I never talked to him about it but I was scared. He is at the point where he feels worthless and doesnāt believe he can live up to my expectations. It has caused him to be very very depressed even though ever since the posts heās been 10xs more supportive. He always has been but now that he knows everything he sees my face and asks me whatās wrong. I cant answer but of being afraid to hurt himā¦ or lying to him or something. My happy moments I want so badly to come back bc we have a great time together when I donāt obsess. I could cuddle and everything and sometimes I donāt feel love I just do it. I am at the point where I am going insane and I know therapy is the only true way to free myselfā¦ but I am afraid of that tooā¦
I saw someone on Reddit say they have ended 5 relationships because of OCD, and that each time it was never the answer and it just happened again with the next person. You are choosing to love your partner and be with him. That is all that matters.
@bablti Iāve been with him for 12 years gonna be 13 in July. I wanna fix things bc when I am semi normal I can enjoy my time with him. It got worse badly in September and has been bad ever sinceā¦
@bablti How bad was it for that person?
@bablti I tested myself by trying to send a message saying I wanna break up but there were times I felt I really should but stopped myselfā¦ I know everything I do is a compulsion but Iāve never felt this way about him beforeā¦ š¢ I want my happy moments where I truly knew I love him and can be a good partner. I hate focusing on his short comings and issuesā¦ my obsessing made everything worse š¢
@7710 ā¤ļø I can't find the post anymore but the person said something about how it wasn't the answer, that it only gave relief for a short time and then the cycle would just repeat... the issue here is not your partner or relationship, but OCD. Are you getting therapy?
I canāt see myself with someone elseā¦
@7710 ā¤ļø I know that feeling so well.. seek therapy and i truly hope from the bottom of my heart that it helps you, the best therapy for OCD is CBT and erp and i would suggest an ocd specialist to do it with you, both of you deserve to be happy even tho idk you, best of luck to you on your journey
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