I feel like I have romantic attraction for my same gender friend but I can’t seem to figure out if I am overthinking or I just see her as a very close friend that I want to be closer to and this is freaking me out. I’m not sure if this is an intrusive thought or not. How should I go about dealing with it?
Hi Anon, Sexuality OCD and Relationship OCD can rock us to our core, because it makes us question everything we thought we knew to be true about ourselves. While I know you crave the answers to your doubts, ruminating and trying to figure out an answer will only get you further away from one. Try your best to acknowledge the thoughts but not engage with them: maybe do you do have feelings for someone of the same gender, maybe you don’t. Accepting the uncertainty is the best way forward!
Something that helped me with both SO-OCD and figuring out my identity was reading blogs and other articles online about LBGTQ+ issues. It can be both a way to explore your identity if it's more than OCD and a great exposure for SO-OCD. You got this!
Hey there, This is Tyler and I am an OCD advocate here at NOCD I first want to say that it is very brave of you to come on here and be part of the OCD community. It’s never easy. I have years of experience, particularly with what you are dealing with in the area of SO OCD. The thoughts are very debilitating on certain days, experiences etc. and they will also be prevalent when anxiety is high or higher. Continue to be fearless when facing them. The more I faced mine head on, the stronger I got and the weaker the obsession/thoughts became. OCD has been both a blessing and a curse, and I think anyone who struggles with anything in life can find a way to turn it into a positive if they want to. For me, OCD has giving me a level of mental fearlessness that others cannot reach. And as an actor, being vulnerable and fearless is what separates good from great actors! Stay positive, keep learning about yourself and your OCD, and continue to grow your faith and wisdom so that no thoughts can break you. Many strength and prayers friend. Cheers, Tyler
@polishgirl Hey there, From OCD controlling my life physical and mental life, yes! Does my OCD still pop up and effect me in time of stress, change etc? Of course it does. Getting at peace with how we are built is one of the most important things in the OCD journey in my opinion. Because only then can you take the mind that God and nature gave you, and use it for something(s) good! Start small, learn about what you deal with, find someone to guide you professionally and thank them constantly:) When you feel strong enough, start to A. Help/write to others (like I’m doing right now) on this app B. Start to mix daily life and exposures together. You have been given a gift, just gotta put the work in to turn it into one and utilize your strengths that are lying dormant! Never Settle Tyler D
Do I have a crush on this person because I get anxious around them and when they txt me I want to see the message right away and answer immediately?? I’ve been having obsessive thoughts about this person. They are assigned sex at birth a girl but appear “masculine” and date girls. Ever since I had the thought “would I be les/bi if I develop a crush on them?” I kept having thoughts that I like them. They are also my friend and it’s hard to distinguish if I have a crush on them or is it because my obsessive thoughts?
So basically I’ve been dealing with obsessing thoughts about my sexuality and gender orientation. Although the majority of my thoughts are about my gender. It’s really freaking me out! I had a really bad issue with this when I was a freshman in high school. The thoughts became much less intense and I was able to live my life although I still got anxious about it from time to time. Now I’m in college and I recently began another very intense and distressing obsession about whether or not I’m attracted to girls or whether or not I’m transgender. It’s been six months of never ending anxious thoughts that really bother me. I want to be girl (which I am now) and date boys but I have these thoughts that what if I liked girls or wanted to be a boy and that causes me sooo much anxiety. I just worry so much because I sometimes have thoughts that I am uncomfortable being a woman and with feminine things even though I really like traditionally girly things and have all my life. There was never an ounce of evidence in my childhood but I’ve heard that some people don’t find out until they’re older and they sometimes don’t have any evidence from childhood so this doesn’t reassure me. Anyways, sometimes I have thoughts that it would make sense if I were a boy and that would be more like me even though I don’t want it to be and have never really felt like that. Lastly, I get really anxious because although I’ve felt much better with these obsessive thoughts over the past few years, it still came around once in a while. Why wouldn’t it go away? If I weren’t transgender, wouldn’t it have gone away? I just need some help. I don’t know what’s happening to me? I get scared because I just want to be me but sometimes it feels like it could be wrong and I can’t tell if it’s just my anxiety or what?
This post will be for people 18+ and it is a topic on sexual attraction, if you are comfortable you can read but it’s completely up to you. I know I’m not the only woman that watches lesbian love for pleasure as we are all humans and our hormones go up. I’ve been watching lesbian love for years now (about 3 years) and in most of that time, not once did I question my sexuality until someone asked me a question that triggered my overthinking. Today after watching that, I was asking myself questions like what it would feel like to do this with a woman? How would it feel like to be with one? And because these thoughts came to my mind I freaked out because I keep thinking that I like females but never in my life and even till this day have I ever fallen in love with a women or even thought about marrying a women one day. I always want to have a husband one day and at least have a kid or two. But lately all this questioning has me confused to the point where I question if I’m bi or lesbian and if I even have SOOCD or if it’s generally just me tryna figure out my sexuality or if I’m just in denial. I am also talking to a man romantically and whenever I’m around him I feel happy and I’m always excited to talk to him and he also makes my heart flutter and my body burn for him. But because of these recent thoughts I’ve been having, it just confuses me and adds some stress. Any tips for how I can go about this?
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