I feel like I have romantic attraction for my same gender friend but I can’t seem to figure out if I am overthinking or I just see her as a very close friend that I want to be closer to and this is freaking me out. I’m not sure if this is an intrusive thought or not. How should I go about dealing with it?
Hi Anon, Sexuality OCD and Relationship OCD can rock us to our core, because it makes us question everything we thought we knew to be true about ourselves. While I know you crave the answers to your doubts, ruminating and trying to figure out an answer will only get you further away from one. Try your best to acknowledge the thoughts but not engage with them: maybe do you do have feelings for someone of the same gender, maybe you don’t. Accepting the uncertainty is the best way forward!
Something that helped me with both SO-OCD and figuring out my identity was reading blogs and other articles online about LBGTQ+ issues. It can be both a way to explore your identity if it's more than OCD and a great exposure for SO-OCD. You got this!
Hey there, This is Tyler and I am an OCD advocate here at NOCD I first want to say that it is very brave of you to come on here and be part of the OCD community. It’s never easy. I have years of experience, particularly with what you are dealing with in the area of SO OCD. The thoughts are very debilitating on certain days, experiences etc. and they will also be prevalent when anxiety is high or higher. Continue to be fearless when facing them. The more I faced mine head on, the stronger I got and the weaker the obsession/thoughts became. OCD has been both a blessing and a curse, and I think anyone who struggles with anything in life can find a way to turn it into a positive if they want to. For me, OCD has giving me a level of mental fearlessness that others cannot reach. And as an actor, being vulnerable and fearless is what separates good from great actors! Stay positive, keep learning about yourself and your OCD, and continue to grow your faith and wisdom so that no thoughts can break you. Many strength and prayers friend. Cheers, Tyler
@polishgirl Hey there, From OCD controlling my life physical and mental life, yes! Does my OCD still pop up and effect me in time of stress, change etc? Of course it does. Getting at peace with how we are built is one of the most important things in the OCD journey in my opinion. Because only then can you take the mind that God and nature gave you, and use it for something(s) good! Start small, learn about what you deal with, find someone to guide you professionally and thank them constantly:) When you feel strong enough, start to A. Help/write to others (like I’m doing right now) on this app B. Start to mix daily life and exposures together. You have been given a gift, just gotta put the work in to turn it into one and utilize your strengths that are lying dormant! Never Settle Tyler D
Do I have a crush on this person because I get anxious around them and when they txt me I want to see the message right away and answer immediately?? I’ve been having obsessive thoughts about this person. They are assigned sex at birth a girl but appear “masculine” and date girls. Ever since I had the thought “would I be les/bi if I develop a crush on them?” I kept having thoughts that I like them. They are also my friend and it’s hard to distinguish if I have a crush on them or is it because my obsessive thoughts?
I feel like anytime I become really close to someone I can’t differentiate platonic or romantic feelings. My thoughts run wild thinking things along the lines of “you like them” “they secretly like you” “you could do —, —, or — with them.” I believe I’m Bisexual so I have these thoughts for both male & female, but sometimes I even worry about whether or not I’m really bisexual or if I’m just straight with extreme intrusive thoughts. I’ve had these thoughts about best friends, coworkers, & even relatives & it’s extremely disturbing. It makes me feel shameful for having these thoughts, especially with relatives or when in a relationship. I constantly have to tell myself that they’re just thoughts & I wouldn’t actually want anything to happen. I really don’t want to ruin my relationships with these people, but these thoughts wont go anyway no matter how many times I try to think the opposite in response to change my mindset. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about it & I’m very grateful that he’s so understanding, but it still troubles me. I’m really glad there’s another alternative of talking about these things
So basically I’ve been dealing with obsessing thoughts about my sexuality and gender orientation. Although the majority of my thoughts are about my gender. It’s really freaking me out! I had a really bad issue with this when I was a freshman in high school. The thoughts became much less intense and I was able to live my life although I still got anxious about it from time to time. Now I’m in college and I recently began another very intense and distressing obsession about whether or not I’m attracted to girls or whether or not I’m transgender. It’s been six months of never ending anxious thoughts that really bother me. I want to be girl (which I am now) and date boys but I have these thoughts that what if I liked girls or wanted to be a boy and that causes me sooo much anxiety. I just worry so much because I sometimes have thoughts that I am uncomfortable being a woman and with feminine things even though I really like traditionally girly things and have all my life. There was never an ounce of evidence in my childhood but I’ve heard that some people don’t find out until they’re older and they sometimes don’t have any evidence from childhood so this doesn’t reassure me. Anyways, sometimes I have thoughts that it would make sense if I were a boy and that would be more like me even though I don’t want it to be and have never really felt like that. Lastly, I get really anxious because although I’ve felt much better with these obsessive thoughts over the past few years, it still came around once in a while. Why wouldn’t it go away? If I weren’t transgender, wouldn’t it have gone away? I just need some help. I don’t know what’s happening to me? I get scared because I just want to be me but sometimes it feels like it could be wrong and I can’t tell if it’s just my anxiety or what?
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