Does anyone get the thought that you’ll have to break up to feel better? I’m scared because i made some bad decisions in my relationship, and my mind has convinced me that if i stay with my partner i’ll remember those events all the time.
Breaking up is actually an avoiding compulsion. Don't do it. You can get through this!
@ROCDmensch Thanks! I know it’s difficult and it’ll convince me of anything. Ocd is so tricky because i know i domt want to lose him, but im scared i will forever have these thoughts; and that’ll ruin us living together etc. so im scared for the future because i feel like is not going to happen, while he has it all figured out and im just not 100% sure uncertainty scarese
Yeah :( we both did bad stuff in our marriage. And we forgave each other but I still think about the stuff I did. The urge to break up is the ocd. once you break up it’s just going to want you to live in the guilt either way.
@Stardust777 Ocd will try to keep you in the past!!!!!!! It will try to keep you away from finding self forgiveness, and it’ll tell you the easy route is to break up. Don’t let that monster convince you. Im not glad you are going through this but in glad i’m able to connect to people like you who are experiencing the same situation as me. Specially in this world where we can’t make mistake according to society. If you ever need to talk, i’m here i understand how ocd will remind u every day of what you did, and repeat those events in your head, making it very hard to be in the present and connect with your partner.
@Anonimo05 He knows how bad I feel for everything I’ve done…and he tells me to let it go but idk if it’s ocd that wants me to tell him every single detail and thoughts I’ve had…and I’ve been trying to control my self because it’s only going to hurt him more….and what exactly am I trying to get out of this?? I’m still going to feel guilty. He tells me to let it all go and we can start over.
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Trust me, if you had someone else your OCD would find another imperfection to make you doubt your relationship. Try to accept that maybe you don't like this part about your partner and that you don't interact with the thought anymore (ruminating what it means, how to change it etc.) I know it is hard because I also have those tendencies were I pick apart flaws of my partner but recently I am just trying to accept my thoughts without enganing. And the thing that you are obsessed about becomes smaller and smaller, it doesn't bother you as much anymore
And also try not to confess those thoughts to your partner. First of all it hurts them and also it's a compulsion that only makes your OCD worse
I feel this way, but having trouble getting over stuff they did. Obviously nothing extremely extremely terrible, but still things that upset me and broke a bit of trust in the relationship. we decided to work thru it but how do i tell myself he’s still the one? worried that i just have to break up
So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months but seriously talking for around 8. I have never met anyone so perfect and amazing. I love him so much. Into our talking stage i kissed my ex situation-ship and ever since have been dealing with the consequences. He forgave me and gave me another chance and i have shown him how much i care every day since. He is over it now since it was only in our talking stage. I have had thoughts with my ex name, thoughts i hate my boyfriend, always constantly thinking if im bored, if i love him. It switches day by day and impacts my life constantly. I don’t feel like myself at all. Some days i can’t do it. I just want to be happy and secure with him. my thought from the past few days is that i want to be single and hook up with other people. I don’t actually want to hook up with others but i feel so terrible and guilty. Does anyone else deal with this? Sometimes i can’t tell the difference between my real thoughts and the fake ones. I have been debating breaking up with my boyfriend because i feel like it’s best but i would be so sad. He is perfect and i see myself marrying him.
I’m so confused if the breakup was the right decision I felt so confident about it in the moment but now I feel the opposite I don’t understand how my emotions can switch up on me this much
Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.
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