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Yeah honestly just be like “I’m gay and that’s fine” continuously agree with the thoughts then your mind will get bored...HOCD is super hard because it attacks your fundamental values that make up you as a person. I’m assuming you’re old enough to know what you want. If you liked the opposite gender before you fell into the trap of HOCD you’re all good, if you had suspicions you may be gay before HOCD then you may need to reconsider. HOCD is the worst cause it makes you feel like someone other than yourself you depersonalize which is 1 extremely uncomfortable and 2 scary because you’re like I don’t even know myself anymore. You’re gonna be all good whether you’re straight or not, life with OCD has a way of figuring itself out if you push.
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Yeah like what @ocdmakemecrazy said your ego is never gonna allow the thoughts to become true your mind might and it’s gonna feel real in your brain until it gets bored. The brain is a muscle and when you get new information in it’s exciting and fun or scary and not so fun so if you are constantly being like “yes brain I’m gay I love the same sex woohoo” your brains gonna be like goddamn we gay now but your egos gonna be like “bitch you thought” and your egos gonna whip around and be like “you are still *insert sexual preference you know you are*” then you’ll be like “wow did I really think I was gay!” And happy happy neurons firing mix in some serotonin and your brain is back balanced homeostasis. Because all OCD is a chemical dump in your brain!
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I suffer with pocd so I’ll try your method and bring it up with my therapist! I love your post and how you talk btw using humor to combat this ocd is great
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Let me know if it works! Good luck to you ?
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It’s more about your ocd gettin bored like a bully teasing just teasing if u agree there like oh ok
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@colleen123 I find it’s effective for Hocd and TOCD with me ROCD is different because that’s not an internal obsession and it involves someone else. Also while you’re agreeing to the thoughts distract yourself with something you enjoy like a show. You have to agree and distract because if you do not occupy yourself with something you enjoy or know I find I depersonalize so you have to find a balance of things you know aren’t true about yourself and things you know you love it kinda cancels out like pemdas. If this doesn’t work consider ERP. It’s hard to do because the thoughts are very against what you know your morality to be so it’s very easy to lose yourself and then panic and then have to start all over again. I hope this makes sense, if you have any further questions let me know.
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Everyone has a Same Sex Celebrity Crush Mines Ryan Reynolds
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(continuation) .... on boys as cover ups. I’m really scared and is this normal for hocd or am I really just in denial?
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Sounds like OCD to me , I’ve been through HOCD , Just Agree Sarcastically and be like “Yeah I’m a total Les”
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Okay tysm
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@zoeannahardy is that self talk helpful for other types of ocd , just agreeing til you get bored ?
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- 23w
I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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- 22w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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- 18w
I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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