Is it hocd or have I actually all of a sudden stopped wanting to be with a guy. I have always known I wanted to be in a relationship with a guy but ever since I got these instrusive thoughts about 3 months ago it’s only getting worse and now i dont even know who I am and if I want to date a guy or a girl. I know I don’t want to date a girl but every time I tell myself I want to date a guy I feel like somethings telling me “no you want to be with girls and you don’t have hocd you’re just in denial” Another thing that scares me is that I have never really been boy crazy and I have had small crushes on guys never on girls but every time I have thought a girl was pretty I’m like what if I thought she was attractive and I would have these crushes (they weren’t that crazy)

Yeah honestly just be like “I’m gay and that’s fine” continuously agree with the thoughts then your mind will get bored...HOCD is super hard because it attacks your fundamental values that make up you as a person. I’m assuming you’re old enough to know what you want. If you liked the opposite gender before you fell into the trap of HOCD you’re all good, if you had suspicions you may be gay before HOCD then you may need to reconsider. HOCD is the worst cause it makes you feel like someone other than yourself you depersonalize which is 1 extremely uncomfortable and 2 scary because you’re like I don’t even know myself anymore. You’re gonna be all good whether you’re straight or not, life with OCD has a way of figuring itself out if you push.

Yeah like what @ocdmakemecrazy said your ego is never gonna allow the thoughts to become true your mind might and it’s gonna feel real in your brain until it gets bored. The brain is a muscle and when you get new information in it’s exciting and fun or scary and not so fun so if you are constantly being like “yes brain I’m gay I love the same sex woohoo” your brains gonna be like goddamn we gay now but your egos gonna be like “bitch you thought” and your egos gonna whip around and be like “you are still *insert sexual preference you know you are*” then you’ll be like “wow did I really think I was gay!” And happy happy neurons firing mix in some serotonin and your brain is back balanced homeostasis. Because all OCD is a chemical dump in your brain!

I suffer with pocd so I’ll try your method and bring it up with my therapist! I love your post and how you talk btw using humor to combat this ocd is great

Let me know if it works! Good luck to you ?

It’s more about your ocd gettin bored like a bully teasing just teasing if u agree there like oh ok

@colleen123 I find it’s effective for Hocd and TOCD with me ROCD is different because that’s not an internal obsession and it involves someone else. Also while you’re agreeing to the thoughts distract yourself with something you enjoy like a show. You have to agree and distract because if you do not occupy yourself with something you enjoy or know I find I depersonalize so you have to find a balance of things you know aren’t true about yourself and things you know you love it kinda cancels out like pemdas. If this doesn’t work consider ERP. It’s hard to do because the thoughts are very against what you know your morality to be so it’s very easy to lose yourself and then panic and then have to start all over again. I hope this makes sense, if you have any further questions let me know.

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(continuation) .... on boys as cover ups. I’m really scared and is this normal for hocd or am I really just in denial?

Sounds like OCD to me , I’ve been through HOCD , Just Agree Sarcastically and be like “Yeah I’m a total Les”

Okay tysm

@zoeannahardy is that self talk helpful for other types of ocd , just agreeing til you get bored ?