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Yeah honestly just be like “I’m gay and that’s fine” continuously agree with the thoughts then your mind will get bored...HOCD is super hard because it attacks your fundamental values that make up you as a person. I’m assuming you’re old enough to know what you want. If you liked the opposite gender before you fell into the trap of HOCD you’re all good, if you had suspicions you may be gay before HOCD then you may need to reconsider. HOCD is the worst cause it makes you feel like someone other than yourself you depersonalize which is 1 extremely uncomfortable and 2 scary because you’re like I don’t even know myself anymore. You’re gonna be all good whether you’re straight or not, life with OCD has a way of figuring itself out if you push.
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Yeah like what @ocdmakemecrazy said your ego is never gonna allow the thoughts to become true your mind might and it’s gonna feel real in your brain until it gets bored. The brain is a muscle and when you get new information in it’s exciting and fun or scary and not so fun so if you are constantly being like “yes brain I’m gay I love the same sex woohoo” your brains gonna be like goddamn we gay now but your egos gonna be like “bitch you thought” and your egos gonna whip around and be like “you are still *insert sexual preference you know you are*” then you’ll be like “wow did I really think I was gay!” And happy happy neurons firing mix in some serotonin and your brain is back balanced homeostasis. Because all OCD is a chemical dump in your brain!
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I suffer with pocd so I’ll try your method and bring it up with my therapist! I love your post and how you talk btw using humor to combat this ocd is great
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Let me know if it works! Good luck to you ?
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It’s more about your ocd gettin bored like a bully teasing just teasing if u agree there like oh ok
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@colleen123 I find it’s effective for Hocd and TOCD with me ROCD is different because that’s not an internal obsession and it involves someone else. Also while you’re agreeing to the thoughts distract yourself with something you enjoy like a show. You have to agree and distract because if you do not occupy yourself with something you enjoy or know I find I depersonalize so you have to find a balance of things you know aren’t true about yourself and things you know you love it kinda cancels out like pemdas. If this doesn’t work consider ERP. It’s hard to do because the thoughts are very against what you know your morality to be so it’s very easy to lose yourself and then panic and then have to start all over again. I hope this makes sense, if you have any further questions let me know.
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- 5y ago
I totally went through this! I only have ever had one huge crush but never crushes on girls. Never felt like *this* before and have only gotten a few crushes on celebrities, like Tom Hiddleston. But that just doesn’t seem enough
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Everyone has a Same Sex Celebrity Crush Mines Ryan Reynolds
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(continuation) .... on boys as cover ups. I’m really scared and is this normal for hocd or am I really just in denial?
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Sounds like OCD to me , I’ve been through HOCD , Just Agree Sarcastically and be like “Yeah I’m a total Les”
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Okay tysm
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@zoeannahardy is that self talk helpful for other types of ocd , just agreeing til you get bored ?
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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- 10w ago
Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?
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