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Yeah honestly just be like “I’m gay and that’s fine” continuously agree with the thoughts then your mind will get bored...HOCD is super hard because it attacks your fundamental values that make up you as a person. I’m assuming you’re old enough to know what you want. If you liked the opposite gender before you fell into the trap of HOCD you’re all good, if you had suspicions you may be gay before HOCD then you may need to reconsider. HOCD is the worst cause it makes you feel like someone other than yourself you depersonalize which is 1 extremely uncomfortable and 2 scary because you’re like I don’t even know myself anymore. You’re gonna be all good whether you’re straight or not, life with OCD has a way of figuring itself out if you push.
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Yeah like what @ocdmakemecrazy said your ego is never gonna allow the thoughts to become true your mind might and it’s gonna feel real in your brain until it gets bored. The brain is a muscle and when you get new information in it’s exciting and fun or scary and not so fun so if you are constantly being like “yes brain I’m gay I love the same sex woohoo” your brains gonna be like goddamn we gay now but your egos gonna be like “bitch you thought” and your egos gonna whip around and be like “you are still *insert sexual preference you know you are*” then you’ll be like “wow did I really think I was gay!” And happy happy neurons firing mix in some serotonin and your brain is back balanced homeostasis. Because all OCD is a chemical dump in your brain!
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I suffer with pocd so I’ll try your method and bring it up with my therapist! I love your post and how you talk btw using humor to combat this ocd is great
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Let me know if it works! Good luck to you ?
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It’s more about your ocd gettin bored like a bully teasing just teasing if u agree there like oh ok
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@colleen123 I find it’s effective for Hocd and TOCD with me ROCD is different because that’s not an internal obsession and it involves someone else. Also while you’re agreeing to the thoughts distract yourself with something you enjoy like a show. You have to agree and distract because if you do not occupy yourself with something you enjoy or know I find I depersonalize so you have to find a balance of things you know aren’t true about yourself and things you know you love it kinda cancels out like pemdas. If this doesn’t work consider ERP. It’s hard to do because the thoughts are very against what you know your morality to be so it’s very easy to lose yourself and then panic and then have to start all over again. I hope this makes sense, if you have any further questions let me know.
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Everyone has a Same Sex Celebrity Crush Mines Ryan Reynolds
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(continuation) .... on boys as cover ups. I’m really scared and is this normal for hocd or am I really just in denial?
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Sounds like OCD to me , I’ve been through HOCD , Just Agree Sarcastically and be like “Yeah I’m a total Les”
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Okay tysm
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@zoeannahardy is that self talk helpful for other types of ocd , just agreeing til you get bored ?
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- 22w
I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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I feel like I'm lying to myself, like I just don't accept that I'm gay, I don't want to be gay, I don't want to feel any kind of attraction anymore, I want to go to a psychologist to find out if I really have hocd or if it's just an excuse, because it feels like I really am gay, but nothing was authentic, it all started with thoughts that made me panic extremely hard and I felt like crying and I had delusions, I don't understand why this is happening to me, I didn't like any boys before the thoughts appeared, but exactly one day after they appeared, all the boys were attractive, of all ages, I want to recover :( I'm only 17 years old, for about 2 months I've been having thoughts, I don't know what to do, I can't go to a psychologist, I need help :(
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Hey everyone, I’m reaching out because I’ve been going through one of the hardest mental spirals of my life, and I’m hoping someone can relate or shed light on what’s happening to me. About 4 months ago, I accidentally came across a trans porn scene. It didn’t do much at the time, but later it triggered this overwhelming intrusive thought: “What if I’m gay?” Since then, it’s been absolute hell. I’ve always been into women—emotionally, sexually, everything. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a girl I love deeply. But after that moment, my brain started spiraling into nonstop analysis. I began checking how I felt around men, whether I felt attraction, whether I was in denial, whether I was lying to myself. Literally everything became a test. I got stuck in this loop: • A thought pops in → panic • Try to solve it → brief relief • Another thought → worse panic • Repeat. At times, it got so bad I couldn’t feel anything at all—toward my girlfriend, toward women, toward myself. I started doubting everything. Some days, I feel emotionally flat, like I’ve lost my personality. Other days, I wake up with a full-body jolt of “truth” like “I’m definitely gay”—only for it to fade into numbness again. I’ve also noticed that I get short bursts of peace when I stop reacting, but then the fear comes back louder, like “See? Now you’re accepting it. That means it’s true.” Therapy hasn’t helped much so far—it felt more like general counseling. They told me to sit with the thoughts, but didn’t clarify if this was OCD, identity questioning, or trauma. That just made it worse because now I’m back to thinking “What if I’m just rejecting my truth?” I’m exhausted. I’ve lost connection to everything I used to love. • I want to love my girl again the way I used to • I want to feel desire without overthinking • I want to trust myself again I’m not looking for reassurance—I just want to know if anyone else has gone through something like this, and if this sounds like HOCD or identity OCD. Thanks for reading.
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