Exposure ROCD Tips

Do you have any ideas/inspiration for exposures on partner-focused ROCD? I struggle with my partners physical flaws, it's very distressing for me even though I find it ridiculous that a simple thing like hair or face shape can cause me so much irritation. Furthermore I sometimes have problems with my partners behaviour, like making a lot of jokes or behing a bit hyperactive (this is mainly the case when I don't feel good/feel tired etc). I stopped confessing to people how I feel about his flaws. My main ritual is to constantly look at or think about the things that are bothering me and check my feeling. I ask myself If that means we are not compatible or if I don't find him attractive (enough), at the same time I have a lot of shame. I really want to work on this because I don't want this to destroy the wonderful thing I have. So I think I need to start doing the work. I'll also see him this Friday for the first time in over a month (due to ldr) and I'm a bit nervous how things will go. Any advice?

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Username: Jeffrey Jeffrey

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

I am sorry you are having a difficult time. It is difficult when intrusive thoughts bombard us with all these negative thoughts. I am not sure where you are in erp but I would encourage you to let that thoughts be there without judgment. A thought is just a thought - it doesn’t have to mean anything. When the intrusive thought arrives, acknowledge its presence and nothing else. Oh, I am having an intrusive thought about my boyfriend. You may even try saying something to the ocd like, well isn’t that interesting and leave it there. Ocd wants certainty and we can’t have that. You say intrusive thoughts make you worry that you are not compatible- so when that thought comes up - you could say maybe we aren’t compatible, but I am moving forward in this relationship and we will find out where it goes. I hope this helps

Username: geraltgeralt

Date posted: 2y ago

I'm on the same boat, I need some advices.

Username: Brendan =]Brendan =]

Date posted: 2y ago

I’m struggling with the same thing but I also have BDD.

Username: Stacy QuickStacy Quick

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 2y ago

Hello, thank you for sharing, this can be so difficult to experience, but I think that it is clear that you have a great deal of insight into this disorder and what it does to you in regard to your relationship. The problem with OCD is logic doesn't typically work to dispel the thoughts. ERP has been shown to be very effective in treating all OCD themes. Check out some of our resources below: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/five-signs-relationship-ocd https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/rocd-the-ocd-subtype-with-uniquely-challenging-social-ramifications https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-doubts-sign-of-relationship-ocd-symptom

Username: dmfp

Date posted: 5y ago

What are exposures you all do for rocd?

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Username: savvysavvy

Date posted: 4y ago

So my most current theme has been ROCD. It’s been nagging at me for the last 4 years. OCD makes me INCREDIBLY self critical and I often turn that internal voice on to my partner and can be incredibly critical of him. In essence, I’m almost subconsciously sabotaging my relationship which is the OPPOSITE of what I want. I’m looking for people who experience this same response and patterned behaviour. Share tips, in-the-moment awareness suggestions. Words of encouragement (not reassurance). OCD is such a trip lol

Username: Ms. P

Date posted: 45w ago

Exposures for ROCD

I’m looking for anyone who is working in ROCD or has recovered from this form of OCD. Does anyone feel like personal accountability is a difficult exposure? My core fear in ROCD is that I am in the wrong relationship and will stay in the wrong relationship even if all signs point to 🚩🚩🚩 My relationship with my current partner is not perfect and we do have disagreements and arguments. I have already been reassured by family and friends and therapist about these situations being normal level conflicts (no abuse happening here). I have been feeling so frustrated about my ROCD and the doubt and hyperfixation on the negatives in my relationship. My attempted solution to this is to be as accountable for my side of our issues as I can, owning my OCD symptoms, and owning any of my bad behavior, without then turning and calling him out on his behavior. This has been AGONIZING. I become so fearful that I am being taken advantage of, that he will learn that he never had to be accountable, and that in the end I will be a pathetic victim who chose her own terrible fate. I feel like me taking this accountability is a pretty intense exposure and wondered if anyone has experienced the same thing?

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