She's amazing and im not

I'm just worried that feeling is gone and keep getting what if its not rocd it feels different this time what if it never comes back and I'm trying to just sit with it

Im meeting her soon during the week and idk whether to kiss her my thoughts are everywhere with it what do u think?

@Charlie I’m sorry you’re struggling. Have you tried writing ERP scripts about this? I think that would be the most helpful. There’s free exercises in the app. That way you can prepare when you meet her!

@hellopeople I've been listening to romantic songs and sitting with the feelings and thoughts and throughout the day I'll be fine and think okay ik I like her and then it'll be do I really tho would i care if we ended things

@Charlie Researching laws of logic also helped me. I know people say we can’t beat OCD by logic though. Creating scenarios that are not real to “test” how we can control it hurts us immensely. It’s awesome you are doing ERP with romantic songs!!! I think even “I know I like her” is a thought that can be a reassurance, which is why when you cling to certainty about it intrusive thoughts counter it as well.

@hellopeople What's worse is she told me a couple days ago that she had something to say to me but she's scared to say it and through asking questions about it I've determined it's definitely I love you and ofc the thoughts came rushing in and last night I went thru one of the periods of it being "I know I liker her" so when she tells me I'll show her three pages that say I love you but now I'm thinking oh u should delete those u want to even tho if she had told me two weeks ago I'd have 100% said it back

@hellopeople I have had a lot of success combatting my OCD themes with writing ERP Scripts. After reading them back many times, the thoughts/fears start to lose their potency.

@Lisa LeeLou I'm worried I'll do that have no anxiety and the feelings for her won't be there after

@hellopeople @charlie thanks For sharing what you are going through. Please keep in mind that OCD is the doubting disease. Therefore, it’s no surprise that it is interfering with your relationship. I know easier said than done, but try to treat these like any other thoughts. Just thinking something does not make it true. In an OCD support group I attended recently, it came up in discussion how OCD never seems to obsess about good thoughts. The group moderator’s response to this was interesting to me. she commented that OCD latches on to items that have a problem solving quality. Therefore, OCD doesn’t latch onto thoughts like “oh I’m a wonderful student” or “my marriage is great” because that does not present a problem “to be solved”. In other words OCD presents a non-balanced and one-sided picture.

@Charlie That’s a common ocd trick! But we have to go through the anxiety to get out of it! Scripts are very helpful thought difficult :)

@hellopeople I was wondering on what u think about this, before rocd came back ik I missed her and when, now its back she asked me yesterday do u even miss me and now I'm unsure and very tempted to Google how do ik i miss someone, that's a bad idea right, should I sit with not knowing if I do?

@Charlie Yes, sit with not knowing. If it helps you can let her know you’re going through some ROCD struggles. But great job at identifying the compulsion to google!