- Username
- crazyfeelings
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You should not play to mute your thoughts. Games is ocd and muting your thoughts is ocd that will get you to scream someday when you cannot mute it anymore. I used to have that muting problem but my brother told me that I shouldn't escape from my thoughts I should just think and relax not depress myself, and I found it quite helpful. Just relax, do not tense yourself, try to concentrate on the real problem or solution bc I think you didn't think right before, I mean it could just be that you push yourself into something you thinkg is the solution but I'm not saying that tho. Sorry I didn't focus on the main issue here but I don't know how to help you in it but that's the best I can do and I'm sure you can help yourself if you tried again and you can use some help from someone good. I am sure it's gonna end up well soon and hope you get better. Don't give up!?❤️
I’m not really playing to mute my thoughts, I’m playing because it calms me down. Like the thoughts are still there but they don’t bother me as much. I saw fthis thing that said that you should do something you enjoy for like 15 minutes to kind of calm your mind to get you in the right mindset. I guess that could be true thought I could be pushing the thoughts away??♀️ Idk though. I do seem like I’m getting better, because I still can tell what’s real and what’s not. I also can still tell when a boys a cutie?? The attraction just isn’t the same. Thank you though!!❤️❤️
Best wishes?❤️
If it bothers you its because you’re still taking it too seriously, play with the thought a little bit laugh at it, dont be so hard on yourself, with practice it’ll have the same importance as any other random thought like “i should do groceries” thing is you dont get stuck on why you have to go to the supermarket, the point is that you get scared with the “being gay” thought. When it comes, laugh at it, say “oh hey intrusive thought here you are again, ok, i guess me and my superb gayness will carry on through the day” and engage on something.
Hey there! I would say to the thought when it comes “so what if im gay?” or “then at least men would be more empathic” and laugh, each time it comes try either to accept it with a “so what” or with humor, and keep going throuh your day, when it comes confront it with “yeah right im probably the gayest person alive” put a little fun into it, ridiculize it, accept that is there and is just your sinapses trying to give you an interesting topic to engage with. The more you accept, ridiculize and then engage in other activity, the more tolerance you’ll get towards the thought and it will subside, remember, don’t fight it, don’t fear it. Accept it when it comes, laugh at it. Hang in there!!
I correct myself use the “at least women will understand me better” i missed that you’re a girl, the rest apply it the same! cheers!
That’s actually what I’ve been trying lately and it seems to work, because I know I’m not a lesbian it’s just the fact that it’s there that bothers me
Ok I’ll do that!!
Hey, how’s it been going so far?
Everything has been really good!! I’m getting better everyday. Obviously the thoughts still pop up but I don’t care anymore. I’m stronger than it and I’m showing it that I don’t care. ERP is easier I can do it during the day because I don’t get triggered as much. It’s all becoming easier
I’m new to this app and just wanted to share my story. As a young girl I definitely had compulsions. My mom always told me she would take me to a psychiatrist (I would cry when people sat on my bed). Anyways, as I got older I definitely grew out of a lot of things. I’ve never been diagnosed with OCD but I have GAD. I know I definitely have OCD because I have done a lot of research. Recently I have really, really been struggling with HOCD. I’ve never experienced this before, and that’s why it’s making it more scary. I’m a young adult woman and have been in a very serious relationship with a male for many years. I love him so much. I am also very athletic and not very girly. I always loved the fact that I was a guys gal, but lately it has made me super insecure. A lot of people at school assume I’m bisexual because I’m super pro LGBTQ rights and idk? Idk why I give off that “vibe”. It never bothered me, I always thought it was funny, and I have no issue with being gay, but I’m definitely not?! During this quarantine my guy friends have said I have way way more guy friends than girl friends, someone asked my teammate if I was bisexual, and I have never had an orgasm from my boyfriend. It started really getting in my head and I keep being like “am I gay and that’s why I don’t orgasm”. This seems so pathetic and writing this actually helps and makes me realize there is no way I like women. But anyways THE THOUGHTS DO NOT STOP. I keep worrying that I do not know myself, and maybe I don’t love my bf, and maybe other people see something I don’t. Anyways, how can I help myself? I am noticing I’m reassuring and checking and starting compulsions
Hi guys, Straight female here. Having a tough night. I guess I'm ruminating on how this OCD started, I was browsing an app and came across half naked anime girls and I guess sexual images in general arouse me (I'm not sure why), but then I froze and told myself "oh my God, I must be a lesbian and I can't be with my boyfriend anymore." Ever since then, I've been checking and checking and checking some more. I've managed to not research anything (which I'm proud of), but it's just so unbearable, I'm worried I'm somehow in denial or something because the thoughts at first didn't really give me much anxiety but now I'm very stressed out. I keep thinking about my past and if I was a normal "straight" person, and wondering if I'm somehow actually a lesbian. I keep having awful dreams about it. Ironically, I can still be intimate with my boyfriend and somewhat enjoy sex but other times not so much and my brain tells me I am lying to myself. I keep trying to reassure myself that I'm not homosexual. I can't even fall asleep tonight. I checked my stress levels on my health app and its through the roof. I just want to feel like I used to and be confident about my identity, but my brain tells me that I only enjoyed sex with my boyfriend back then because it was new and exciting and just a fling. Before all this, I was only ever attracted to men and only had male crushes. Now, I find it hard to even understand what's going on and I find more comfort in wondering if I'm just asexual so that I don't have to deal with it. I'm physically shaking writing about this because I feel so hopeless. Just a few hours ago, I thought I had a breakthrough and I was feeling alright. I accepted the thoughts as they were and I was going along with it. But now it's triggered again because I'm not sure if they're intrusive thoughts or me being in denial, because I keep having to reassure myself that I'm not homosexual and that I'm attracted to men. The guilt of how it all started is keeping me from moving on because it is somehow proof that I am not straight. This is awful. It feels good to write it out. Thanks for reading.
I’ve actually tried writing this multiple times and keep getting scared. Scared because - I don’t want to be the exception. I recognize that this is typical OCD, but my OCD has been manifesting itself not in anxiety - mostly it’s just this dull nagging feeling. This feeling says that I know I’m gay - it’s like I can feel that it’s true. Yet it’s not a clarity - it just feels like this truth that I don’t want to accept. Writing this and not erasing it - is in a way an exposure so I’m going to post this. Because as I reread it, I’m scared that if I post it - people will read it and be like- oh yes that is different from everyone else. I think she’s actually gay. I try to accept the thoughts as they are - thoughts, but then things like friends will comment about cute guys and suddenly I’m reminded that maybe I don’t notice guys as much as them therefore : I’m gay. I’m trying to lean into the uncertainty - just this dull nagging starts drilling in deep overtime.
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