Relationship OCD

Has anyone experienced OCD in relationships that looks like excessive jealousy? I have been traumatized in past relationships and it created horrible thoughts that put me in a really, really bad place in my most recent relationship and I was accusing him of cheating and all kinds of things. I became obsessed and nothing could change my mind I became so stuck on it. It became so concerning and scary. Wondering if anyone had a similar experience at all? :/

Relationship OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

Thanks for the tip! I appreciate it 😊

Anonymous

Date posted: 24d

Hello, I was tooo traumatized in the past, my husband cheated on me with another woman and the pain from everything that happened right after felt like my husband had died. The pain was so severe and me and my children went through HELL!!! So we are now back together over 12 years later and my Anxiety and Depression are causing my OCD to compulsively hear and think thoughts that it will happen again and that I will go through it all again with that pain, that severe pain. I told myself I would never let myself go through that again in no way. So I’m OCD compulsively asking my husband if he loves me or will or is doing this!!! It’s horrible to think and hear and compulsive ask for reassurance all the time. It’s really causing it hard in our relationship and also causing my husband a lot of pain tooo. I’m just over it already. Please help????? Any ideas

sydneylhill

Date posted: 3y

Yes I am the exact same and it is the most draining thing in the world. It creates so many problems in the relationship and it’s so hard to cope with.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

@sydneylhill Yes. I even created fake scenarios in my head and my mind actually believed that they happened. It was torture. Did that happen to you? Even with people he should have never with, ie. my family members. I felt so alone and crazy.

sydneylhill

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous Oh yes for sure. My boyfriend works at a coffee shop and sometimes girls will “hit” on him and I feel so bad bc before dating him, I was not that jealous at all w previous relationships but I’ve been with him for so long I guess and over the years my OCD has flared up exponentially. So if a girl does hit on him, I will sit there for so long, and in my head, I will create scenarios of what he would say and of what they would do together, and then I would actually believe it and try and find evidence to prove it

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

Omg! I can’t believe I’m not alone in this. Thank you for sharing because it has felt so overwhelming and I just felt so crazy and honestly it was tormenting. When I was in a different room showering, I had intrusive thoughts that something happened with my ex right then and a family member and it stuck and wouldn’t go away. I was so uncomfortable being around both of them together it was honestly torture. Crazy other people experience these types of things. I am so fearful of this happening again I am so scared to get into another relationship 😔

sydneylhill

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous Oh yeah no you’re definitely not the only one. Maybe you could do some exposures on the topic such as writing your worry’s down into a worry script and read it over and over until your anxiety on that topic goes down so you won’t be as anxious and won’t have to worry about a new relationship

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