I just want to love him!!! It’s not fair!! Everytime I talk to him I wanna break up… I can’t tell if ROCD is there anymore… please… I want this urge to go away!!! 😭 What if breaking up is the only way… to know. I don’t wanna break up with him. Did anyone on here 100% believed they lost feelings bc of obsessing? 😢💔
In my experience, if you give into your compulsions another fear will immediately take its place. I can’t say forsure, but there’s a possibility when you break up with him, another OCD type fear will just take its place. That always happens with me, and usually when a theme switch occurs. I’d suggest inviting the uncertainty in by saying something like, “I’m feeling anxious because idk if I want to be with my BF, I can’t be 100% certain that’s not true or won’t be in the future, I’m willing to live happily with the uncertainty.” Then sit with those feelings without giving into compulsions. For me, over time and with effort (ERP), clarity for how I actually feel about a situation associated with OCD comes.
@Anon. if another OCD theme comes after a break up, does that mean that the thoughts were true about not loving a partner? and if the two get back together, will the ROCD circle start all over again?
@jâd20 In my experience, there is no answering your questions with 100% certainty. That is for all OCD, it seeks 100% certainty for something when that’s not possible. I can’t answer any of your questions, and if it were me in your situation, I imagine I wouldn’t get any real answers by breaking up or staying together. The clarity would come naturally as a result of doing ERP
I’ve heard that your brain is so focused on analyzing and is hypervigiliant, you may be closing of your receiving love, comfort and joy! I guilty of this. Currently learning how to allow in, and receive love ❤️
But it’s been non stop… I feel no love for my partner at all… 😢 I kept testing the weeks before that I wanna break up by sending fake text to myself or trying to see if I would send it. Please.. I don’t wanna do it or idk anymore… 😢💔 please help me… my relationship is gonna die!! Why would I let myself suffer if I truly believe I didn’t love him anymore or wanted to truly break up… I truly don’t wanna break up with him but half the time it feels that way! 😢💔 I’m not even asking for my feelings to come back I just wanna love him again… I want to love him. What if it’s too late for us!!!
@7710 ❤️ all that you do are compulsions, you should try to identify then stop them in the first place
I don’t wanna break up! I am up crying all morning. I ruined my own birthday yesterday! I want to love him! I have my period but even before it was sorta like like! I held his hand one day and cried!!! Why would I cry for a man if I didn’t love him!! Why!? I know I would’ve walked away! Can ROCD truly make you believe you found truth and make you not love your partner!!!?? Can it honestly get this bad!!!!
I really need someone to talk to… just to vent… if not.. i just need get this out and everything can ignore if they want.… I don’t know what to do… I know I’ve been severely obsessing for 2 year about if I truly love my partner or not for 2 years… I am severely saddened about how I feel right now…. Before I knew I wanted to love him and stay.. it felt genuine like I was really mentally sick… but now… my partner looks like a stranger to me, I get annoyed at him easily even if he’s just sitting still… it’s like he’s a different person to me and I hate it… I wanted so badly for me to know if I love him or not… and it’s like our time together never happened… I don’t cuddle talk or do much of anything anymore with him and it bothers me… I feel no emotional connection with him… maybe his flaws are too much for me… 😢😢 I don’t know…. I want to love him again like before but I completely feel like I’m lying to him and myself… I don’t wanna end my relationship I really don’t want to… I do t know how badly ROCD can get but… this is the worst I’ve ever had… my relationship is gonna die… 😢 I’m sitting here quietly crying while he is asleep….
Oh god someone please help me!! 😭 I need help!! I don’t wanna break up! But it’s like I really want to and due to me believing I don’t love him!!! 😢😢😢😭😭😭 please!! Did anyone recover from thinking they didn’t love their partner of ROCD anxiety and depression!?!? Am I just too afraid too break up is that it!!!!!!!!! My 12 year relationship is gonna die!!! Please!! I don’t wanna break up!!!!
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