- Username
- amazinggirl15
- Date posted
- 5y ago
- Username
- maya1090maya1090
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hang in there, if you see some women that are attractive then go to yourself "yes they are very attractive!" but then move on. Accept the thought, don't deny it & you will wlfind at the start this is terrible & then eventually (I hope!!) that the thought doesn't bother you. Let's be honest thoughts are not orders or an instruction to do something. My mind feels outta synch to he honest.
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- SpiralSpiral
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I know how this feels too ? It'll be okay, we'll get better and move on some day
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- crazyfeelings crazyfeelings
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s ok to think a girls attractive, what you need to do is say “yes I think that girls attractive” Then you will start not caring about it. When I’m working I see a lot of pretty girls but lately I haven’t even noticed them because I’m not worried about the thoughts as much. I also so some cute boys and I noticed them, because some of my attraction is back. Just the fact that I can tell when a boy is really cute helps me know I’m going to get better. Also thoughts are just thoughts they come up but most of the time they aren’t true, and if it’s not something you want then it’s not true! If you were gay you would know, it wouldn’t be so confusing. If you get what I mean! We’re going to get better, just keep pushing!!?
- Username
- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
The more you focus on missing men and trying to “figure out” if you’re gay or straight the more you prolong the process. Practice radical acceptance: you’re here and this is what you need to face. Then practice ERP: expose yourself to your triggers (looking at women), acknowledge whatever thoughts come into your head without performing compulsions (trying to suppress, analyze, test, etc.) sit with the anxiety until it dissipates. Repeat. Heal. You’ve got this.
- Username
- justtryingmybestjusttryingmy...
- Date posted
- 5y ago
don’t try to figure it out, just let the thoughts go through your mind. i totally understand that letting thoughts “flow” is way easier said than done but once you let go of trying to figure it all out, THAT is when you’ll make progress and begin to get better ?
- Username
- amazinggirl15amazinggirl15
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Thanks guys
- Username
- ocdsucksbuttocdsucksbutt
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I feel the exact same way! Every girl I see appears to be “attractive” now and I’m convinced I like them. It’s so infuriating and I wish it’d get the hell out of my head, but unfortunately it just won’t without us trying and I just want it to stop but we have to try:/
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- Username
- Iann
- Date posted
- 5y ago
So looks like I’ve hit a wall I haven’t hit ever with this ocd. If you can even call it ocd. I genuinely feel confused. Idk what’s real or not. Idk what my mind or body wants. I feel so stressed out. My thoughts don’t give me anxiety anymore and sometimes it genuinely feels like I want it and I’m just hiding it. I don’t get it. I even lost attraction to this girl I was madly interested in. I don’t know what to do anymore really. I see any dude and my mind automatically starts thinking “you’re attracted to him” literally every single guy I see. I’m not even kidding. I really don’t get what’s going on with me. I haven’t been diagnosed yet because there are no ocd specialists in my area. My mom told me once she thinks she has ocd and my aunt as well. But their ocd seems more like the “traditional” type of ocd where you can actually see their compulsions. I think I struggled from Religious ocd a few years back. Also with my ex girlfriend there was a period where I struggled with ROCD I believe but got over it. Now Hocd has definitely been the worst and what makes it worse is that I actually had a gay experience but even after that I didn’t question my sexuality. I maybe would get the ocasional “you’re gay” thought but wouldn’t pay it attention and it just went away. But now it just can’t leave my head. This has been going on since February. I used to be crazy for women, don’t know what’s wrong with me. I even had sex with the girl I really like about 2 weeks ago and really enjoyed it! But now my attraction for her seemingly disappeared out of nowhere when this hocd bull starts acting up again. I’m so tired of this.
- Username
- crazyfeelings
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m constantly thinking about hocd thoughts. What if I’m gay? What if you like her? Blah blah things like that, I can’t tell if it’s ocd anymore. Like deep down I know, and some days I know all the time I’m straight. I don’t like girls, I never have. So why can’t I just get it through my head? I’m tired of it. I literally can’t tell anymore
- Username
- iamokay
- Date posted
- 1y ago
advice on hocd pls
so i’m straight, but one thing that’s always bothered me was i was never the type to look at a guy and automatically think dirty thoughts about them like some girls do i would think they’re good looking and move on. but lately i have been looking at guys and think ways i never have before because i don’t really care for sex but this time i actually think about it when i find someone attractive and it started to worry me because i was like i never thought that much sexually before so why am i now? and then i get thoughts in my head that say why are you worried aren’t you straight why are you worried to think sexual about guys? and it’s the anxiety about the fact that i actually think dirty thoughts when i see a cute guy and before i never would and then hocd coming in to play making me wonder that i shouldn’t be anxious if i was always straight but it’s not that i get anxious because i never thought that sexually before but ocd makes me think i’m worried about liking a guy but that’s not true sorry if it’s a bit confusing
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