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Hang in there, if you see some women that are attractive then go to yourself "yes they are very attractive!" but then move on. Accept the thought, don't deny it & you will wlfind at the start this is terrible & then eventually (I hope!!) that the thought doesn't bother you. Let's be honest thoughts are not orders or an instruction to do something. My mind feels outta synch to he honest.
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I know how this feels too ? It'll be okay, we'll get better and move on some day
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It’s ok to think a girls attractive, what you need to do is say “yes I think that girls attractive” Then you will start not caring about it. When I’m working I see a lot of pretty girls but lately I haven’t even noticed them because I’m not worried about the thoughts as much. I also so some cute boys and I noticed them, because some of my attraction is back. Just the fact that I can tell when a boy is really cute helps me know I’m going to get better. Also thoughts are just thoughts they come up but most of the time they aren’t true, and if it’s not something you want then it’s not true! If you were gay you would know, it wouldn’t be so confusing. If you get what I mean! We’re going to get better, just keep pushing!!?
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The more you focus on missing men and trying to “figure out” if you’re gay or straight the more you prolong the process. Practice radical acceptance: you’re here and this is what you need to face. Then practice ERP: expose yourself to your triggers (looking at women), acknowledge whatever thoughts come into your head without performing compulsions (trying to suppress, analyze, test, etc.) sit with the anxiety until it dissipates. Repeat. Heal. You’ve got this.
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don’t try to figure it out, just let the thoughts go through your mind. i totally understand that letting thoughts “flow” is way easier said than done but once you let go of trying to figure it all out, THAT is when you’ll make progress and begin to get better ?
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Thanks guys
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I feel the exact same way! Every girl I see appears to be “attractive” now and I’m convinced I like them. It’s so infuriating and I wish it’d get the hell out of my head, but unfortunately it just won’t without us trying and I just want it to stop but we have to try:/
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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