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- 5y ago
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- 5y ago
Hang in there, if you see some women that are attractive then go to yourself "yes they are very attractive!" but then move on. Accept the thought, don't deny it & you will wlfind at the start this is terrible & then eventually (I hope!!) that the thought doesn't bother you. Let's be honest thoughts are not orders or an instruction to do something. My mind feels outta synch to he honest.
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- 5y ago
I know how this feels too ? It'll be okay, we'll get better and move on some day
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- 5y ago
It’s ok to think a girls attractive, what you need to do is say “yes I think that girls attractive” Then you will start not caring about it. When I’m working I see a lot of pretty girls but lately I haven’t even noticed them because I’m not worried about the thoughts as much. I also so some cute boys and I noticed them, because some of my attraction is back. Just the fact that I can tell when a boy is really cute helps me know I’m going to get better. Also thoughts are just thoughts they come up but most of the time they aren’t true, and if it’s not something you want then it’s not true! If you were gay you would know, it wouldn’t be so confusing. If you get what I mean! We’re going to get better, just keep pushing!!?
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- 5y ago
The more you focus on missing men and trying to “figure out” if you’re gay or straight the more you prolong the process. Practice radical acceptance: you’re here and this is what you need to face. Then practice ERP: expose yourself to your triggers (looking at women), acknowledge whatever thoughts come into your head without performing compulsions (trying to suppress, analyze, test, etc.) sit with the anxiety until it dissipates. Repeat. Heal. You’ve got this.
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- 5y ago
don’t try to figure it out, just let the thoughts go through your mind. i totally understand that letting thoughts “flow” is way easier said than done but once you let go of trying to figure it all out, THAT is when you’ll make progress and begin to get better ?
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- 5y ago
Thanks guys
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- 5y ago
I feel the exact same way! Every girl I see appears to be “attractive” now and I’m convinced I like them. It’s so infuriating and I wish it’d get the hell out of my head, but unfortunately it just won’t without us trying and I just want it to stop but we have to try:/
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- 22w ago
can someone with this theme help me i’m so scared and i can’t stop having panic attacks is this OCD??? So i always have struggled most with sucicidal ocd and harm ocd. i never really had any other themes. but recently ive struggled with SOOCD. My whole life i have never EVER been into girls ever and i could never even think of ever being with a girl in my entire life. i’m having extreme amounts of anxiety and i have compulsions to make sure i look at a girl and don’t feel anything towards them or anything. My mind is literally going “what if your just in denial” or “what if you’ve just been hiding it all these years” When i know i haven’t. i have all of the symptoms of SOOCD and i still know that im not gay,but these thoughts are extremely distressing and have been the worse to deal with. I’m constantly panicking and doing compulsions to get these thoughts to leave and they won’t. i’m scared and these thoughts are making my mind scared. What if i’m going against my morals and i’m lying to myself like and i just went through a tough breakup too so that is shooting these thoughts and anxiety. Please help omg!!!
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- 18w ago
It feels like I’m lying to myself constantly and everyone. There feels like there is a weight on my heart from the moment I wake up till I go to sleep. I don’t want to be gay. Idk why it doesn’t register. Now everyone I see I have to see if I’m attracted to them. I see good looking men and I feel like I’m lying to myself that they are good looking, I see women and I see if im attracted to them. I look at everyone and I feel jealous. I want my fucking life back. But now my OCD (if this is even OCD) is telling me I was never happy and I was always suppressing my feelings of being gay. Why is this happening? Can OCD do this? I can’t enjoy anything ever.
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- 16w ago
I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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