I’m so sad today

I genuinely feel like the worlds most horrible person deeply for my past actions in childhood and general mistakes I’ve made. I feel like I shouldn’t be here or there’s no hope for me despite doing right ( trying to do right ) I’ve wanted to open up to my mom about things from my past but when I was talking to her about a situation that happened just to share, she was like “Thank God you’ve never done anything like that” But really my past mistakes are worst. It’s like I feel like I should disappear. I don’t know how to deal with the guilt and I feel horrible. I’ve made good and bad decisions but despite this being a long time ago ( which doesn’t erase my stupid actions ) I still keep bringing back into the present and I’m filled with guilt I genuinely think it would be better if I wasn’t here. I wake up think about my past things and I’m filled with guilt and shame that maybe I am a bad person and voices don’t stop, they keep telling me a lot of things that I start to believe. It makes me upset that I did something like that in my past and I try to be understanding but I can imagine the reactions of people and being condemned so much. I literally do this to myself every single day and it’s exhausting I don’t know how you guys can treat me with so much compassion and understanding. It really doesn’t feel real or like I deserve it. Like even on nocd, it makes me feel worst because I come across comments that say “as long as it’s not —-“ or something and I compare it to my past and I feel like a horrible unacceptable person.

So, i haven’t posted on here in a while. Which, honestly I should have. Bc this is a great place to hear I’m not alone. But, I have been with this girl Julie, then Kaleb, and then Julie again. Now I’m not with her, and I’m with Eleanor. She’s lovely. But, I’m thinking “what if she isn’t? What if she’s just like them and is lying about how fine it is that I’m being open.” All these what ifs. Cause I have always thought the past people I was with were “good people” but they didn’t listen like she does. And just the decent thing a human should do. It’s hard thinking I’m ruining everything. And thinking I’m not good enough. Usually these relationships fall apart, so with that mindset Im retracting my emotions. I feel like i’m Oversharing with her. And it’s bothering her. And I ask if it is, she says it isn’t. Again it’s just a bunch of what ifs bc ik I would lie and say it isn’t bothering me sometimes. But she isn’t me. GRRRR THIS SHIT IS JUST FRUSTRATING

I'm worried I'm gonna get hurt. There is a guy I'm talking to and we plan to hangout soon. We have been talking for awhile and have talked at school. I have a few ex boyfriends, two to be exact. One turned out to be awful, but I found out early on because a bunch of women came to me with their concerns of how he creeper them out and used to send them weird messages, he also for awhile would have people message me to get me BACK MONTHS LATER. My other ex was a good guy, but extremely shy and bad with expressing feelings. It didn't feel like I was his girlfriend. That being said I now kinda assume (mainly from the awful guy) that everyone is gonna turn out to be awful and that I can't trust my judgement. This guy I got now knew stuff about ocd already, loves horror movies and art like me, loves cat, good with kids and has a little brother, he remembers little things I say and sends me pretty pictures of the sky and forests when he is out, he warns me when he is sleepy incase he falls asleep when we are texting at night, he knows alot about mental health. He is everything I could want and I just can't believe it's real, that someone like this exists and out of all people LIKES ME. My brain is telling me he could secretly be racist or homophonic or a rapist and I just don't know. My friend who barely knows him and has never spoken to him before but is good at reading people says he is 9 out of 10 percent sure he isn't any of those things. which considering they have never talked or anything it's good. But idk I don't trust myself. I'm scared he will crush my heart. I went through his following on insta to look for people of other races and sexualitys. He follows a girl who is a friend of a friend of mine who is gay, the smosh account and Ian Hecox, he follows Good Mythical Morning and Link (idk why not rhett), and I once joked that I was better then him and he said we are all equal and has said things like he doesn't Haye anyone we were all babies once and stuff like that. I wanna trust my self and my friend but idk.