Scared I’m ‘too young’ to have hocd ?

I had the exact same experience as you! I had my first set of so-ocd at 14 that went on for about a month and then for years it went. I was then 16 it came back and I am now 17 and it's still here (4 months at the moment). I also had a short theme of rocd when I was with my ex boyfriend which I only realised was that very recently

@EllieDuffy21 I think I had ROCD too. Where I would need constant reassurance my ex loved me. Otherwise I’d feel like the worst girlfriend. It became too much for him.

@Dothewalkoflife. I’ve had ROCD too! So the comforting thing is that you know it’s OCD because the themes change!

@Scott328 I hope so!! I just then doubt I had ROCD lol. Because all I really did was ask constantly for reassurance he loved me. If he didn’t, I would feel like the worst person ever. I was obsessed with my ex. Always wanted to be with him, near him but I would obsess that I was a bad girlfriend during and after the relationship. And I’m not sure that’s what ROCD is

@Dothewalkoflife. OCD means you’re obsessing over something and that something causes intense anxiety. The subject doesn’t matter. Relationships, harm, sexual orientation, doesn’t matter. I have the same issue in my marriage. I’m always wondering if my wife loves me or if I’m being a good husband and a good father. I doubt myself all the time. One common trait I’m finding in us OCD sufferers is that we are always doubting ourselves and are always criticizing ourselves. If your boyfriend didn’t love you, he wouldn’t have gotten in a relationship with you in the first place. Break ups happen for many reasons, not because you were a bad person.

@Dothewalkoflife. To add on to what I said above, think of how many times your boyfriend told you he loved you. Did that stop your worrying long term? I doubt it. Now, in a relationship you should try to tell your partner “I love you” often, because we humans need that love and affection (this is just my opinion). At least you and I do haha. My wife is from a different country than me and she was raised differently. So she isn’t used to expressing affection like we Americans do. So she doesn’t tell me she loves me as much as I tell her, however I know that she does love me. Or else she wouldn’t have married me. Does that make sense? So that’s something I’ve had to get used to. Everyone is different when expressing affection. Both verbally and physically.

@Scott328 I asked him everyday for about 3 months. And after being told so many times. It still wasn’t enough for me. Thank you for taking time to explain. You explain things so well haha. I actually understand more

@Dothewalkoflife. You’re welcome! I’m in the same boat as you! We’re going through the exact same things. When the going gets rough, just remember that everything your OCD tells you is a lie and that the content doesn’t matter. That’s what I tell myself. In the moment it’s hard to believe, but you just gotta keep holding on to the handle bars. There’s a podcast I listen to about OCD and the lady always says “it’s going to be ok. The parachute will open.” You’re gonna come out on top.

@Scooterino Oh that makes sense. Thank you

I have done that plenty of times! 🤣😩

@EllieDuffy21 And one thing I’ve realized is that everyone at some point in there life has asked themselves that question. The difference between people with OCD and people who don’t have it is the “other people” ask themselves the question and say “nah” and then they move on with their day. But for those of us with OCD we say “oh my gosh brain! How could you ever ask that?! What does that mean about you?” And there we go into the OCD loop.

@Scott328 Omg yes! That is so true honestly and even when someone's ocd goes away for abit your brain will go nah! But then when ocd is on a high and come back its like OMG YOUR LIVING A LIE and all kinds like that!

@EllieDuffy21 100%! That’s exactly what happens 😂