Does anyone else feel like they have lost their attraction for men and you can’t even imagine being with one? I am so scared because my brain keeps telling me that I am never going to fall in love with a man but I have always wanted to be with men my entire life and instead I am going to fall in love with a women and be happier. Ugghhh can anyone else relate?

Yep relatable. I have a boyfriend who I love a lot, and I am always happy with him, but I often still get niggling doubts. As time's gone on, though, I've started to let those thoughts slide and even though the attraction stuff is still stressful I no longer worry that I could be happier with a woman ?

I have had and recovered from HOCD. While still in it, I couldn’t feel ANYTHING for men. I felt completely empty. I felt like the idea of being attracted to them didn’t even make sense anymore. Women, ALL women, caused an automatic sexual response (which clearly makes no sense. No matter if your gay, straight, or bi, you’re not attracted to EVERY member of that gender/sex.) It wasn’t until recovery that I was able to feel attraction to men again. Once I completely stopped caring if I’d ever feel that particular excitement again, it came back. And honestly, probably stronger than I’d felt it before the OCD. But I think that’s because the entire experience made me really open my mind up towards sexuality and accepting whatever I was/wasn’t capable of. The more open minded I got (e.g. what if we tried this? Ohh this could be fun, oh I liked that for a second but eh let’s try this way now), the stronger I felt things. The narrower I thought and the more particular my thoughts got about what I wanted to be aroused by, (e.g. why don’t I feel anything looking at this penis?! Shouldn’t I feel arousal at the site of his nudity?! Why isn’t my body reacting right now?!) the harder it was to feel anything. The more I let myself play without seeking a particular outcome, rather than assess and analyze, the better I felt. Right now. You’re not attracted to men. Rather than beating yourself up, try to shrug it off (for now). Try to stop focusing on what’s missing that used to be there. Instead, try to get in touch with your senses, exploring new things, opening your mind to sex being totally different now. This might sound weird, but you know that stupid saying about “if you love it, set it free. If it comes back it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.” Well, let go of the sexuality you once knew. Accept uncertainty. Explore rather than analyze. If it comes back, it was yours.

I have this thing that bothers me so much lately. There’s this thought : why would I ever choose to be with a man if I find women prettier and more aestheticaly pleasing? That is weird I know but this thought won’t stop coming back

@tiaaaa I have this thought too. But I think it's irrational, because we as women find our gender beautiful because it's like a personal thing, I don't know if it makes sense. It's like some men saying "men are superior" and whatever. That doesn't make them gay, and this doesn't make us gay either.