My bi friend accidentally said something mean about me. She jokingly gave me a kiss on the cheek and said sorry. I had SUCH a strong urge to make it a real kiss. Then I had a groinal or real attraction, I can’t even tell. And I’m scared. I’m scared because it really felt like I’d like it. I want to cry. I can’t do this
How am I supposed to explain to my psychiatrist tomorrow that I think I have hocd when I don’t even think that anymore. It just feels like denial. I can’t take this. I can’t.
@Dothewalkoflife. It gives me intrusive thoughts of kissing guys too and it makes me feel like I want intrusive thoughts too… like it gives me intrusive feelings that make it feel so real and giving me intrusive thoughts about doing explicit stuff with guys or flirting with guys when I only want to be with women my age and above… your not alone in this at all… I completely relate
@Givenup It’s so scary because It genuinely feels like I’d enjoy it. I don’t think anyone have this
@Dothewalkoflife. I have, believe me, false attraction feels VERY real. But all that panic and disgust you feel is what's real. I'm sorry OCD is hurting you like this. I've been exactly where you've been, you aren't alone in these symptoms
@Dothewalkoflife. It’s making me feel like I enjoy the intrusive thoughts and feelings too… your not alone…
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat It felt 100% real. And after I had distress. I just feel like this can’t be ocd. I’m considering going to the hospital
@Dothewalkoflife. I understand, I've been there. What would you be going to the hospital for?
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat I’m considering going because I just don’t know what to do. I would like an immediate fix. But I know there isn’t one
@Dothewalkoflife. Have you tried the SOS feature on the app?
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat I have done but it doesn’t seem to provide any relief unfortunately
@Dothewalkoflife. Same here, I can't say that feature has worked for me either. Here's one thing you can do: go to the sink and run cold water over your wrists, then while you do that look around and try to find things around you that are blue. This will help pull your attention from your thoughts and onto the physical
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat After you find everything around that's blue, pick another color and continue to do that until you run out of colors to find.
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat When I do things like this. I don’t think about anything. Nothing is on my mind. That’s the only thing that makes me thing maybe this is ocd because when I’m busy it’s not on my mind. Thank you though. I will try this later :)
@Dothewalkoflife. Yup, that's a sign of OCD, works the same with me. You got this, I know it feels like hell, but I promise you can get through it 👍
@Twelve Squirrels in a Trenchcoat It’s making me think and feel like I’m attracted to guys I talk to constantly… it makes it feel so real… I don’t ever want to ever be homosexual or bisexual in any way… it also makes me feel like I’m not anxious…
@Givenup Yup, I've had exactly that. Remember, it wouldn't be there unless you were terrified of it. This all started from OCD and what ifs. OCD really desperately wants you to believe it, but at the end of the day it puts the "False" in false attraction. It feels real, if it didn't you wouldn't have this disorder
First of all she shouldn't be kissing you without your consent, so that's NOT okay. Secondly, give yourself a chance to calm down. I have dealt with false attraction and groinal and everything else and it sucks. You need to understand that our bodies and brains react sexually to any sexual experience before we have time to filter in our morals and values. You got a bunch of feelings, and that in ANY context is normal. I know it's terrifying, but I promise the fact that you are this upset and panicked proves to me this is OCD trying to ruin your day more than anything else
hey, so i’ve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed it’s intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i don’t? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and it’ll tell me the most insane things like “maybe u are attracted” “maybe if u got w them the thoughts will stop” someone please help.
False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true
Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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