A friend of mine asked to go on a little trip with her, with us will come her crush and to not leave me alone she asked him to bring one of his friends, this thing is giving me anxiety because even if it's just for one day and I don't have to go out with this guy, I feel pressured and I feel like I'm in denial, I don't know what to do.
I understand this. I understand how you are feeling. I would recommend speaking to your friend about this if you have the trust in your relationship to do so. If you explain to her the situation and what is going on she will be able able try and accommodate to yourself and what is best for you. If you do want to spend time with his friend then go for it, ocd may make you think you are forcing it but all you are doing it meeting a new person and finding happiness in the situation. Ocd is called the doubting disorder so it's very common and natural to doubt if your in denial. What I don't recommend is canceling the trip full stop, you then will be giving into the ocd and letting it have more power! You've got this ❤️
I can't tell her, we're not close enough and I'm scared to see her reaction :( I really want to go to Rome (I'm from Italy) because it's my favourite city, but I'm so scared I don't know
@dafne56 When you think about missing out on this trip does it upset you? Do you feel like it's something you will regret?
@EllieDuffy21 I really want to go to Rome but I don't want to stay with this guy that I don't know, I feel uncomfortable and kinda like a date and for my hocd I'm just not in the mood for this. I don't know if I'm just escaping dating but I really feel uncomfortable.
@dafne56 If you feel uncomfortable then DONT GO. Never put yourself in a situation that you don't want to be in. If you know deep down you won't enjoy it don't go. You would rather an amazing holiday later rather than a rubbish one now. You aren't a bad person for wanting to go. You also aren't escaping dating, you are escaping something you don't feel comfortable with
@dafne56 Would you of felt uncomfortable before dealing with rocd?
@EllieDuffy21 Maybe I don't know, I always didn't like things like that if I have to be honest because it feels like I'm being forced to be with a guy, even if my friend said it's just for company so that I won't be alone, it's not a date, it still feels weird.
@dafne56 Like I feel kinda pressured, I feel like he could hit on me, and even before hocd I only appreciated the company of guys that I already liked, didn't like these combinated things. In fact this fuels my hocd even more, because I think it's not normal to feel this way.
@dafne56 I completely understand. I feel this 100% to I always feel like everything is pressured and I'm being forced or even sometimes forcing myself to like some men but not all. Your not alone
@EllieDuffy21 I never felt like forcing myself to like someone, I just liked people, but I felt that these types of "dates" were too uncomfortable for me, I was not interested in meeting guys that way, so I'm scared it means I'm a lesbian because my friends like to meet new guys like this! :(
@dafne56 People like to meet people in different ways, everyone has slightly different out looks on life and how they do things, this doesn't make you a different person to who you are. And I know what you mean I never forced myself to like people i just got anxious and doubted if I was even though I never have
I’m nervous about an upcoming gathering. I feel like I won’t be welcomed or only invited for the sake of the host being nice. I am afraid of what I will say or do, that others will pick up on my non verbal behaviors like I do with theirs (i.e. a shoulder shift, eye roll, texting each other while I’m right there etc.) and I’m afraid that I will ruin the vibes of the gathering by becoming paranoid. I don’t want my thoughts to spiral so bad that I need to leave and my fiancé is out of town so it’s not like I can escape. I don’t want to be there the whole time but also don’t want to seem rude by leaving early and keep thinking that if I leave early will be a topic of conversation for others there. It makes me want to curl up and hide in the house all weekend and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it for over a week now.
my ocd and anxiety has been so bad a couple of days… so i started liking this guy that i am friends with and we also went to prom together… after prom, i caught feelings for him even more because he’s so respectful and nice… but he is also a boy that acts like one… but overall he’s rlly sweet.. the other day though since we go to the same school we were in the parking lot after school with our friends just talking and socializing… but once he was leaving i went to go give him a hug and hugged me… my other guy friend was with us who’s also friends with him and hugged him too and whispered in his ear and said “yo u and sav would be a good couple” and he nodded saying “yes” (my guy friend told me that) so eventually i told him saying “yeah i like him” blah blah but there is a problem that bothers me so badly… my friend likes him… i didn’t tell her for a while until i think my OCD was just bothering me sm if i didn’t tell her so i told her how i felt and i was just saying like “i don’t want this to ruin our friendship or anything but i have feelings for him…” yada yada… she was like “i understand but if i’m honest with u if u ask him out i will be upset” i’m just like i wasn’t planning to rlly i can’t tell if he rlly likes me anyways but i didn’t say that… i said “i’m just telling u how i feel” and she goes “i mean i would see u guys anyways because u guys are closer” then she says “can i ask u something and a non rude way” and i was like sure…. she goes “since i’m the first person that liked him can i give it a try if it doesn’t work that’s that” and i was like girl idk it’s Gods plan if it doesn’t work it doesn’t if it does it does” and i’m saying that in the most mature and respectful way yk? because i am christian i’ve been praying about it also. so we were good after that but my anxiety and OCD has been so horrible… i’m uncomfortable around them because she flirts with him but i don’t and she did it on ft when i fell asleep on ft and my best friend was on there and had to hear it….she told me that he does it back she just can’t tell if he’s joking or not… but i’m so overwhelmed about it i’m having thoughts like “what if u and him stop being friends” … “what if something bad happens” …. “what if ur not confident in yourself enough where he won’t like you” …. “what if this is a love triangle” i’m just so sick of this and i don’t wanna be so distraught over a stupid boy because i’ve been through sm with my past talking stage thinking it will work but now im like rlly cauious over being in a relationship now…
Not looking forward to this fishing trip! I have two buddies from work that are coming to my town to go fishing. It was all cool and dandy until last minute he said he was gonna invite his oldest and I was like oh cool. Wait? It’s a 10 year old girl. When I heard that I was like “SIGH” inside voice though. Right then and there me looking forward to it was gone. I REALLY don’t wanna be in a group with a little girl. I hate it. Doesn’t matter if we’re in a group, I HATE IT!! I’m bummed out but also wanna have fun but I can’t. Reason why is this all went downhill when I saw his fb profile and had all three of his girls in the pic. And at that time I was getting hit hard with pocd so when I saw that my brain was everywhere with intrusive thoughts, false attraction. All that!! And I hated it. Fast forward, my brain when it realized who it was, basically felt like a “I don’t want to have the same reactions as before, I don’t wanna feel this false attraction” nope nope nope! .it was something I had to go through and now I have to go through it again except this time in physical form. I don’t want to go but how do I embrace it guys?? I’m going blank. My brain goes into a spiral of intrusive thoughts like what if I end up harming her or something crazy! No no no no!!! I hate it!! I hate it!!! I’m not that type of sicko! Honestly, I don’t want to go and I’m not looking forward to it! I just lines “let’s just get this over with this Saturday asap” 😪
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