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I’m convinced I don’t love him anymore and it’s hurting me. I can’t differentiate my feelings and anxiety it hurts so bad

Username: vadavoom

Date posted: 68d ago

I try doing “what if I do love him” and it doesn’t work

Username: lou33

Date posted: 68d ago

i did this a few years back and i’m so happy i stayed it thro..

Username: vadavoom

Date posted: 68d ago

@lou33 My mind is telling me that I’m in the wrong relationship and what sucks is that it feels real, like it really feels like I’m in the wrong relationship and I hate feelings like this

Username: avocadoluver

Date posted: 68d ago

hey. i was in the same situation as you. i told myself i was going to take a “vacation” from feelings for five days. so, for five days i was going to take all pressure off myself to feel any sort of feelings for this person. and by the end of the five days, i didn’t feel any expectation to feel any particular feeling and i wasn’t constantly measuring my love to make sure it was “enough.” i definitely had more clarity and realized i did love this person and that the ocd was stemming from my fear of hurting them

Username: Brendan =]

Date posted: 68d ago

@avocadoluver Interesting. How long ago was this? How are you now?

Username: avocadoluver

Date posted: 67d ago

@Brendan =] hey it was a few months ago. i’ve still struggled a lot with rocd since doing this, but that exercise helped me to realize they were ocd thoughts not real ones. its definitely a lonely thing to go through considering its so hard to talk your partner about. but remember thoughts don’t equal truth. don’t beat urself up over them.