Can’t tell if I’m experiencing ROCD or if I’m genuinely unhappy in my relationship, can anyone offer some guidance to help me figure it out? Or is that against the rules?? I’m not looking to be told what to do or to justify my emotions, simply just trying to figure out what I’m feeling

Rather than starting from a place of evaluating him, start with evaluating your values: make a list of things that are important, must-haves to you in a relationship. It can be anything from the qualities of the person to how they make you feel to how they deal with their shortcomings. Then step back and see if that person seems realistic or if you think getting say 75% of that would meet your needs. Whittle it down to your true “deal-breakers.” NOW take a look at your guy. If you see that yes, he has flaws, and yes, the relationship is sometimes a lot of work and hard, BUT he has the things you consider your must-haves, I’d say it’s just a matter of communicating your needs and working together to improve things. Plus more work on your OCD, of course.

Feelings come and go and are influenced by too many factors to count. Not just him.

That's the kind of discussion you need to have to him. Reciprocal compromise and effort is entirely OK to expect. Different personalities play a factor but if you reach an understanding, it needs to be shown. If you're making the effort to make it work so that he can see that, he needs to do that too. Ocd can absolutely flare up anxiety and that needs to be at a manageable level to consider that some thoughts are worth listening to.

Just because you have OCD doesn't mean legitimate and normal doubts aren't possible. It's entirely possible you both won't be on the same page sometimes. If you manage the anxiety and don't let it overwhelm you, it's easier to see which thoughts mean something to you. All this based on your values and what you want from a relationship. Aka commitment, honesty, communication etc Those are the things that keep a relationship strong and they need to be discussed by every couple. Including us neurotic ones :)

You think your not mentally stable. I have ocd as well I have harm thoughts. About my children. And I’m getting the best exposure cause there dad is never here. Im constantly alone with my kids. I’m forced to get better . I feel like I would get better faster if I wasn’t with him cause he causes me stress.

You should go home a knife wen you have those thought. If u have ocd and anxiety you won’t do it

Hi Daisy, does the Y-BOC help—it asks if you often spending an hour+ each day stressing over them? For non-partners who don’t live up to my standards some day, I complain 15 minutes and move on vowing to depend on them less next time. It’s also not either/or. You could have ROCD AND they’re a poor partner. ;)

Imagine ur self without him/her and see if ud be happy or not

You have the same name as my sister ? and I can’t even think that far, I’ve expressed why I’m unhappy and seeing him sad made me sad, but I don’t know what I’m feeling

I'd say that's feeling checking. Definitely not good. If anything, I'd suggest to see if your needs are being met. And if they're not, if you're willing to reach a compromise together. Values are huge in relationships. Are you living by yours and do they align with his?

Lmao that nice and btw I rlly don’t know what to say u can ask a therapist I might have ocd

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He doesn’t seem to reciprocate the effort and sacrifices I make for us to be together, I know that sometimes personality can restrict why people do or don’t do things, but I feel like that’s my problem and not his, and as I have the problem I have to accept whether or not I’m willing to to be with him and ignore what I want... on the same hand I feel like I should be with someone who loves me for me, and compromising and both sides is mutual and respected. At the moment it seems one sided, I figure this is simply just doubts about a relationship and not OCD

I do have OCD and I am under treatment, but it’s simply figuring out whether it’s my illness or genuine feelings, it blurs into one

I think about leaving my bf everyday. Doesn’t make me anxious because he’s not meeting my needs he’s pissing me off and I don’t really want to b with him anymore . I’m struggling rn bad. N he’s always working. N he doesn’t care at all. Just ignores me. No support what so ever. He’s gonna b in shock wen he comes home one day Amie n the kids aren’t here. I mean moving out.

Feel the same way... ^. Lisa. Although I’m not mentally able to take care of my kids... as I’m always struggling to stay safe.... life is a joke

I have contasnt meltdowns, where I need to leave. If I stay I become suicidal and it’s very hard to cope when it gets bad

Is it suicidal thoughts ? Have you tried medication. It really helped me calm down for my kids. Other wise I probably would have tried to stick it out.

I’ve had a few thoughts but I try not to call them suicidal so it doesn’t stick I guess. I thought about taking all my pills. I had a image of me floating in my hot tub. But I no I would never do these things. I went nnput all mybpills in my hand. Sat there. I put them all back in the bottle and moved on with my day.

Yes plenty. That makes it worse , I feel. The thoughts become more vivid .., and slightly more intense , as well as the moods. I’m stuck w where I’m at, I’ll b miserable cuz I can’t support as far as bills by myself I’ll b homeless , the kid would prlly get taken away cuz I’ll b unstable. Sucks. I’m trapped , so suicide is the way out..

Yea , I have a things w knives and self harm too , but never acted on them too bad... sucks just suffering .. just want to run away

No. Don’t say that. You nonyou wouldn’t turn to suicide. Your just stressed and stuck in the circle. Have you taking medication long enough for it to start working. I had a really hard time in the beginning. It’s subsided n I feel a lot better.

Hold ‘

3 months it hits me hard , and then I switched meds. 17 diff tries , I’m only taking mult vitamins but haven’t been taking them for the past three days and I think that’s what is also screwing up w me too at least a little bit that’s throwing me off

A have I tried celexa or sertraline

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My dr told me that a person with out thoughts is more likely to do the things I’m scared of. That goes for all of us. Our anxiety is a key reminder that we r scared of these things and we would never act on them

I struggle w/ even seeing the thought of it I had to hide them from not seeing them , I was doing good for a while w that, hasn’t been too active too much. Just The suicide , and emotional, and angry ,, etc. the ‘ normal ‘

Yep Zoloft did it for a week but it was always mixed w another pill.

I only had one pill by itself and that was for lamaitcal and that was a yr (only on it for one year ), after I had my child , which brought on the bad thoughts too w my child, three years later it subsided, after I got off the meds ...

Hide the knifes. I use to b scared of knifes to but it was cause I was scared I was gonna stab some one. ( my kids ). But I new I couldn’t hide them my fb wouldn’t let me. So I would just hurry up and put them away. I don’t do that anymore. When I’m cooking I leave them on the counter till I’m done cooking. Or done eating. Then I wash and put away. Face your fears

Zoloft has worked wonders for me. You should try again

I’m up to 150 mg now everyday I feel a bit better. 5 weeks in

Sheesh. I’m scared to try meds again. I’ll get hospitalized again. How many times have you been in the psych ward

I got completely better on Zoloft. But I felt too good I stoped my pills n had a relapse

None

Almost alit if times.

I went to my sr instead. Got some lorazapam. Clonazapam

0?????? Wow you lucky. I’ve been 4 times either coming off pills or on pills when I was on them and had to get put on a hold ..

How long did u have to stay.

My fb been there befor so he would talk me out of it get me to calm down. Take couple lorazapam go to bed.

First time-2 weeks , 2 nd time -4 days , 3/4 times-3 days

Yes I was on Ativan in the hospital last tome as needed. Made me have a panic attack when I was home alone and thought I was dying and I stopped it

That’s not long at all.

You have a thing about taking medications.

Yes , becuz I was a preemie so I’m prlly very sentistve but no drs care so .,

I take clonazapam now and it knocks me out befor I can Evan feel anything lol but I haven’t needed to take it lately. I been so tired

Ask for some clonazapam

I have no trouble sleepin , it’s just during the day ... they always gave me shit for sleeping and I would have nightmares cuz of it that I would end up in Crisis , not normal . Oh well I’ve been off since March so .., I’m ok. When I have my vitamins normally... I guess ???., ?‍♀️

Pills give u nightmares.

You no with some pills you can use some herbs or vitamins

I drank a tea that had catnip herb in it and I have a interaction. Made me feel crazy !! I use awake thought I was losing it. I took 2 1 mg lorazapam n still didn’t knock me out. I stoped drinking that tea n been fine ever since