Does anyone want to connect about ROCD?

@edt do you have discord? :)

@lilyn so do i!

@anonymous_1_2_3_ how would you guys like to communicate?

@anonymous_1_2_3_ maybe we could use discord?

@lilyn sounds good to me! what’s your username?

@anonymous_1_2_3_ i believe it’s @descusted

@lilyn what’s ur 4 digit number at the end of it?

@anonymous_1_2_3_ #1933

@gray1 i didn’t have discord either, i just signed up, it was super quick and easy & you can still stay anonymous! it would be super cool if we had a groupchat and could just all chat away

@nc90 do you have discord?:)

@Brittn20211 I got a thought that phone calls with my gf wasn’t as exciting as phone calls I had in the past with people and it made me feel horrible :( my mind keeps telling me that it’s because I was more excited on the phone with someone else but I love my girlfriend so much and want to spend the rest of my life with her 😞 I hate these thoughts. And what if it is true? What if someone else made me more excited? Wouldn’t that be really bad?

@gray1 are you able to identify that these are irrational/intrusive thoughts? Or are you struggling to define which thoughts are intrusive. Every relationship is different, so some things in some relationships are more exciting than others! But are you able to identify the intrusive thoughts? Are there things you did with past partners that are making you think it was more exciting? Or are you able to identify that it’s irrational

@Brittn20211 I have been able to identify it as irrational before but for some reason my mind just tells me that I’m doing something wrong

@Brittn20211 These also weren’t past partners just people who I was sort of unhealthily obsessed with. Sometimes thinking that it was unhealthy helps me

@gray1 That’s common with ocd, and that happens to me too. I try to recognize that these thoughts are intrusive and move on from them. Are you saying these thoughts are harder to identify as intrusive or not?

@gray1 sometimes a toxic or unhealthy obsession can seem more exciting because it’s toxic and can be more adrenaline or emotionally driven

@Brittn20211 That makes sense and really helped me, thank you for that! But yes, I guess it’s a little hard to identify as intrusive. I’ve identified as intrusive before but I’m not sure why it’s becoming harder to now

@gray1 There’s always ways to spice up a relationship tho if you feel like that’s something you need/want! That’s not a bad thing, relationships can get boring but that’s normal

@Brittn20211 I think this acts up the most when my gf and I are long distance. It never seems to be as hard when we’re together but the thing is that I don’t think it’s boring at all, just exciting in a different way yk? My OCD brain tells me different is bad tho

@gray1 You’re relationship with everyone you meet will be different because every person is different!

@Brittn20211 Thank you so much for your advice. It’s been really comforting to me and extremely helpful.