- Username
- ocdsucksbutt
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Intrusive thoughts are suposed to be the oposite of you!! Your not lesbian and you know it!! It just all anxiety and ocd!! These are all fake thoughts and feelings! You know deep down who you are! The fact that the thoughts are so distressing and unwanted are just prove that you are straight! Go see a doctor!! Medication helps a lot!!
thank you a lot, I’ll keep all of this in mind. just seems impossible to look at boys or girls the same. I can’t see any therapists or doctors because I’d have to tell my family first but I can’t because they would just translate it as I’m gay and they’re super homophobic and won’t understand that it’s just ocd.
i totally agree. the phrase “you don’t choose who you love” gives me SO much anxiety because that means i have no control over it. but i guess that’s what i need to accept; that i don’t have control over it. the worst part is that i feel like my brain is FORCING me to be lesbian, even though i really do not want to for so many reasons. but again, i need to accept that uncertainty. MAYBE i’m gay and MAYBE you’re gay. we’ll never know 100% and that’s ok, we don’t have to. we just have to take it day by day!!
also, i’m in the same boat as you. completely. i haven’t told my parents either and i’m so afraid to because i don’t want them to think that it means i’m gay. it kills me not to tell them, but i really think they’d take it the wrong way. i can just imagine how the conversation would go and i just have a feeling that they won’t understand that this doesn’t mean i’m gay,,, it’s just my brain. i completely understand what you’re going through.
I seriously have never thought about girls until now. It just never crossed my mind. I never liked or had feelings for a girl. And now that I’m constantly questioning everything and picturing everything. It just feels like I like it. It scares me, would I be happy with a girl ?? I don’t want to be with a girl but I feels like I do want this. It’s so confusing. I can’t tell whether this is actually ocd or I’m genuinely attracted to the same sex. I hate this so much !!! It’s like I just completely lost myself and questioned it so much I’ve just become lesbian but some things just don’t make sense. Why would I catch feelings for other boys? Never girls. I don’t know anymore. I’m happy with my boyfriend. Without these thoughts I’d be so good and so much more happy. Now I just don’t fucking know and this hurts so damn bad that I can’t just rest not one day. This is so damn stressful and hurtful to question your identity every single day. Sometimes I seriously just feel like I’m lesbian but I can’t seem to settle on that because I just can’t be. I want to just die. I hate what my mind is doing to me. I hate I have to go through these thoughts alone. I hate everything. I just want to crawl in a hole and never see anyone. I just want to hug my boyfriend and have my thoughts erased. I’ve thought too much and too deep I can’t stop. I’m crying from sadness because I don’t know what’s real anymore and I never in a million years thought this is something I’d have to deal with.
Okay so I have been struggling with HOCD for so fucking long. I never felt like I had crushes on boys growing up but I wasn’t attracted to girls either (this was through 5th grade). Until 6th grade hit. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had the thought walking up the stairs and it was “You’re lesbian.” And ever since that thought was there and I fought it I have been dealing with all types of OCD ever since (been going on for 7 years). And only this year I found it was OCD. But it’s hard because I don’t know if I’m actually gay or I convinced myself I’m gay because I gave up and gave in. Now whenever I see I pretty girl I feel tingling. And I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t a lesbian so I look up pretty pictures of girls with their boobs out and I loved it. And I wanna make out with a girl so intensely. But then at the same I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a girl and I wanna marry a guy and I just desperately wanted to be like by a guy. But I get so horny whenever girls are in bikinis and stuff. But I have OCD and I’m so confused.
I just feel like my hocd isn't ocd. It doesnt feel like I can determine if I like it anymore. It just feels like I like it now and that im trying so desperately to relate to people with it. I want to just cry and crawl into a hole an die. This isnt what I want but it feels like have no choice and I'm trapped. It feels so real that im at a point where I feel like there is no way it cant be real :(
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